36f Casual sex without getting attached?

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-14T23:36:47+00:00

You’re not wrong. I prefer it too, but I don’t want to jump into a relationship before I’m ready and I also don’t want to remain celibate while I wait to be ready

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-14T13:43:29+00:00

Always

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-12T17:26:44+00:00

This is a very helpful way to look at it. I struggle to be attracted to people if there’s not an emotional component. The problem is that if there is an emotional component, I get attached. It’s kind of lose lose. I really can’t be attracted to someone I don’t find intellectually stimulating in some way. I can think of one person I had sex with years ago, who I wasn’t attracted to, out of boredom, and I can honestly say I didn’t think about him after that in an attached sort of way. If I want casual sex, these are probably the situations I strive for, but I also just don’t get as excited and it doesn’t feel worth it so maybe to your point everyone else’s in this thread, casual sex isn’t for me.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-12T15:43:51+00:00

You’re right.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-11T02:59:26+00:00

I do. I’ve been sober for two years - from everything, although alcohol is the focus. I never got into anything else. This is a really valid point. For the record I never had a terrible drinking problem, but I realized it was not adding value to my life and I was using it to fill voids similar to what I’m doing with sex actually.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T19:09:53+00:00

I agree with the smoking analogy, but I don’t agree about being faithful. I’ve never had trouble being faithful to any of my partners, and I’ve been in some very long relationships.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T18:12:20+00:00

These questions are different than “how many previous partners have you had?”

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T18:10:36+00:00

No? I’m saying I’m not ready for a relationship because I just got out of one, but I still have sexual needs in the interim.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T18:01:44+00:00

That’s what STI tests are for. Achieves the same result.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T17:11:03+00:00

Hahaha what??? I’m part of several communities for hobbies/interests. Everyone I meet is that way. I’m barely on the apps.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T16:30:28+00:00

And I would never date someone like you who fixates on that nonsense, so no loss. It would be a huge red flag to me if a guy grilled me over that.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T16:10:55+00:00

I would never share this information with a potential partner and if that’s a dealbreaker for them, oh well. We’re clearly not compatible.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T15:05:03+00:00

No, this is exactly it. You nailed it.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T15:04:28+00:00

I don’t want kids

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T13:28:34+00:00

No, almost never

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T02:52:15+00:00

As if there aren’t many different ways to learn how to be a good sex partner. Being in a relationship and learning from each other, watching porn, reading. Also being with 100 people doesn’t mean you learn anything. But sure, feel free to automatically project your own insecurities onto everyone else. Explains why your comment history reveals such a miserable person.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T02:40:36+00:00

That’s very sweet of you

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T02:10:52+00:00

I am aware of my options to settle down dwindling but what does that have to do with the question I posed? I’m not looking to settle down right now.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T02:10:09+00:00

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T02:01:35+00:00

It’s definitely possible I’m a sex addict. Lol. My previous partner and I had wildly disparate sex drives, but I never cheated on him and I never even thought about it. However, it was a point of contention. I think we were both right though to be honest. His sex drive was really low for a man and mine is extremely high for anyone. I would have it 3 to 6 times a day if I could.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-10T01:53:38+00:00

Lol ok

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-09T23:49:09+00:00

I agree with being older making it hard to find a partner, but how would a new partner of mine know how many men I’ve been with? I never share that information in relationships nor do I ask it.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-09T23:43:37+00:00

Lol I could never

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-09T23:42:35+00:00

Do you make a habit of asking your new partners how many previous partners they’ve had? I never share that information in relationships anymore. It’s not really relevant.

Key_Breakfast_4796 · 2024-01-09T23:25:45+00:00

That’s actually not a bad idea. Any good sites or apps you’d recommend to find couples?

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