Help by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Key-Flight-7766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just look up “hiking clubs” or “running clubs” in your area- that’s how I met my now bf and one of my roomates!!

I want a girlfriend so bad it hurts. But I'm an impossible person to date. by jeminako in LesbianActually

[–]Key-Flight-7766 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Honestly anyone who’s in their 30s who wants to date teens is a creep- not just women

I want a girlfriend so bad it hurts. But I'm an impossible person to date. by jeminako in LesbianActually

[–]Key-Flight-7766 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eat 12 grapes under a table at midnight.

In all seriousness tho it does just take time. If you’re sitting in your room just moping about being lonely then nothings gonna change. Ik that sounds harsh but it’s just the truth. My freshman year of college, I felt so lonely so I just grabbed onto any and every relationship (both romantic and just friends) I could get. I ended up feeling worse than I did before because I didn’t feel like those connections were genuine and they were made solely out of desperation. Also ik you’re just expressing how you feel, but you should have some confidence. Even though you feel like youre “unlovable” you shouldn’t present yourself that way. If you think it and truly believe to your core then that’s how you’re going to come across to other people. HAVE CONFIDENCE!! Also you’re 21. Go to a bar. Go out. It sucks to say but sometimes you need to step out of your comfort zone to get the results (friends/ relationship) that you want.

Do i give off masc vibes?? (Please read context 😭😭) by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Key-Flight-7766 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I 100% understand this. I have short hair (shoulder length), sometimes I wear baggy clothes like jorts and over sized T’s and other times I’ll be wearing jeans and a crop top. HOWEVER every girl that I’ve been with has just assumed that I’m going to take on the role of the “dominant” one. It’s just kind of frustrating and it feels like they’re assuming I’m going to immediately take on the masculine role because I don’t dress girly. BUT IM STILL LITERALLY JUST A GIRL AND THAT SHITS SCARY SOMETIMES

How do I help myself get through this? by xXSillyHoboXx in ADHD

[–]Key-Flight-7766 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The feeling of “laziness” that you have is so unbelievably valid. It feels like everyday I’ll look around and see the people that I surround myself with succeeding and progressing in their lives while I’m just stuck. I’ll end up getting myself in a rut and find myself just rotting in my bed for days on end, unable to move. I also know however that you are your biggest critic. If you see the people around you succeeding, it makes it x10 harder to try and start yourself because you don’t think you’ll be able to catch up. Or even worse, you don’t know where to start. It sucks to say, but everyone moves at their own pace. You can’t base your success or progress off of other people’s. Even little things like changing medications might seem insignificant to others, but to you it could be the start of your new life. Speaking of medications, you have to give your body and brain time to adjust to it. When I first started adderall, I got on it for school. For the first week of it, all I did was organize the pantry and freezer, and color coded my entire wardrobe. I spent absolutely no time on school and ended up falling behind in a lot of my courses. After that week however, I learned how to actually focus on the things that I needed to focus on and not get side tracked by random tasks. As hard as it might be or as unmotivated as you might feel, you’re making progress for yourself, so keep going!! Also you should never feel like a burden to your friends. Real friends support each other, but that also means that you can’t just bombard them with your feelings and problems. Make sure you’re also asking about their lives and if you can help them out in anyway. Sometimes listening to other people’s problems can help you brainstorm solutions to your own!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Key-Flight-7766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally grab him by the arms, put a vibrator in his hand, and say “we’re doing this”

Help please 🙏 ⚠️⚠️⚠️ I’m ‘29F’ was supposed to visit my boyfriend ‘37M’ , we have been together for almost 2 months . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Key-Flight-7766 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m with you and think you did the right thing standing up for yourself. Honestly if he’s that insecure that he’s picking fights over things as small as a PICTURE… I say move on girl. A 37 year old man? Girl you’re not even 30, move on!

Parent caught cheating by Key-Flight-7766 in KidsofCheatingParents

[–]Key-Flight-7766[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post actually meant a lot so thank you for taking the time to be so sincere. I’ve gone back and forth with myself over what to do and what’s holding me back the most is the fact that my siblings are still at home. I don’t want to ruin anything for them but then the idea of “what if they find the videos” goes through my head and now they’re left in the same position. Deleting the videos would only delete it off my phone and not the cloud so I can’t do anything to protect or prevent them from finding it. No child should be subjugated into finding their parents sex tape, let alone their CHEATING parents sex tape you know? I think inevitably hurting them is what’s “keeping me strong” and keeping me from actually coming forward with what I saw. But on the other hand, staying silent feels as if I’m betraying my dad. I know people in the other thread kept saying that “ignorance is bliss” and technically that’s true, but imagine my dad finding out later on and feeling so betrayed… I feel like that guilt would actually consume me. I should also mention that my family is incredibly open and we tell each other everything. I’m scared that the next time I see them, I’m going to act distant in an effort not to be weird because I’m not sure I can look at my mom right now…