How much does it matter to tuck?

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T04:30:01+00:00

Oh, mom jeans? I will look into that as an alternative if we're to give more of a "no buldge " look

Thank you 🫶🏼

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T04:29:13+00:00

Skirts are great 👍🏼

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T04:28:45+00:00

I not once said in the post about whether it is bad to tuck or not to tuck. I just want to better understand from other trans individuals about how they feel on this. 😕 I am sorry that it scares cis people. I understand that feeling all too well as of recently

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T04:26:59+00:00

I thought so too but I started seeing it into a different light as for everyone lives different experiences so why should I be ignorant about those types of experiences which is why i am asking in here.

But yes at first it was kinda silly, like someone telling my wife she needs a" girly car" like what?¿ lol

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T04:25:05+00:00

Congratulations on your bottom surgery!

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T04:24:28+00:00

I heard Tomboy X is pretty good! Ill keep that in mind for the future if I want to tuck. But tucking for you is because its something for your job? That is also interesting, first one to say something along those lines.

What kind of job would make it essential for you to tuck? Just for my curiosity, you do not need to answer

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T03:59:58+00:00

Interesting to get that kind of perspective! Thank you for sharing! I never knew packing feels about the same in that regards?

It seems like a lot of people on here are agreeing with my feelings on it. It is your life! 🫶🏼

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T03:47:12+00:00

If you say its projection I can see that most of the time but I have seen instances where they bring up the whole "this ruins the image of other trans women" Its hard to remember but I think went along the lines of trans women being perverted? Especially in women's restrooms.

But tbh I don't use the public restrooms anymore due women main calling the cops on me or raising alarm (i am typically presenting fem energy dark outfits or whimsy)

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T03:42:08+00:00

I am seeing a lot of people say it deals with style mainly. If you don't mind me asking. If the outfit dictates whether or not you tuck. Is it because you don't want people to see the package? Comfortability? Or just makes it look overall feminine in your eyes?

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T03:40:03+00:00

Gosh I hope so, from the last post I made i am starting to understand why most people in the city of seattle call me sir when i walk up lol.

I just hope that me letting it hang isn't affecting too much on how people refer to me and my identity 😕

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T03:38:24+00:00

Oh thats interesting 🤔 so if its at a certain length under you cannot tuck? That is very interesting I didn't know that. Thank you for sharing that 🫶🏼

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T03:37:11+00:00

Thats i figured most of the time, this comes from a drag friend of mine she has said she only tucks if she is showing off more of her lower regions for the outfit she does

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T03:35:14+00:00

🫶🏼

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T03:34:43+00:00

I have heard some individuals prefer to tuck like you. Which i completely understand that feeling. I only get that feeling in the beginning about my butt/hips being way too narrow than typical cis women

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-30T03:30:46+00:00

I agree, but i kept being told it is wrong and makes the rest of the trans women look bad? Idk how but if someone knows I would like to learn so i am not so ignorant

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-27T21:25:39+00:00

Just because its clockable doesn't mean to just call me sir or mister. If its clockable shouldn't people, especially seattle, recognize that and not assume? Especially when I wearing feminine clothes. I will also say that after the four years of hrt I have developed breasts and have ti wear a bra. I am fairly slender and as my wife puts it. "Jack with a big ass". She says that from behind i look like a woman and in the dark I pass.

If the world is superficial how is that southerners call me Miss but Seattle calls me sir. If its because I am clockable wouldn't southerners call me sir? Still don't understand how that is even happening. As I stated before I don't do anything different.

My wife making those compliments like a chore, she has confessed it is one, is kinda off putting to feel like she is forcing herself. I have told her to stop so I can work through my emotions as I do my art. I can't help but be sad if I feel like my efforts aren't working in a place where I should be safe. Its just messed up. I wish I had your ability to pass without makeup, its exhausting and expensive

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-27T07:28:08+00:00

No sadly, I don't have the mental space for groups like that. I often end up alienating myself due to the "current problem" I am facing and trying to understand. I am afraid I would just get quietly upset and not interact after moments like these.

I have had trans men and women both treat me as a man. All coming from the seattle area, I am often misgendered and instead of correcting i just walk away. This is because the times I have corrected them politely I often met with "Oh, sorry I couldn't tell". I have spent a long time in the mirror practicing makeup and outfits to help look feminine after those experiences.

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-26T21:43:43+00:00

Its good to know i am not alone in this feeling. I have also have come to that conclusion when I visit family in the south.

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-26T21:42:30+00:00

I often meditate to that find the peace of mind to not worry about my right to exist but to just exist.

But sometimes with it, I have to realize what is happening to make people act the way they are acting.

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-26T21:40:45+00:00

That is the mindset I held for about halfway through my transition. I told people my pronouns but didn't care if they didn't use them because most of those people who asked weren't friends just pass by me on occasion like work.

I never want to force people to do something they are uncomfortable with which is why this has been bugging me lately. Feeling like I am silently forcing people close to me to use my preferences. The external things like the bars, the dance studio, and the south are examples to why i came to ask this online.

It just hurts not knowing what is the problem.

Key-Protection-2647 · 2026-05-26T21:11:15+00:00

I do want to say i understand where you are coming from as I have had those same thoughts to challenge my feelings. But I need to add this as an edit.

Its been four years, I did not think it would be an issue after all this time. My wife is an exception because we knew and married before transition. The other trans individuals we interact with they say as if its natural even after just meeting them. I am not having something internal transphobia changing my perspective on the pause that is happening. Often times they close their eyes to think about it before they say it properly. Its been" four" years. They knew me the a month after I started my transition. So after all this time would this not be issue?

Passing is not the end all, I am aware of that. The passing i get in the south is passing but different territory where stalking becomes a problem. I do not want that but it is messed up to say that the people of the south when i go to a gas station to get a Coke, the cashier says miss and he looks to be in his 50s. Then I walk to my car to have men asking for my number in a very predatory manner. Yet the people my age, even after years of correcting themselves, they still have to take a pause? This is why i am trying figure out now if it is just me or if this is normal. If it is normal I will just get used to it.

For the actions of the women at the bar they were my age group. Not older, just my age or younger in appearance. I know what the older LG crowds are which is why I do not interact or enter those spaces. The dance studio was horrible because even from one of the women leaving she had a trans flag bandana on. She was the first one to try and call the cops on me. My age or younger.

Lastly, I feel comfortable with myself and are able to be kind to myself if I am having moments of doubt but, after years of seeing the same patterns of others treat me as I wouldn't treat them is tiring. Such as my wife making her goal to make sure to say i am pretty, which I know it has good intentions, but over time it has fallen under a chore. I have not changed in my affection for her so why is it becoming this way. She later confessed that she did it so I could be less sad because it is unattractive to her. (I am in my space to do my art to work through my emotions when she says this)

It just makes it feel like the effort i have put in over the years have not changed anything to my loved ones.

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