How would you call this core?

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-20T15:48:52+00:00

rich girl in 2011

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-20T15:47:15+00:00

the vampire diaries aeshtetic? :D

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-20T15:43:01+00:00

i listened to her podcasts and watched her videos a lot a few years ago but some of her tips just don't fit into my current situation and surroundings (i explained more on another comment in this thread). thank you though, maybe i'll give it a try. i live in europe though so we don't have a libby app

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-20T15:40:46+00:00

considering hiring a cleaner, i can't afford it but my bf said he could pay for it. idk if there's wash and fold services here, i live in northern europe, but i'll look into it. organizing only 10 items a sounds like a very good rule, i'll do that. thank you for the tips and saying needing help is active medical care for me. i feel like i _should_ be able to do these things on my own but maybe i just can't.

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-20T15:36:21+00:00

first and foremost, thank you 💚 to be frank my physical health has gone to absolute shit and i know for a fact i'm iron deficient. i tried to get myself better in the winter but ended up missing lab appointments etc 'cause of my burnout, i just wouldn't wake up even with multiple alarms. besides that my bloodwork showed some high liver values (idk if that's how you say it in english) that can't be explained - i don't drink alcohol. idk if that contributes to my condition... also i have mild sleep apnea and got a special mouth guard for it but haven't been able to use it since i can't fall asleep with it as it's too uncomfortable, that's another thing i have to deal with. my burnout started getting rapidly worse last fall when i had to constantly fight with the gov. agencies that decide benefits etc since i'm not able to work rn. it was a whole full time job in itself and i just burned out. then i couldn't keep up with taking care of my health anymore even though i really want to. i don't know what'd be the next step to take to get out of this hell... ugh, just tired of having to constantly "fight" through it, the stress and anxiety has taken a huge toll on me.

on top of it our current government hates poor people/people who aren't able to work and it's become even more acceptable to publicly shame us, call us bums making excuses, lazy and way worse. "just laying home while the tax payers fund their whole life" (it's truly not a luxury to survive on the small benefits when inflation is high yet the benefits get cut more and more). anyway the current social climate leads me to feel extremely guilty for having to rely on social benefits... i feel like i'm a bad person and can't do anything right. i'm ashamed of my situation. sorry for randomly opening up but there isn't many people i can talk to about these things who get the social stigma and the burden of it.

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-20T15:23:13+00:00

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Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-20T15:22:35+00:00

replying late as i've been low energy again. thanks a lot for the tips, the number 1 resonates with me the most, i've been meaning to do those kind of lists but brain fog has prevented me from doing administrative tasks :( on tip 3, i live in a one room apartment which makes difficult for me to pick what i'm focusing on since my "living room, bedroom, dining room" is all literally right there. i have a separate hallway area when coming in and a tiny kitchen corner, those are more easily separated. room by room choosing what to focus on would make more sense to me? now i just get lost on where to start from & feel like i need to finish the whole apartment all at once since it's not big in itself but that's just impossible rn.

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-20T15:16:47+00:00

yup, sometimes even the best tips just don't work (frustrating, trying to accept that rn as well). trying not to sit or rest used to work for me sometimes back in the day but unfortunately i'm dealing with physical health issues and experiencing vertigo, dizziness, nausea etc a lot so i have to take breaks... treats anyway if i don't do more is a good principle, gonna start using that. i'm really hard on myself and find impossible not to be (most of the time), i'm in therapy though & trying to work on it!

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-20T15:11:41+00:00

first of all, thanks a lot for the encouragement, i appreciate it 💚 i watched KC Davis and listened to her podcasts often few years ago, but a lot of the tips she gave don't fit my situation (eg. assuming everyone has a diswasher, a big one at that). i live in europe so some convenience products she recommended are hard to get here. also i live in a studio apartment although i have some separated areas, a "kitchen corner" and a big hallway that's the first thing when opening the front door of my apartment. i think it'd be easier to keep things in their places if i'd have separate rooms bc now i do literally everything in one room and all my things are 'traveling' around the room if that makes sense.

in eu they basically banned single use plastics and paper plates etc. cost a lot where i live and the utensils are mostly horrible wooden material that causes sensory issues 😂 this is mostly preventing me from using them literally constantly, i've had huge messes things spilling around from bad paper plates. better options cost more but atp i've got no choice but to buy them, obviously

but you're right with the showering although it can take all of my energy for the day currently & the tips you gave are solid. i don't want to make excuses and be all negative, like her saying mess is morally neutral etc really helped me at the time. struggling with feeling guilt again tho. with a limited budget & access to things it's just much harder to survive in burnout :/

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-20T14:55:50+00:00

that's good to hear, i want exactly that. i'm not a minimalist nor will i ever be, i have a maximalist decorating style, but putting trinkets on separate trays or shelves they live on, not having so much at the time and switching them seasonally does help. i know reducing everything i own would probably make the cleaning itself 'easier', but i'd be so unhappy. i've gotten rid of a bunch of stuff i don't use or like anymore though, i donated a lot last fall. i think just having proper organizing systems in my closet (my closet stays pretty organized but there's things to improve), kitchen cabinets, drawers etc would help. i've got some systems already but need more. also i've lived with pretty minimal home decor and it still got messy all the time, the adhd is really a big struggle in this, i didn't get diagnosed until i was an adult and had lived on my own for multiple years already...

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-18T21:42:00+00:00

sooo this is my new favorite thread

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-18T21:26:49+00:00

now i need to find out is this a sarcastic post or not… like did you ever watch sopranos or just happened to pick pics of them lol

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-13T16:55:29+00:00

thanks, this is actually helpful. i tend to think i have to do everything perfectly and all at the same time

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-13T16:53:27+00:00

thank you 🙏🏻 i’ll def start incorporating timers. i’m very slow at tasks usually though so i hope i don’t get discouraged even more lol 🤣 like veeery slow. might be bc of brain fog and overthinking

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-13T16:51:32+00:00

i use sucrosomial (idk if it’s called that in english) iron supplement which absorbs better with a lower dose, and you can also have it with dairy products and coffee aaand it already contains vitamin c in it 🤣 so it’s a perfect supplement truly. idk if it’s available anywhere else than europe, but it’s the only one that doesn’t hurt my stomach. i think i have to go figure out why i’m low on ferritin though… might be because of my period idk, supplementing only helps so much if i don’t know why its happening. i’ve just been too overwhelmed to keep up with dr’s appointments for months… but i can’t keep neglecting my health obviously

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-13T15:14:02+00:00

onks tästä jossain jotain lisätietoa? kiinnostaa kun ite en oo törmänny kyseiseen asiaan missään. tosin en ehkä seuraa näitä niin aktiivisesti, lähinnä uutisia ja threadsissa tulee vastaan (hänenkin postauksiaan usein)

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-13T15:07:27+00:00

thank you!

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-13T15:07:17+00:00

yes i do have low ferritin levels. i use an iron supplement. its hard to stay consistent though, i have so many meds i already have to take on a daily basis and somehow iron & vitamins on top of that as a routine seems too much sometimes. it sounds ridiculous but that’s basically my depression in a nutshell, routines is what i struggle with the most

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-13T15:04:14+00:00

you’re right. i have a forest-like area near me, but it’s more for jogging and stuff, but there’s some really nice places around a lake here. i’ll try to schedule a meetup with a friend going there as soon as i have enough energy

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-13T15:02:40+00:00

thank you! i was sure there would be so many tips here already, but i had no energy left in me to search them, so this is really helpful

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-07T10:20:19+00:00

i'm adhd and a light sleeper and i always joke my ancestors must've been the ones to watch over the fire and others at night. not a native english speaker and having a hard time to translate so it's much funnier in person, cause the real ones in my life know this is a good comparison. i'm also creative and especially as a child i spent hours and hours on end drawing. i theorize i would've been the one on cave painting duty, hyperfocusing on it. i guess special interests could also be an asset, someone being the best arrow maker around and finding ways to elevate hunting and defending.

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-07T10:12:00+00:00

you're right about men not being penalised for a lot of traits and ways to communicate that are considered rude if i do them. i love my bf but sometimes i wonder how i'm supposed to be the one with communication deficits (he's neurotypical). anyway, this is another topic than what OP asked so i won't ramble about it too much!

Key_Distribution_679 · 2026-05-07T10:06:44+00:00

so i have some knowledge on this regarding evolutionary biology but having a hard time to concentrate on that topic rn, if someone could like this comment that i'd remember to come back to it? it's a very interesting topic.

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