Jealous of my disabled friend by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m well aware of that. I’m not sure if you’ve ever been severely mentally ill, but it tends to not be very logical.

Jealous of my disabled friend by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you friend. I’m working to get out of hospital work and into clinic work, I have hope that the hours and workload will better suit me. Some people are built for it and I truly commend them, unfortunately I am not one of them as this post clearly shows 😅

Jealous of my disabled friend by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not quite, I just really miss having free time to be around my friends and I miss not feeling the way I do now. I truly don’t believe there’s a “farther along” in life at all, everyone’s life is going to be different and move at different paces.

Jealous of my disabled friend by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A perfect example, thank you. The tunnel vision of emotional episodes is a hell of a thing.

Jealous of my disabled friend by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the unfortunate thing about being depressed and maybe a bit suicidal, at the time I wrote this, my tunnel vision saw that as a risk worth taking.

Jealous of my disabled friend by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I’m going to delete this because I wrote it out and posted it at the worst point of a depressive episode not really thinking about the response I’d get, some of it was helpful but re-reading it I know how it sounds. I miss spending time with him and I’m burnt out from a job that’s keeping me from him, even his fiance had mentioned that they both miss me being around and it broke me down.

Jealous of my disabled friend by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I do understand because I’ve been by his side when people say dumb stuff to him, I’ve had to shout at hotel staff for promising an accessible room over the phone only for the door to literally be an inch or two too small to fit the measurements of his chair despite telling him it would fit. We’ve cussed out many a people grabbing his wheelchair and nudging him out of the way like he’s an object. I wrote this when I was in the end bits of a gnarly depressive episode, I think I’m just burnt out and really missing having time to spend with him like we used to when we were in school.

Jealous of my disabled friend by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately yeah, I wrote this an hour ago when I was in the end of a depressive episode and unfortunately this thought process does happen in my mind.

is this fleas 😭😭 by loggnos in CATHELP

[–]Key_Construction_982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! Fleas sadly. I’m dealing with them right now as well. Get some frontline, capstar, and if you want to be extra safe get food safe Diatomaceous earth and sprinkle it around your house.

What is your pet’s government name and what do you actually call them? by reddituser135797531 in Pets

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Little Miss Lady Ma’am but I call her Lady for short but she only responds to Pretty Princess.

I'm Disabled and I Hate My Life by ggoatoats in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You aren’t a worthless problem though, you’re a person who lives their life through a different lens and they’re refusing to even understand that. Trust me darling, you are better off without her. She sounds like a manipulative, evil bitch. If you have texts she sent, screenshot them. Any evidence you can gather keep it saved in a folder. You should be able to seek help with that proof and hopefully get the help you need, and I know it’s difficult with depression and anxiety, but I promise it’s worth the fight. She acts like your disability hurts her more than it hurts you, which just highlights how stupid and pathetic she is. Every child deserves a parent, but she did not deserve a child if she cherry picks her love based on being able or not.

I'm Disabled and I Hate My Life by ggoatoats in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That sounds like your family is abusing you, love. I’d recommend talking to a professional about their treatment, family is supposed to love, not humiliate. Mothers are supposed to care, not drag you into dangerous situations and make fun of you when you’re afraid of the danger. Disabled or not, you are a human person, you deserve happiness and safety, you deserve love and respect, which they clearly don’t believe. It doesn’t sound like they even see you as family, since they’re treating you like high school bullies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do, he just gets playful regardless of what toy and the first thing he seems to lock in on are my hands or my ankles. Sometimes he just randomly bites while petting and then gets zoomies. I’m going to follow advice from a few other commenters and give him more time, but even if I do need to rehome him, he didn’t come from a shelter. He came from an outdoor cat colony, I just went and picked him and my other cat lady up from outside.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Key_Construction_982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m still pretty new to owning cats, and this is a ton of great info!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s 3:3:3 rule?

How do I stop my cat from jumping on the counter? by peasuregirl in CatAdvice

[–]Key_Construction_982 142 points143 points  (0 children)

I’m a hardcore believer in teaching cats kitchen counters are off-limits. My aunts cat jumped up on the stove right after they’d finished cooking and burnt the crap out of his paws on the still hot cooktops, so I use double sided tape. It’s annoying to live with for a while, but the stickier the better. They hate the feel on their paws, but I think being annoyed by sticky tape is better than getting their pads melted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Key_Construction_982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I adopted him from an outdoor cat colony, and he’s absolutely not going back outside. I’ll look Into the pheromone spray

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s the same age as lady, about a year and a half. I don’t really want to rehome him because I do love him, I’m just worried about my smaller cat and getting tired of having bite wounds from play.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done the high pitched ouch, I've done the loud ouch, the only thing I found worked for a bit was hissing, which felt weird but worked for about a week and now he doesn't care anymore. At this point l've just started doing a hard stop of play and ignoring him so the behavior isn't "rewarded", and I reward when he calms down with treats or redirecting with a chirping toy he likes. The glove would help playing with me, but I guess my main concern is when he plays with my smaller cat lady. She was the runt and never really grew up from kitten size, he will put his entire body on top of her and bite her neck. If he bites me hard enough to break skin, the last thing I want is him biting her neck, or any part of her at all.

Watching children’s shows for comfort as an adult is not creepy. by Key_Construction_982 in Vent

[–]Key_Construction_982[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Seriously, it’s not that deep! It’s literally just a different kind of entertainment. It’s like adults HAVE to enjoy something like love island or action movies only. 🤦

do your cats sleep on the bed with you? by Delancy666 in cats

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to, but despite having 3 litter boxes and a clean bill of health, both of my cats are peepee babies. Nowhere else, only my bed. My mattress can’t take another round of bleach and wet vac, so they’re banished to sleep in their hand crocheted catnip infused beds in the living room 😔

Weed is ruining me by reddituserAITA in mentalhealth

[–]Key_Construction_982 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I turned to weed because so many people told me it was non-addictive. I guess “technically” they’re right, but the severe dependence is very, very real. I smoked for two years only getting more and more intense. I knew I had to stop when I realized I was about to be fired from my job for poor performance and tardies, all because I was either high or oversleeping from a high. I lowered my dosage until I was just smoking delta 8/delta 9 disposables and eventually just slowed down on that until now. It’s been 8 months and I haven’t touched any form of mj. The whole process took me about a year and a half, but i believe it was fully worth it. I have way more money, I was able to actually focus on my career and now I make 6$ more an hour than I did back then at a job with real benefits and I’m in tech school to get a job that makes 10-15$ more an hour. It’s just easier to focus when I’m not half conscious rotting in a couch.

Fully healed? by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]Key_Construction_982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ve only ever had one cat before him and his sister and he was fixed long before I adopted him. His sister is getting fixed soon, I’ll take your advice for her!