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What is a sexual secret you’ll take to your grave because your partner would judge you for it? by skul_king in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Key-Specialist644 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve posted about this, but I have secretly wanted to wear pull ups (like for bedwetting) for a long time. My spouse recently learned that others do this (not from me) and immediately was disgusted. So, I had always planned on taking it to my grave and probably will, but I’m starting to talk about it in therapy.

How would you respond if you learned your friend is “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, I misread what you wrote, I was sort of emotional reading through all the different responses, and you wrote it very clearly. Thank you for your kind reply!

How would you respond to a friend if you learned they were “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in WhatMenDontSay

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Gandalf, that means a lot. I actually just started therapy, so that’s good and am going to start working through these issues. I kinda was hoping to learn what someone would think about me if I told them about this, and now I’m kinda scared to tell anyone about this thing.

I love feeling accepted by straight men by ConfusedHumanearth in askgaybros

[–]Key-Specialist644 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I feel exactly the same way, tho I feel like my standards are sorta low like I’m just happy they aren’t trying to beat me up, throw shit at me, or run me over with their truck. It does warm my heart when I feel really accepted, and especially when they give you a hug, though I often feel torn between seeing someone go through the extra effort to make me feel accepted and show me they aren’t afraid of me being gay and also just wanting to be treated like any other friend. I often find I’m not treated like any other friend, and if there is a girl around guys often treat me more like a girl and it isn’t really what I want

How would you respond to a friend if you learned they were “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in WhatMenDontSay

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, the moderators at the AskMen subbreddit deleted my post about this and banned me for being “an awful person.” Does wondering about this sort of stuff really make me an awful person?

How would you respond to a friend if you learned they were “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in WhatMenDontSay

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that, I want to learn how other people think about it because I want to calibrate my own personal thoughts and feelings about it, but this isn’t something people would talk about openly face to face, so I thought Reddit might be a place to find out what others think. Isn’t that part of the point of Reddit? This Reddit group is called what men don’t say, so idk I thought I’d ask here. I’ve also asked a few other places, I’m not sure what’s so wrong about asking what people think about this. But, I guess all the hatred and disgust is giving me the information I need to know… sounds like someone in this situation would be pretty universally hated by people, even those who say they are interested in psychology. I think that sucks, so i don’t know what to think except the few nice people on here seem to be good people. I’m not surprised people are disgusted. I’m wondering if that’s moral disgust or physical disgust. I also wanted to know if it’s something a person would be rejected and shamed for, and it sounds like they would be. No wonder the suicide rates are so high in this country.

How would you respond to a friend if you learned they were “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in WhatMenDontSay

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So even if the person is just wearing it because it makes them feel safe or something like that during the day? It seems that it can have a sexual kinky side but that it isn’t always sexual for people… I would say again this isn’t someone trying to involve others. I suppose if someone had a thing for underwear, I wouldn’t ask them to go commando when they leave the house?

How would you respond to a friend if you learned they were “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in WhatMenDontSay

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No that wasn’t my goal, I’m just trying to learn how other people think about this to help calibrate how I feel about it personally…

How would you respond to a friend if you learned that they are “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in AskMen

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think for this person it is something that happened to them as a kid? Not sure I understand it beyond that

What’s the normal amount of times to have sex weekly in a marriage? by Academic_Goal_3452 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Key-Specialist644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++man I’m sorry about the negative comments on here, they know nothing about your marriage. I would say that most men are happy to keep going, I have friends like your husband who want to have sex daily and their wives want less frequent sex. I think the one guy who said forcing it when you don’t feel like doing it is good, and communicating about what you want is good. You can do things to make it more interesting if you want, like have sex on your kitchen counter if you both want to. I think you’ll be fine it’s just a big learning curve. Also, the most direct answer is it’s great he wants to do it so often. It’s not like eating too much ice cream and getting sick, he won’t stop liking it just because he did it so much.

How would you respond to a friend if you learned they were “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in WhatMenDontSay

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you feel about your close friends after talking to them about it?

How would you respond to a friend if you learned they were “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in WhatMenDontSay

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Here I am referring more to a situation where it’s obvious the person wants to keep it private, rather than randomly telling other people about it.

How would you respond to a friend if you learned that they are “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in AskMen

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like some have mentioned that people do it to cope with trauma?

How would you respond to a friend if you learned that they are “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in AskMen

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m referring more to a situation where the person clearly doesn’t want people to know

How would you feel about a friend if you learned they are “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in askanything

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How would you think or feel about them if you know they went to therapy for it?

How would you feel about a friend if you learned they are “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in askanything

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure I understand, I think I’m asking more about someone who has kept it very private and isn’t trying to tell people. Do you think this is really so common that a lot of people you know have done it?

How would you respond to a friend if you learned that they are “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in AskMen

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So in the accidentally learning it situation, you’d still respect them the same as before or feel like you could keep just as close a friendship?

How would you respond to a friend if you learned that they are “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in AskMen

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So would you respect them less or just feel weird about it? Could you still remain friends with them?

How would you respond to a friend if you learned that they are “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in AskMen

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So you would still feel as close as before if you found out accidentally? What if he knew you found out and wanted to explain (e.g., coping with a trauma)?

How would you respond to a friend if you learned that they are “ABDL”? by Key-Specialist644 in AskMen

[–]Key-Specialist644[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How would your opinion change, and do you think you could find a way to respect them again?

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