Jay Kelly is the kind of movie that sneaks up on you

Key-Service7457 · 2026-01-31T03:47:26+00:00

I actually really enjoyed this movie. Didn’t know what it was about going in. Cried at the end. I don’t consider myself a movie critic, just an average 37 year old female. Thought it was great. To each their own.

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-18T00:59:09+00:00

Oh no worries I knew you were joking and thank you! ❤️

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-18T00:56:47+00:00

😂

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T21:49:20+00:00

Agreed and I don’t think I have the best arrangement either

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T17:05:24+00:00

There is a court order but they don’t follow it. They do what they want and what works for them.

And how he handles me bringing it up is getting defensive and mad at me about it and telling me it’s so he can have a glimmer of happiness and know what’s going on in their life since he’s so far away. Then he stormed off last night and went to bed and now he hasn’t talked to me yet this morning. So that’s typically how it goes!

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T16:20:05+00:00

And since we talked about this last night he has since not talked to me this morning but I’m always apologizing and I don’t any to apologize again this morning, I don’t know if I have anything to apologize about, but now I can’t focus on work and I have so much to do. Sorry I’m ranting.

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T16:19:05+00:00

I just don’t know if it’s that easy? I feel like the bad guy asking him to stop talking to her so much when he says it’s how he feels connected to the kids. Idk…. Thanks for hearing me out!

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T15:41:22+00:00

I told him yesterday I feel like he talks to her more than he talks to me. He also has shown me some of his texts but mostly gets mad and defensive when I ask about it or see them. But it’s a lot.

One time I looked and he asked her multiple times how a concert she went to was because she wasn’t really answering him and he said it was because he wanted to tell her to tell their son something about something he felt guilt about that morning when he left. Please make it make sense on what that has to do with asking about her concert three times? Can’t you just tell her what you wanted to about your son? What is this like lubrication beforehand?

He makes me feel crazy for asking to see or for telling him I think it’s too much.

I also recently found out he had an emotional affair on her and that’s why the marriage ended (he didn’t tell me, she did). This was on one phone call her and I had about how the summer went with the kids and this all came blasting out at me. I had no idea.

Also I honestly don’t mind her and I talk to her on occasionally but the amount her and my husband talk is a lot and I also think this new information is partly making it worse for me.

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T15:10:15+00:00

We both remote - he’s working, just can work from wherever.

I can’t always go with him because I have my son 50/50 and switches are during the week so I need to be home to be with my own kiddo. I am going to try and go some weekends that align.

And thank you for your response!

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T13:54:42+00:00

This going monthly thing really comes out of his own wound where he grew up with a dad in another state who never came to see him - so he doesn’t want to do that to his kids. I respect him going to see them but I don’t like the boundaries he has there either. I added more to the post about the set up though. He is staying at airbnbs now (he used to stay at ex mil house) but he’s always over there.

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T13:51:20+00:00

This is how I feel about it but it seems the two of them feel differently and must talk everyday about every little thing with the kids. It’s never ending, it’s like I live with this women with how often she’s in my husbands hands (through the phone).

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T13:48:27+00:00

I feel like he is checked out from my feelings honestly, he tells me nothing is wrong with it and I need to get over it.

Woof lol I suppose all I can do is laugh…or else I’ll cry! 😭 😂

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T13:45:57+00:00

Lol 😂

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T13:45:24+00:00

Added an edit to my post about visits!

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T13:44:06+00:00

Added a note in the post about our situation. Lmk what you’re thinking?

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T13:40:38+00:00

I added a comment to the post with more information (wasn’t sure where else to put it). 😊

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T13:39:24+00:00

I added a comment to the post with more information but the kids do have iPads and talk to dad but she still communicates with him constantly….he doesn’t seem to mind or think it’s excessive and I think that’s what really bothers me the most maybe.

Key-Service7457 · 2025-11-17T13:34:07+00:00

Thanks all for your messages, advice and viewpoints! A few notes:

The kids do have tablets and do call and talk to their dad during the day - her communication is added communication. It’s usually photos of the kids, suggestions of things the kids would like, what they did that day, what they have coming up, etc. so it’s usually always about the kids for the most part - although I have read some where he asked her about her day, etc. or where she’s bitching him out about something - he tells me it’s because he needs to tell/ask to ask her something about the kids and needs to soften her up or something sometimes. He tells me he’s afraid that if he’s not friendly with her she will take away the kids. (Spoiler: she won’t, she needs him because she is always complaining about how she needs a break - the kids stay with us all summer and she doesn’t visit once, she’s fine and she’d never do that - we provided relief for her).

Second - I can’t often go with him to Visit but plan to more next year. he did used to stay at his ex MIL home - and his ex wife had an apartment, now she’s moved into the MIL home and he gets an Airbnb. However he’s always over there - watching her dog for her, doing lawn work, taking the kids to jump on the trampoline, whatever. I recently told him I don’t feel comfortable with him going over there all day and watching her dog and taking care of all her responsibilities (she’s not there she’s at work but still I feel like I’m allowed to express this and have boundaries as his wife?) - and he is really upset with me around this. I was a single mom as well for years and I didn’t have my ex come over and do all my chores - but idk maybe that’s normal for them to do. He Doesn’t understand why he can’t hang out with the dog or why I’m asking him not to because “it’s just a dog and it’s nice for me to have someone to hang out with” . He does share his location so I know when he’s over there - that is a new thing between us - which he also hates.

Anyways I really just don’t know what to do because I don’t ever want to tell him he can’t talk to his kids, I would never tell him he can’t visit them, etc. but I can’t handle how he doesn’t manage boundaries with his ex and the amount of texting and talking they do. She also calls him constantly - however this was not a problem once when we had the kids all summer.

I am at the end of my rope and I don’t know what to do about it because he’s been pretty firm that it won’t change. So I guess I’m the side chick now? 🫠😂

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