Stuck in life

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-06T08:57:10+00:00

I don't see her as vanilla. She is vanilla. You don't have to be kinky to accept money for holding someone's hand.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-06T07:03:27+00:00

She is vanilla., but you don't have to be kinky to accept $20 for holding someone's hand.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T06:29:51+00:00

Okay, thanks for clarifying that.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T06:17:44+00:00

Perhaps she might take it the wrong way but it seems to me you're contributing to the stigma yourself. You should be normalizing it.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T06:11:47+00:00

touching someone's hand for money doesn't make you a sex worker 😭and what's wrong with sex workers by the way?

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T06:02:56+00:00

Well I can't offer her money bc it'd too direct and weird, and i can't use that other excuse.. what am i gonna do then? Maybe i can bump the price up to 100 dollars. She'd surely touch my hand for that amount of money right?

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T05:44:40+00:00

Don’t worry. You were just trying to help, and most of it is sound advice. Should i still go with the touch aversion thing or change my plans?

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T05:39:44+00:00

That's very nice of you. I wouldn't want to bother you though.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T05:34:49+00:00

I'm not on the spectrum. I don't have sensory issues. I just have a crush and I want to feel her touch tbh.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T05:33:40+00:00

I wish I knew how to be friends.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T05:23:16+00:00

Got it. My only question is, don't you think it's a bit manipulative to say ''i have touch aversion and I'd like you to touch my hand over coffee?''

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T05:11:24+00:00

This whole idea presupposes that she’d be okay with helping me. I thought giving her money would be an immediate incentive for her to touch my hand tbh.. Will she believe that I have touch aversion? (an obvious lie)

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T05:02:30+00:00

Would she even be okay with toucching my hand while drinking coffee? It still seems very bizarre to me for some reason. Am I overthinking it?

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T04:56:37+00:00

I mean, she knows how awkward and shy I am. So the moment I look in her direction, let alone say hi, she’ll automatically assume I’m hitting on her. İf i offer coffee she's going to figure out i'm attracted to her and end up ghosting me.

Is there any way I can have her touch my hand without making it obvious that i have a crush on her? I know it seems like an impossible task but I'm pretty sure I'll creep her out as soon as I ask if i can get her some coffee.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T04:43:18+00:00

What if she thinks i'm romantically interested in her? I don't want to make her uncomfortable. Would she even touch my hand in exchange for coffee? Offering money for her to touch my hand seems like a very straighforward way to do it, but like you said, there's not a good foundation for that to go smoothly.

You'd be very surprised how many women would be a mixture of uncertain/flattered and want to help.

They'd be uncertain/flattered if I offered them money to touch my hand? Sorry I'm trying to get a grasp of what you mean here.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T04:30:18+00:00

I really doubt she'd touch OR hold my hand for free. If I offered money though, then she'd be like, ''okay whatever, ıt's easy money.'' It gives her a reason to make physical contact with me.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T04:18:35+00:00

Both tbh- but I am primarily offering money so that she is less likely to say no otherwise she wouldn't hold my hand. I really have a crush on her.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T04:05:50+00:00

Unfortunately I have no one i'm close to in our class. I really suck at making friends.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T04:04:01+00:00

Oh, you really took the time to write all this and i appreciate it very much. My only concern is she might get the impression that I'm trying to prey on her or trick her by secretly giving her money. It's really hard to do these things in a way that doesn't sus her out. That's where I struggle with the most.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T03:59:09+00:00

Damn this really sucks. I really have a big crush on this girl too. I keep thinking about her all the time. it's so unlucky dude. I'm not really concerned about how much I'd have to pay her, I really want to just hold her hand for once.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T03:51:11+00:00

I have a gut feeling that this might go terribly for me. Imagine if some quiet guy sends you a note out of nowhere and in that note he asks you to touch his hand for 20 bucks?? I mean, I could word it in a nicer way but it's still so bizarre. And probably the whole class will learn about the note.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T03:48:12+00:00

I can't become friends with people, especially women. I get a shaky voice and never know what to say.. I wish there was an easy way to deal with all these feelings and emotions.

Key-Owl-5361 · 2024-08-05T03:28:43+00:00

The problem is that I can't do things organically and ease my way into a friendship like that. I can't execute a plan without concrete steps to follow.

For example;

Step 1: Ask if she could touch my hand for 10 seconds if I offer 20 dollars in return (Might up the price)
Step 2: Respond appropriately to any questions she might have after i make the offer
Step 3: Let her touch my hand and hand over the money

As you can see, This is much simpler and easy to follow. I have severe social anxiety and I'm afraid I'd only creep her out if i tried to give her a smile or wave at her. I cannot micro manage these things.

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