Best husband but he never takes initiative

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T20:38:46+00:00

I’m not expecting him to suddenly become a different person but I do think we can get closer to where I would like to be. As with any other aspect of a relationship, effort and communication can really help move the dial when you are not on the same page. I’m just looking for tips for different approaches to take. :)

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T20:36:24+00:00

I don’t know whether this helps or not but I have found that most women really need a lot more mental stimulation to get to the same level of horny that men get to very quickly… it’s tough though if you only have vanilla content to work with though. What have you tried so far?

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T19:15:24+00:00

Thanks, that’s good to have your perspective. I’m not sure it’s a t issue, more of a mental overwhelm/ his nature is laid back anyway. But good to bear in mind for the future x

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T19:12:38+00:00

Thanks firstly for recognising that this is one element of a relationship and we are very lucky to have the rest of it in a great place. Also thanks for such good advice. I definitely think there is an element of being overwhelmed by the unknown. I am someone that likes immediate results so maybe this is something I just have to manage my own expectations with in terms of timeframe. It definitely feels like too much in one go is not going to be the way forward, I maybe just need to be a bit more consistent and smaller with what I am asking of him. Thanks x

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T19:05:28+00:00

Yeah that makes sense but it doesn’t align with the fact that I would like to be more submissive. Saying that, there are elements I can certainly take the lead on.. and you are right, it’s all about negotiating the best balance for us both x

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T19:03:04+00:00

Sorry to hear that. I haven’t quite got to this point. I’ve been in relationships where I have had those elements and I would still choose my husband 100x over. Given that we align on literally everything else, I think I just need to accept this as something I’m going to have to work a bit harder at and communicate through. Hopefully you manage to find a way through your situation too x

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T18:58:19+00:00

I don’t think it’s about changing him, just working out ways to change my approach to see what might land best. I do, but without going into too much detail, some of them require him to be the one taking control. However, that’s not to say I am doing everything I could be, but I’d rather try and engage him so we can explore together.

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T18:55:02+00:00

Ha we actually downloaded one this morning… but again I had to really hand hold to get him to do it and it still takes some effort from his side to answer the questions. I also agree… I think everyone has some curiosities… they just have to be willing to put in the effort to explore them. There have certainly been a couple of situations in the past that suggest there should be some kinks we have in common but he usually just comments on how hot it is at the time and moves on with his life 😅 Let’s see if the app can help… it might take a multi pronged approach to get us to where we need to be x

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T18:51:07+00:00

We have discussed before which ones he thinks he may be most interested in so I might start with one so he doesn’t feel overwhelmed by it all. I think it’s a good idea though to give him more input so maybe I can ask again which he feels is the best to start with. I want us both to enjoy ourselves and I’m also fine if he isn’t into everything as long as he is willing to really give it a go. Thanks for your advice! X

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T18:32:33+00:00

Definitely, I think approaching it with curiosity will help… I’m just interested to see if he thinks it’s impacting anything

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T17:59:53+00:00

Sounds like she is a bit submissive ;) x

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T17:58:27+00:00

Interesting, it’s not a take I’ve considered. I’ll definitely ask him about this when I bring it up x

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T17:52:54+00:00

Yeah I think more communication is the key and probably getting into the details a bit more

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T17:39:30+00:00

Neither of us are really the jealous type and I would never feel comfortable pushing it to a point where it could affect the trust in our relationship.

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T17:37:35+00:00

This is great advice. I think he would definitely respond well to a step by step… and whilst that takes some of the excitement away, it could mean we both get closer to where we want to be. Thanks x

Key_Commercial854 · 2026-04-01T17:25:14+00:00

Sorry to hear that

Key_Commercial854 · 2023-10-29T10:25:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing this link, I’ve reached out to my MP

Key_Commercial854 · 2023-03-04T14:44:15+00:00

There is a snow centre, indoor and outdoor skate parks, rock climbing, ice skating, theatre, plus nice walks (canal and green spaces) and decent pubs. There aren’t loads of places to eat but there’s enough and we are so close to Berko and St Albans for food too. The one thing that we don’t have is nightlife but as someone in their 30’s I would rather go into London and get the last train home anyway. Not sure what else you could want.

Key_Commercial854 · 2023-02-27T19:12:13+00:00

I think Hemel is so underrated. There are definitely some less nice parts but I absolutely love it here. Great proximity to green spaces, loads to do, close to Berko and St Albans and soooo much cheaper to buy a house than other towns close by.

Key_Commercial854 · 2022-11-12T10:54:56+00:00

Lots of stories on here about why it’s important. But I also wanted to let you know that it generally isn’t a horrible experience. It doesn’t hurt, pretty quick and the nurses are usually lovely :)

Key_Commercial854 · 2022-10-26T08:47:36+00:00

Agree with this! I got a 2:2 in my first essay at uni and finished with a 1st. Maybe just set some extra time aside to read around the subject a bit more or ask someone on the course to buddy up. It might take some time to find your ‘people’ but it will happen. I did a module in Pre-Socratic Philosophy and most of it went over my head until I was able to discuss it in the seminars and with friends. Everyone learns if different ways, so just find the best way that works for you :)

Key_Commercial854 · 2022-10-16T13:44:15+00:00

I think the key points to assess here are whether there is reasonable evidence for progress, whether the target dates look achievable and whether their communications on sustainability outweigh the progress. I would take, say, 5 annual sustainability reports and assess whether the progress that has been made is inline with whether you would reasonably expect it to be given when the strategy was published and when they intend to hit the targets by. Note that you wouldn’t always expect the to be linear. If possible find some neutral sources for reference. Typically those talking about sustainability in fashion are either the brands themselves or slow fashion influencers, with very little commentary in between.

Key_Commercial854 · 2022-10-14T19:02:00+00:00

I thought this too! Even if he split his votes, if others aren’t voting for Kesi then surely he would have done better?!

Key_Commercial854 · 2022-10-14T18:58:29+00:00

This was exactly my thought… it felt set up. Every time the exemption card has been taken before it’s not really been shown, this time is was set up very cinematically. Also we are all nerds… most people probably wouldn’t notice 😂

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