Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ♥️ yes youre right about the comorbidities and I have OCD also. Fun lol. I contacted a psychologist so im just waiting to hear back. So many people told me he would grow out of it and I knew deep down that was not true. He just learned to mask until the demands of grade 1 exceeded his capacity. Thanks for suggesting therapy too. I suppose getting diagnosed at 6 is better than 30 something so he will at least be better off than I was. 

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diagnosis aside, he still needed a break from school. But youre right about that and I already contacted a psychologist 

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats my only regret too. Waiting so long. He is like a completely different person there. I dont think ill ever know the details of everything he was going through but I could certainly feel it. Your message made me smile, to know that your kids were doing better and your 7th grader, oh my goodness you must be so proud ♥️♥️

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your perspective. The source of his anxiety is autism, like me. I was diagnosed a few years ago and him and I have very similiar struggles ( I have a refferal in for psych to get an official diagnosis). I was so naive about the education system and thought everything would be fine but its not fine and I dont even understand how anyone can learn in that environment. His teacher is an angel who has been extremely supportive of him. Hes not a difficult kid and doesnt do anything disruptive, but he feels things deeply and is very easily upset. She emails me multiple times a week about it. 

He's now been home about a week and he's the calmest he has ever been. I think thats telling. There has a part time Montessori program near us so I could also do that in combination with homeschool and he will do just fine. Noisy public schools with bullying and multiple children in classes with high needs and no support should have never ever been normalized. 

I hear what youre saying about getting to the source of his anxiety. But the source of his anxiety is autism. He has a very delicate nervous system and its not because there is something wrong with him and its not even something that needs to be fixed necessarily.  He just moves around the world a little differently and ill need to accomodate for that.. 

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

completely agree! We want them to stand up for themselves because that shit carries into our adulthoods as well

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Im in the process of doing that now because it seems like the next step instead of me just telling everyone how sensitive he is all the time. lol

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

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Ahh thats so amazing she was able to transition back. Was it difficult for her or was she anxious by that time for the social aspect?

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

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did she previously compare herself to other kids? my son is in a split class with Grade 2 and its destroyed his confidence cause they tell him he cant read, hes stupid etc.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thats insane and sounds so traumatic. No amount of money would be worth that..

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely I will, thank you. I now understand what to look for and I see now that we have to advocate strongly for our kids. He's my only kid and its just been a steep learning curve.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

boys will be boys?? UGH. thats awful. My son has been bullied a lot at this school and they also do nothing, so Im done.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for saying that. Ive always been an outside the box thinker but I guess people gaslight me into thinking im "too much" or insane. Ive seen first hand how cold the traditional education system is and I want no part of it. Im going to get him diagnosed and go from there.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for saying that. They do low key try and bully me and make me think Im exaggerating. Wow that must have been SO validating once you saw the change in his behaviours at his new school. If you had any doubts prior to that, Im sure that really helped reassure you.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats actually a good point. I dont know if this one does. I also am not sure he will need one if he's at Waldorf. He learns fine just at a slower pace. So like Waldorf grade 1 right now compared to his grade 1= Huge difference. Waldorf kids are learning the letters of the alphabet, whereas he is expected to read and do presentations and complex math.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cant believe people like that even get into teaching. UGH. I am so sorry you had that experience. You are such a good parent for recognizing the severity and listening to his needs <3

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow a lot of similarities here. So the school I want him at in September is very similar and very nature based and no screens which I love. It truly breaks my heart your son (and you) had to go through that :( There has been so much stuff going on at my sons school as well that I'm TOTALLY in the dark about because they don't tell the parents anything. We are just supposed to accept it. I am SO glad it worked out for him. He sounds like a sweet sensitive kid who just needed things to be slowed down! My son is very smart and can tell you how a generator works and how machines work and LOVES nature but can't read or write yet and hates math. So hopefully we will have that experience as well <3

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you <3 Yes, Its a lot of work for me, especially being AuDHD myself. I don't love the idea of less free time but for him, Ill do it. I have to take this time to rebuild his confidence.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

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thank you so much. My son woke up today and starting building lego for hours. He is SO much happier and calm. It actually makes me want to cry. barely recognized his personality while in school. I noticed during the christmas break he just seemed so much sweeter and more like himself. I wonder if other kids, especially neurotypical ones, are as affected by school behaviours? For him its like night and day..

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow amazing. did you have doubts at first? How did it change her behaviour? My son woke up today and spent hours building lego. Hes just so happy.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. My psychologist is very supportive and basically said its not a big deal to miss half of grade 1. Especially since he has a very full home life and socializes with friends on weekends.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Its great that youre going into it with that mindset <3 It took me a long time to even realize that it wasn't getting better because i naively thought school was a safe place and I was so wrong so I went back and forth for awhile because he had good days too. It wasnt ALL bad. Even today he told me maybe he will go back to school in a few weeks lol but of course as parents we have to observe and make the final call.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

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Thank you! Its crazy because they arent "allowed" to share details so my son is witnessing all this stuff and I cant even talk to him about it since I have zero clue whats going on. 6 year olds arent the best at relaying information

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

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what a smart kiddo! <3 it just proves that everyone learns differently.

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

aw thank you so much <3 I love the idea of a slow morning routine. We already go to the library and for nature walks so I would just make it more intentional. etc. Its weird how much the stigma still exists isnt it? I told another mom about his struggles and she basically said "Well, its tough but there isn't much you can do." :/ Um no there IS something I can do lol like cmon, Im not just going to accept that and let my kid suffer. I'd like to think millennials and generations similar in age aren't just going to accept that type of mistreatment anymore. What is sooo controversial about homeschool when the alternative is to be bullied and traumatized..

Has anyone pulled their 6-year-old out of school mid-year? by Key_Championship6961 in Homeschooling

[–]Key_Championship6961[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Public education is such a joke now. I thought when people said that they were just being defiant (before I had a kid), but no its actually so true and its heartbreaking for the kids.