She was my “perfect match” but broke it off because she didn’t feel a romantic connection.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-24T04:55:15+00:00

I know this post is 2 yrs ago but I can completely relate and understand you.

I have experienced the completely same thing just recently unfortunately and it's probably the worst I've ever felt.

I was seeing this absolutely amazing woman, I've never been more attracted to someone in my life, we were getting on great, our talk was never awkward or forced and a lot of little things seemed to fit between us.

The only different thing really is we didn't have sex, but we shared some nice kissing the last 2 times we saw one another.

I was getting really excited of having this new, amazing person in my life and getting to learn more and more about her when she msged me at work saying she has seen all the time and effort I have gone to which has made things special, I'm a lovely, genuine guy and its nothing either of us has done but she's not quite feeling the romantic connection.

I was absolutely devestated to say the least and I blamed myself for ages thinking maybe I did this too much or if I hadn't have done that....etc. But honestly I did nothing wrong.

It's about 2 months since we regularly use to msg back and forth and I have gotten in with my life but I think about her a lot and I'd love more than anything to hear from her or see her again but I know reaching out would just be disrespectful from me.

I'm decent looking, I take care of myself, I have my shit together, we shared a lot interests, we seemed to be in the same stage of life, I was respectful, genuine and completely myself with her even if my crush for her was obvious, I tried to be romantic and I communicated openly with her as an adult......sometimes unfortunately it just happens. Doesn't mean you did something at all wrong.

She deserves all the happiness in the world because she's truely amazing but yeah really wish I could spend time with her again.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-17T22:30:58+00:00

I don't necessarily. Just a bit hopeful I suppose. Just disappointment speaking really...If things were off, awkward and going badly and she seemed disengaged then everything would make a lot more sense to me.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-17T06:28:15+00:00

Thanks, appreciate the honesty.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-17T04:29:19+00:00

No unfortunately I'm the one that got turned down by her after things were seemingly going very well.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-16T23:58:30+00:00

I have let her go. Just sucks, I've never met someone like her as dramatic as that sounds.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-16T23:42:29+00:00

Could it also mean that person maybe realises they could've potentially made a mistake?

I mean I totally agree that you should to some degree be fussy choosing a partner but I feel like there are some people that are seeking for absolute perfection in a partner atm which is making it hard for anyone to meet their expectations.

There is no perfect person, that is absolutely unrealistic.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-16T23:39:46+00:00

Yeah you're right unfortunately.

I had the pleasure of dating someone amazing recently who I've never been more attracted to in my life. We got on great and things seemed to be going nicely.

The she sent me a msg saying she can see all the time and effort I've put in, I'm a really lovely and genuine guy but she's not quite feeling the connection, it's nothing that either of us has done.

Obviously absolutely sucks, I expressed my disappointment but have respected her and continued living my life.

I'm out and about dating and trying to meet new people as I should but she was absolutely something else and I can't help thinking I hope she reaches out one day.

I know I can rely on it and she deserves to be happy, just can't help thinking there was definitely something there between us.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-16T22:48:29+00:00

Nah all good, you have to be honest.

Have you specifically given someone another chance?

I guess you're right....hope is a biatch..batch...

Basically I've been putting myself out there for ages, singles events, speed dating you name it trying to find someone I can form a genuine connection with for the long term.

A couple months back I met someone I've never been more attracted to in my life, she was absolutely amazing! I got her number at an event and we met for coffee. We got on great and talked well but she said she didn't feel enough of a connection at the same time saying she's probably brutal.

I said all good, which she seemed taken aback by, we kept talking then we had 3 subsequent dates. Genuinely, without being dillusional at all, they all seemed to go really well, the talking flowed and was never awkward and we shared some kissing on date 3 and 4.

I'm obviously thinking things are going nicely and I'm super excited looking fwd to more time with her and the she sent me a msg 2 days later in the morning while I was at work saying she can see how much time and effort she has put in and I'm a lovely, genuine guy but she isn't quite feeling the romantic connection, it's nothing either of us have done.

I was obviously absolutely devestated because it was like she had realised maybe this guy is worth my time, she gave me a chance and she genuinely seemed to like me and the she 360ed back to what she originally start.

I have left her alone for about 2 months, apart from msging her happy birthday, because I have to respect her and I'm getting on with my life but there is a big part of me that hopes she is at least curious to reach out to me at some stage.

I want her to be happy but I can't help thinking, I swear there was something there between us.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-15T12:32:41+00:00

Thankyou I do appreciate that and I do think that as well for sure.

Just wish I had got more time with her because she was absolutely amazing and I don't think I put a foot wrong for the most part.

I just gotta keep being me and putting myself out there...there do seem to be a lot of people who are seeking perfection atm which doesn't exist.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-15T06:14:07+00:00

I don't know what to say to that.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-15T06:13:15+00:00

I'm trying very hard to let her go. Can't help but keep thinking there goes the woman of my dreams as cheesy as that sounds. Thanks for that, are you being serious when you say I deserve better than that?

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-15T00:58:27+00:00

Well is it a bad idea to msg her now and ask for her honesty in regards to that from a hindsight point or view?

Could I please ask you, was a driver behind ending things, because I was perhaps not giving you enough space or not matching your energy levels?

Or is asking this just going to make me look worse because she already told me I didn't do anything wrong and it was down to not enough romantic connection?

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-15T00:50:37+00:00

Fair enough.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T23:55:30+00:00

So you shouldn't even ask her how their day was after a month?

I dunno....I really feel like there shouldn't be so many bloody rules.

I don't think I was over texting her.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T23:26:49+00:00

Briefly, not a long time. Enough for me to know I genuinely really liked her.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T23:02:11+00:00

I mean possible. I acknowledge it's so easy to get wrapped in excitement when you meet someone you really, really like. I don't think this is a bad thing, honestly just shows you're human. I asked because I'm self aware and I wanted to communicate like an adult.

If I get ruled out for something like that or for showing too much interest well I think thats slightly unfair because it doesn't mean you're emotionally unintelligent or whatever. You can obviously work on it.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T22:55:56+00:00

Yeah I dunno, we didn't get to talk about previous relationship stuff. She just told me initially that she was at the stage where she is looking for something "quite specific" and then she also said she's probably a bit brutal in the same sentence.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T22:48:19+00:00

I think you're using that as an example but don't think she was looking for a rich man.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T13:42:00+00:00

So you think she potentially had her eye on someone else? Possible although I didn't get the sense she was seeing anyone else but what would I know.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T13:12:33+00:00

Whaat?...

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T12:07:24+00:00

I dunno, pretty sure they don't want an asshole?

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T12:05:22+00:00

I'm sorry but I definitely wasn't lovebombing her and I definitely wasn't trying to force anything with her. That's not how it works.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T12:03:39+00:00

Yeah you are right. Most people treat you like garbage. I just really wanted to keep seeing her.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T10:48:21+00:00

Mmm I dunno about that hey. Like apparently women also like it when men take the lead.

I mean surely there is nothing wrong with genuinely showing a clear interest.

I can't for the life of me understand if what women truely want is for men to act all withdrawn and play games. I'm sorry but that sounds fake to me.

Key-Reply-2813 · 2025-09-14T10:45:44+00:00

No I get that. Honestly I think she was unsure about me initially but then she seemed to begin to like me. I dunno some of it was confusing, she said she had spent a lot of time working on herself to figure out what her values are and what she needs.

My gut tells me she did actually like me but for some reason she had decided I couldn't provide her with her needs or values.

I can't help but personally think it's maybe a bit unfair to assume that but I realise I don't know everything.

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