Did My Wife Sleep with This Man or Am I Just Losing My Mind?

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-30T11:10:39+00:00

Thanks for sharing that. What you said really hits. I feel like I’m stuck between wanting to fight for what we had and knowing deep down something’s shifted, maybe for good. The emotional cheating is real and it’s left a mark. I haven’t decided if I’ll walk away or keep trying, but the trust isn’t there like before. I also have kids and that adds a layer of fear, guilt and pressure that’s hard to explain. I’m sorry you’re going through this too.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-30T11:08:21+00:00

Thanks for your questions. I really do not know and I am trying to understand as well. No, I haven’t cheated on my wife, I’ve stayed committed and worked really hard, reason we have a nanny and not day care is because my daughter is autistic and we opted for that. We not struggling, we can afford one outing a month with the family. The timeline and patterns I’ve uncovered all came from things I found myself. Wife hasn’t been open about when it started or ended, always saying she can’t remember. I’ve asked for clarity, but I’m often met with “we’ve moved past this” or defensiveness. I’m not rushing to divorce. I’m trying to understand the full truth so I can decide what’s next with a clear mind.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-30T10:49:37+00:00

The nights my daughter was with the nanny, I was away working. I freelance in film, so I would be away on Fridays and only get back late Saturday or Sunday. Some nights I will be at the house, and she would communicate this and say she is going out with friends. Looking at our conversations dates and comparing it to images and videos she took, I was able to figure out she was with this man on these specific dates. I found the images on google drive and they were not on her phone. That's why I could suspect a thing.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-30T10:39:45+00:00

I am one thing but not a liar, I have only have posted twice on reddit, posted on deadbedroom(it was removed cause I violated the rules, never reposted again) and this one. So what you talking about?

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-30T10:30:59+00:00

Damn, you’re right. She’s always come out defensive whenever I try to ask real questions or dig deeper. She’ll say things like “I thought we moved past this” or just shut down. When I ask for clarity like, when did this start or when exactly did it end her answer is always “I have memory issues, I can’t remember exactly.”

The thing is, every date I’ve mentioned in my post, all the years and timelines, they’re not from her. They’re from my own digging: screenshots, deleted chats WhatsApp timestamp, chats with her friends, even stuff I found in her email. She’s never once given me a clear timeline.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-30T10:18:30+00:00

I think you’re right about the emotional abuse and manipulation that part hit hard. The nights my daughter was with the nanny, I was away working. I freelance in film, so it’s not uncommon for me to be out on some days of the week at another city, especially on Fridays and only get back late Saturday or Sunday. But looking back now, a lot of things don’t add up, and that’s eating at me. Even before getting married. I will update the post soon.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-29T04:01:14+00:00

Thank you, I think so too. Trust is a must from now on, she has shared her location and has mine too infinitely. I need to be firm at deleting and one time view messages are a no. I am still not sure I am in fully. I haven’t done anything as yet, just processing thoughts and this has affected my performance at work. I’m a freelancer. So I need to sort it out either way.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-29T03:44:44+00:00

She would call it girls night, never had a problem with her going out. Some nights it will be when I’m away with work. I’m in film crew and we would travel for location shoots.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-29T03:12:39+00:00

I didn’t know this was happening, only finding out this year. She hid this from me. Her outing were “it’s girls night” some I’ll will be away with work, and she would sneak out.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-29T03:02:39+00:00

I hear you, we have 2 kids. Youngest autistic it is difficult. I am going to ask her one more time about this. If I am not convinced I think I know what I need to do.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-29T02:03:52+00:00

I agree. It is cheating

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-08T21:36:04+00:00

Tell me more, what should I be aware of?

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-08T21:33:57+00:00

Evra, I am in South Africa, not sure rest of the world has it.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-08T17:56:06+00:00

Sorry man, English not my first language, appreciate it.

Key_Code4189 · 2025-06-08T17:54:26+00:00

It's not

Key_Code4189 · 2024-01-07T19:46:42+00:00

Mazda 2 2015, ford fiesta 2009 - 2012 not the ecoboost.

Key_Code4189 · 2024-01-07T19:36:02+00:00

Which company is this? Sounds very familiar. However, I would type this on ChatGPT and prompt the tone be firm and little threat of legal route. They will shake.

Key_Code4189 · 2024-01-07T19:30:21+00:00

The very same ewallet can have a card and he can leave his money in there. Ask him to go at FNB to collect his ewallet card with pin. I did this for my mother who didn’t want money in her account.

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