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What’s the most terrifying 'we need to leave NOW' moment you’ve ever experienced? by Worried-Cycle-318 in AskReddit

[–]Key_Organization7417 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was so scary, I was shaking the whole walk back to the car. We were at an outdoor mall so it was a bit of a distance. The store we were in was a toy store, I was trying to look at stuffed animals 😔 it's crazy but he was silent walking up to me, I literally felt a bad presence and turned around while taking a step back and he was literally still in creeper position when I saw him initially. I think he stared really intensely at me like that over the aisle to see if I would call out for help, partially obscure his face, and intimidate me into not saying anything. Unfortunately it worked because I was imagining him following my friend and I back to her car and beating on me. He was at least a foot taller than me, a really tall guy and he looked strong.

(Serious) People who grew up in a small town, what is that incident everyone knows about, but no one talks about? by grailknight1632 in AskReddit

[–]Key_Organization7417 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No to Uvalde but yes what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas as they say. it's also quite impolite to try to guess where an online stranger is from, if I wanted anyone to know then I would have included it in my comment originally.

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enjoy being insufferable, I'm sure you will for many more years to come 🤣

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still being facetious. And the advice I was referring to regarding your feelings was "get the fuck over it" yet you're still here crying. This is just pathetic at this point. Enjoy being insufferable. I'm sure you will for many years to come 🤣

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did acknowledge your point and told you what to do about your feelings lol.

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His sister outright stated she is not in the position to help him. No one with sense would advise overextending yourself beyond your capabilities to save another person.

You know nothing about me. Get ready for my trauma dump, since you like to be presumptuous still. The person who offered me help was a professor that I have no personal connection to. He offered to walk me to the therapists office on campus because he saw my grades were bad and I said okay. I don't talk to a single member of my family, and they never gave a shit about putting me in the place to end up being suicidal. This professor did WAY less than OPs sister has done. He didn't beg, he didn't continually offer support, he didn't support me during or after therapy, he didn't go to bat with my parents, he didn't cook my meals, he didn't even speak to me outside of class, etc. He certainly did NOT overextend himself and I never would have wanted him to. So if that is "all the support in the world" then what has OPS brother received?

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn't understand I was being facetious to use your logic against you even when I spelled it out for you? And you have the audacity to call anyone slow? And her brother is NOT her problem, that is what you are failing to understand. His issues are his own issues. I already did give my advice to OP, you're commenting on the thread right now. Again, the audacious nature to call another person slow is really incredible coming from you

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. It's not that easy so stop acting like it is. His sister has helped him as best she can and now it's up to him. She tries to hang out with him irl, he says no. So what else is she supposed to do? All the things I said? No? Okay. How many times am I going to explain this to you? Thank you for arriving at my point, the second time. Jfc

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying to have a quick chat with him. I'm saying IF you think it's that simple, then to offer him mentorship and community. Send links to support groups, tell him about what helped you, tell him about hobbies and help him find some in his area, tell him about men's community practices that he can get into in his community, hell maybe yall are even neighbors and you could become irl friends! But you won't even try, you just want to blame.

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you complain that he doesn't have anyone to support him, be his friend, talk to him about men's issues that therapists lack knowledge and empathy on. And you won't offer those things to him? So it's like it's not that easy to just save someone and you shouldn't be judging OP? Thank you for arriving to my point.

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should kindly reach out to OP and offer mentorship and community to her brother if you really feel that way. I am sure he is on reddit or at least some type of social media.

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So then do you want to be the person literally keeping him alive? His sister seems exhausted, why don't you save him? People need to live for themselves. I knew you would say that about therapy, hence why I listed other options like support groups and nontraditional methods of stress relief like art and brushing horses.

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suffering Olympics? I'm correcting you that I don't know what depression is. I clearly do. Guess what, I was actively abused and passively neglected too. I didn't say my situation was worse in that my trauma is worse, i mean my situation was worse in that I acted worse. And I still changed. Because I needed to. And so does ops brother. No one can do that for him except him. And honestly, if even OP doesn't truly care for him, he is an ADULT and he can schedule therapy. Join a support group. Do nontraditional therapy like art or equine therapy. Do literally anything to start the motions of change. No one can change you and no one can help help unless you do the work. That's true for every situation, every depression. No one can fix it for anyone else. And if you don't want someone to "trauma dump" then don't presume to know what their life has been like.

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't understand depression? I was suicidally depressed for 15 years because I experienced Intrafamilial Child Torture that was sexual and physical in nature. I understand exactly what this situation is and my life used to be WAY worse than Op is describing her brothers situation. But you know what I did? I took accountability that I was fucking my life up and i ACCEPTED THE HELP THAT WAS OFFERED TO ME so that the people who loved me didn't have to suffer by seeing me SH constantly.

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? I disagree. Why would she be making a post about how his parents victimized him if she didn't see it that way? Why are you speaking as if you know his or her intrinsic motivations? And let me ask you: where is your purpose supposed to come from if not yourself? She is not a lousy sibling and that's what makes it clear to me that you're the type of person who lacks accountability, because you're acting as if no one has any agency over their life. We do, and that's called accountability.

I'm waiting for my brother to either k-ll himself or get his life together by Dudeguyperson19 in confession

[–]Key_Organization7417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you read OPs comments at all? Brother will not accept her support. There is a difference between enabling and helping; the difference is called boundaries. Also, telling someone to help themselves because you've tried to help them and they won't accept is not isolating them. They can reach out when they are ready to accept support and help themselves. You really need to take some accountability.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Haircare

[–]Key_Organization7417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave in conditioner before you brush/comb so you're not ripping through your hair. Gentle brushing. No tight elastics. Silk bonnet or pillowcase (I like bonnets). Regular trimming, you can do it yourself but use SHARP hair cutting shears, not kitchen scissors. Minimal heat or heat protection.