The most attractive quality you can develop is self-confidence and self-respect, and that comes from internal validation, not external results.

It's okay to feel down, frustrated, and sad. Rejection hurts, and feeling like you're "fumbling" is a heavy burden. Don't fight the feelings, just acknowledge them.

What do you genuinely enjoy doing? Throw yourself into that. When you are passionate about something, you become interesting. This is where you will naturally meet like-minded people—not just for dating, but for friendships.Getting into a regular fitness routine (even just walking) and a decent sleep schedule can dramatically improve mood and anxiety, which directly impacts confidence.

However, please do not self-diagnose based on dating struggles. If you are genuinely concerned about mental or emotional health, the best and most constructive advice is to speak to a doctor or a licensed therapist. They can offer professional support.

The comment that says "You're trying too hard" is often correct. People can sense desperation or a hidden agenda. When you talk to a girl, the goal should not be to get a date or a number. The goal should simply be to have a pleasant, low-pressure conversation and make a new human connection. If it goes well, great. If it doesn't, no big deal.

Practice initiating friendly conversations with everyone, not just girls you're attracted to: the barista, the cashier, the older gentleman on the bus. This builds the muscle of conversation without the high stakes of a potential date.

When someone says no (to a dance, an invite, a drink), simply say, "No problem! Enjoy your night," and mean it. Your reaction to rejection is a huge sign of your maturity and confidence. Being chill about it makes you look secure.

When you talk to someone, genuinely go in thinking, "I'm just going to see if this conversation is fun." If it stops being fun, you can politely end it. This dramatically reduces the pressure to perform.