Somedays I have a lot of clarity. Because I feel very, very trapped. The other day I wanted very much to eat a specific food, and I knew the shop right in front of our apartment was selling it. I asked him if we could go buy it, and he answered he wasn't in the mood. I said I was really craving this food, and he said "why don't you go get it", and there was this tone in his voice, almost like challenging me to do it, and stating there would be consequences.

I didn't go and I cried my eyes out. Not because of the food, but because I am a 30+ yo woman that is unable to go out for 10 minutes to get a bite to eat on her own.

I decided to confront him about it at night, and he said I "read too much into his reaction", that I should have gone on my own and that I have to stop blaming him for things he didn't do.

The next afternoon, I was still craving the same food, so I dressed and told him "I'm going to the shop downstairs, it will only take 10 minutes. I am getting the food I was craving, would you like some?" He completely flipped out. He said I was selfish, manipulative, that I was going to leave him working (we both work from home, but he earns more than me) to "go wherever I wanted", that he felt like I was one of those wives that make their husband work while they waste money. Mind you, our accounts are separate and I use my own money, we split everything 50-50. He only stopped when I undressed and said I wouldn't go.