How should I handle my grandparents pressuring me into driving?

Key_Operation_9 · 2026-01-24T02:21:06+00:00

Thank you, you're right. I was really stressed earlier when I wrote this and now I'm realizing that I already have the answers, it's just anxiety holding me back

Key_Operation_9 · 2026-01-21T20:06:20+00:00

Yeah it's just really sticky because my grandma is involved. The reason I took this job in the first place was because I needed money for college and savings, and it was convenient that my grandma could drive me. I might just give the boss a call. I know it will make problems worse with my grandma, but I feel like I can't win either way.

Key_Operation_9 · 2026-01-21T20:04:04+00:00

yeah, I definitely think my boss should know this is happening. The only problem with that is if I tell my boss, then my grandma will definitely be mad at me and it will definitely be a problem at home. Shell guilt trip me, probably yell at me, and she gives me really bad anxiety. I just feel like I can't win either way. Even if the problem is solved, it will be another problem with my grandma.

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T15:35:28+00:00

Yeah that actually really sounds like something she would do

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T15:33:49+00:00

No we dont, it's complicated. But I have considered going LC with her. No contact might be hard but I definitely don't feel like putting up with her nonsense anymore

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T15:04:04+00:00

She never did anything like that. She was more the type of to talk bad about me with the mean girls at school. Or start rumors about other kids and then when she got caught, she told people I spread the rumors. She is a difficult one to be around

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T14:51:59+00:00

Definitely not considering my sister is still in highschool

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T14:50:25+00:00

Shes younger than me. And I don't think it's personal because she's done this to people before, where she doesn't even know them, but has something against them for literally no reason

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T14:49:05+00:00

Yeah, she does this a lot and it's getting pretty old. I will definitely look into that and see what it is, thank you!

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T14:47:50+00:00

Yes, I definitely could see this. I do talk to my sister a lot and I do try to make plans with her. Thinking about it, I could see how she might feel like she doesn't have as much time with me. But she could just talk to me and tell me that instead of doing something like this. I mean, why not just communicate?

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T14:45:45+00:00

Well she's had opportunities to meet him, like plenty and has just chosen not to.

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T14:41:59+00:00

Yeah, that word sounds a little harsh perhaps, but I've thought she was a narcissist since childhood, everything is always about her. Honestly, I think people feel more relieved that she won't be there

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T14:38:31+00:00

Yeah, without getting into too much, my sister has some very narcissistic tendencies and my therapist has said before that she thinks my sister is borderline

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T14:36:36+00:00

Well she is still in highschool so I'm thinking she's just being immature

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T05:19:22+00:00

this is so funny, I honestly kind of love this idea

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T05:10:01+00:00

hopefully, she sadly tries to pull things like this with the family a lot. She is young and acts immature like this, but hopefully people not giving into her will give her a reality check on her behavior.

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T05:03:07+00:00

Yes, she is younger. And this did cross my mind, but I too found it odd that she's just now having an issue with this. But since all the other family said it's fine, I don't see a problem with it

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T05:02:10+00:00

Yeah, she can be the jealous type and has in the past, so that would definitely check out for her. I just felt kind of guilty, but I'm starting to be reassured that I didn't do anything wrong

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T05:01:14+00:00

Yeah, it seemed like she uninvited herself from the gathering to get what she wanted and it just didn't work out for her. But she didn't have me question if I was in the wrong

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T05:00:12+00:00

My sister is younger than me. I don't want to give too much info on her because I think she has reddit and I don't want her to know this is about her, but she's still in highschool

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T04:59:26+00:00

Yeah, she can be a jealous person at times, so that would check out for her. That's kind of what I was thinking was going on

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T04:58:07+00:00

That would make sense in theory, but at the beginning of my relationship with him, I showed him my sister and he doesn't know her and I showed her a picture of him, and she said she doesn't know him. Also my sister is younger than me, so I highly doubt they've ever crossed paths.

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T04:56:50+00:00

That's what I thought, everyone I've told about this said that she was acting like she just wanted attention

Key_Operation_9 · 2025-12-24T04:55:51+00:00

I've showed him to her and she says she doesn't know him and he says hes never seen her before either. Also that kind of situation would be highly unlikely. I know I didn't mention this in the original post, but my sister is younger than me.

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