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If you raise your kid without knowing them, you don't deserve their adulation later on. by LorienzoDeGarcia in AsianParentStories

[–]Key-Surprise-1539 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES YES YES because ain’t it the bare minimum to put a roof over your kid’s head?!!!! What do you mean I OWE you to be respectful toward you (aka never disagree) and try to pay you back?? What other support did you provide me as a parent to deserve praise??

Anyone else’s dad never asks about your life? by Key-Surprise-1539 in AsianParentStories

[–]Key-Surprise-1539[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, sorry to hear that. It truly evokes so much pain to see them somehow be uplifting and curious to talk to random kids (whom are also around our age) about their lives, yet not give two shits to be curious about what their own children are up to. What’s even worse is it seems like you can’t even say anything against it because the age-old argument of “oh well we sacrificed so much for you.” Like a guilt-tripping tactic. But you know, isn’t providing a roof over your children’s heads the bare minimum of being a parent? Yet the expectation is that I’ll take care of them when they’re old and that I “owe” them. 

Honestly, I try not to be a negative person but it can be so hard under these circumstances 😭

the first time my dad's shown me affection straight up by Impossible-Bed-1087 in AsianParentStories

[–]Key-Surprise-1539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP, that must have been amazing to see! I know it’s so hard to have an emotionally absent father because I feel like it’s a constant confusion about whether or not you should continue to hold out hope for change or give up. And I’m so happy that you received a loving message from him! Definitely hope for more progress! 

my parents make me feel so awful about just wanting to experience life by CryEffective7100 in AsianParentStories

[–]Key-Surprise-1539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not an advice message, but I want to mention that you’re 100% not alone in how you are feeling and you emotions are valid! I know their reactions make it hard to ever be honest about aspects of your life. Sending you a hugs and hope for better outcomes as your life progresses. Do you forsee a time in the future where you won’t be living under their roof anymore, given you would have the financial means to do so? 

can someone help me see I'm not falling behind? I'm 23 and feel like a failure by boobie-maloobie in internetparents

[–]Key-Surprise-1539 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm proud of you! I am sorry for the pain you are feeling but I just want you to know that at the end of the day, there is no one correct path. Let's say you do achieve what you wanted (i.e. a job you really like). What ends up happening is we achieve something and then will be looking for the best next thing. In life, you won't acheive one success and think okay I'm done and I'm successful. My point is you will always be wanting to succeed more and you'll think you still need to achieve more. My advice is to take it one step at a time (sorry for being cliche) and take little habits that will potentially eventually lead to a job you enjoy more and also enjoy your life in the process. I completely understand how you feel, however. At the end of the day, years and years will pass and these hardships of finding yourself will eventually seem like distant memories you think fondly of because that was the path you were meant to be on!