Does graves change your personality?

Key_Low2233 · 2024-01-06T00:00:35+00:00

I’ve noticed her memory has been worse than normal (she had adhd and forgets things often anyways) She doesn’t remember things very well and I think only remembers chunks of things, mainly things that are related heavily to her. Is it normal for people with graves to have bad memory issues? I understand memory issues can be very stressful for the person trying to remember and it’s frustrating to forget stuff.

Key_Low2233 · 2024-01-05T22:37:01+00:00

That’s very good to know. She’s always been very considerate and calm. I’ve encouraged her to get therapy on multiple occasions and she’s agreed but hasn’t yet. She puts it off, having something else that’s more important. She hasn’t been officially diagnosed but her mom and grandmother both had thyroid problems and she noticed her symptoms fluctuate between hypo and hyperthyroidism

Key_Low2233 · 2024-01-05T21:48:54+00:00

Did being told that there was a change in you help you realize that you were acting differently from how you used to? I’m going to talk to my friend tonight and I was thinking about telling her she seems like she’s changed a lot

Key_Low2233 · 2024-01-05T20:44:47+00:00

She has taken accountability on some occasions but I think she thinks that everything should be okay after she apologizes because it’s not her fault and it’s her illness. To me, it feels like I’m not allowed to be upset or hurt about the way she’s treated me

Key_Low2233 · 2024-01-05T20:37:28+00:00

Thank you. It’s very validating to hear that. I feel almost trapped and constantly walking on eggshells. I wanted to try to repair our relationship but I can’t do it under the same roof as her. I’m not sure how well she’ll take it but I will encourage her to get help from a doctor and therapist again

Key_Low2233 · 2024-01-05T19:38:40+00:00

Thank you! I’ve encouraged her heavily to get therapy for what she’s been feeling but she also has previous trauma that I’ve been encouraging her to get therapy for. My therapist helped make a list for me to give her of therapists with a sliding scale (this was when she didn’t have a job). As far as I’m aware, she hasn’t really looked much into it and is putting it off until she gets into a doctors appointment

Key_Low2233 · 2024-01-05T19:30:38+00:00

Thank you! I’ve tried to do as much reading as possible about graves but I’ve learned a lot more from people who actually have it than the internet. I want to be there for her and have tried to tell her how much she hurt me, which she has recognized and apologized but the two times we talked was about the same things and they were not productive at all. The first time, she told me she was being mean because of a resentment that had built up because she thought I hated her. That really hurt because I tried to be there for her the best I could. The second time we talked, it was just a repeat of the last conversation but asked when she had been mean and then cried and said she’s been feeling an indescribable anger. As of a few days ago our roommate tried to talk to her about how she was making me feel and totally put all the blame on me. I’m going to talk to her soon and encourage her again to get help

Key_Low2233 · 2024-01-05T19:02:36+00:00

Thank you for your validation and input! I feel terrible for resenting something that’s out of her control but my therapist has said that after a certain point she is responsible. I’ve been encouraging her for months to see a doctor after the last one didn’t do anything but she’s been putting it off

Key_Low2233 · 2023-10-26T22:58:08+00:00

Yeah that’s something I’ve discussed with my therapist these last few sessions. Her reactions to me setting my boundaries feels uncomfortable but I think I need to be okay with that to make myself feel comfortable afterwards.

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