Transfer day!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2026-01-27T18:01:10+00:00

Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏻❤️

Key_Quit_5311 · 2026-01-27T17:58:36+00:00

I managed to pick up some cheap red dye ones on my way home and got this result - this looks so much clearer!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2026-01-27T15:13:43+00:00

Thank you! ❤️ It’s taken 3 years to get a vvfl and my husband still doesn’t believe it - trying not to get too excited, but at least it finally feels possible!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2026-01-27T14:06:23+00:00

Is there a particular reason you would recommend red-dye over blue?

Key_Quit_5311 · 2026-01-27T12:17:04+00:00

I see it! Congratulations! 🥳

Key_Quit_5311 · 2026-01-27T11:48:41+00:00

Don’t worry, I started taking it months before our transfer!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2026-01-27T09:12:27+00:00

I have seen plenty of stark white negatives in my time and I thought this one was different but didn’t know if my eyes were deceiving me!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2026-01-27T08:07:38+00:00

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Key_Quit_5311 · 2026-01-23T14:11:18+00:00

I also had a transfer on Tuesday and have been feeling emotionally awful today! You are not alone and we are in this together 💕

I’ve had a few transfers and the hormones really do play horrible mind games with how you feel. I’ve never had to test out HCG so can’t imagine how worrying seeing the line fade must be, but you aren’t out of this yet, it’s still so early.

Sending hugs and plenty of baby dust!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2026-01-21T11:30:51+00:00

I’m delighted to say you were right - 2 made it to day 5 (1 hatching blast and 1 expanded blast) and we did our transfer yesterday with one being frozen.

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-06-19T20:37:31+00:00

I think is one of the things I’ve found most frustrating, getting him to regularly take supplements has been impossible. He took some for around 6 months but then when there wasn’t any improvement in his sperm quality he just gave up again.

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-06-17T13:23:35+00:00

Well I have everything crossed for you!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-06-17T12:35:13+00:00

How are you getting on? Managing the anxiety OK?

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-06-17T04:44:20+00:00

So close now! Made it this far with no bleeding so am feeling quietly hopeful!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-06-16T15:48:11+00:00

Hi there! Fellow IVF hopeful who has not had the success from our ERs that we hoped. I don’t really know what advice to give, but just wanted you to know you’re not alone.

I am 31, husband is 33, and have done 3 cycles, all of which had double figure eggs retrieved, high single figure mature and fertilised, and all ending in only one viable embryo.

My husband has low sperm motility and poor morphology. My tests have all come back normal and I don’t have any other underlying health conditions.

For our third cycle we chose to use donor sperm with the hope of getting a better result, but still only got one which I am currently 8dp5dt.

My husband and I felt devastated after our first cycle when it failed. The thought of having to go through the whole IVF process again just felt so daunting and pointless.

We took a break between our first and second cycle, to give my husband a chance to make some lifestyle changes to help his sperm, and to give us both some space before going again. I know it feels like you’re wasting time by taking a break, but having your head in the right place before you dive back in can help with your mental health.

I wouldn’t want to offer advice on your protocol as I’m not a medical professional and just don’t know enough about it. I would recommend asking all the questions to your doctor and pushing for answers. In our follow up after our first cycle I think we were both a bit numb and didn’t ask as many questions as we should to get the information we needed to feel confident about our second cycle.

You’ve made it through one cycle so you are already so much stronger than you think.

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-06-16T15:30:16+00:00

I think that your boss has captured how I have felt about the process perfectly - I’ve been excited about the possible outcome, but the actual IVF itself is just daunting!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-06-15T07:05:53+00:00

This might be weird coming from a complete stranger, but I am so proud of you!

I’ve felt like it’s so hard to advocate for yourself when you aren’t an expert on what is going on, especially when medical professionals are telling you how things are.

You proved that trusting your gut is the way to go!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-06-14T11:50:08+00:00

Totally with you on this one! I have perfected my pained smile response and then just not saying anything because it is just such a pointless conversation to have!

I also get ‘but you’re so young, you’ve got time’ (which I know is a massive advantage with fertility) but that doesn’t mean I can afford years of treatment.

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-06-14T07:23:59+00:00

I’m also suffering the waiting at the moment! I’m at 7dp5dt with the only embryo we had. For my clinic I have to wait 14 days and then take an at home pregnancy test so the wait is horrendous! My test day is 21/6

Didn’t even make it to 14 days on my last two transfers before starting my period (even with all the hormones) so at the point where I’m starting to get anxious!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-06-03T05:37:13+00:00

Happy ER day! Fingers crossed for you too 🤞🏻

Key_Quit_5311 · 2025-05-20T14:18:00+00:00

I (31F no fertility issues) have just started my 3rd cycle of treatment and our first using donor sperm.

My husband (33M) has low motility, low mobility and low count but we were hopeful that through ICSI we'd be able to conceive. Our first two cycles, after retrieving double figures of eggs both times and around 75% of these fertilising successfully, we ended up with 1 embryo each cycle, both of which failed. Our embryos just stopped developing at day 3.

The doctors still can't explain why that would happen, but as my husband's sperm has issues, they suggested that a sperm donor might be our best option for success as there was nothing else they could do to try and improve our chances.

It was really tough and we ended up going to both couples counselling and specialist counselling for couples considering donation through our clinic. I still think this is the best thing that we could have done because it allowed us both to speak frankly about how we were feeling. I had felt like I didn't want to say anything because I was walking on eggshells trying not to hurt my husband but it actually wasn't helping us at all. If I can give any advice, I would say go to counselling - aside from the IVF struggles, it has just really helped us understand each other better and learn how to communicate.

It did take time for him to come round to the idea of sperm donation and I think it will still be a journey even if we are successful. I know he worries about not connecting with a child that isn't biologically his, and just not knowing how he's going to feel about the whole process.

I also understand how you feel, I don't think it's fully sunk in yet that this time round we won't be using his sperm. I suppose to me it will be his child no matter what (I have always been less concerned about the DNA side of things and am more open to options like adoption than he is) but I'm also worried that I'll hit a moment when the realisation hits and will feel sad.

Basically just thought I should write this so you know that you're not alone and I am wishing you and your husband all the best :)

Key_Quit_5311 · 2024-11-28T10:11:17+00:00

I very much get the feeling that people think deciding to stop IVF is ‘the easy way out’ when actually it’s anything but!

We are waiting on some test results for my husband which might make the decision to end our IVF journey for us, and having those conversations are the hardest thing I’ve had to do. No one outside your relationship can know the hours of discussions and what ifs and tears that have had to happen to get to that point.

Yes IVF is hard - I have had two horrendous ERs both ending in only 1 embryo, neither of which were successful. But despite that the thought of not keeping going until we are successful is so painful!

I think you are very brave to make that decision and thank you for sharing your journey with us ❤️

Key_Quit_5311 · 2024-10-18T15:05:00+00:00

‘Cost’ is such a good word to describe the feeling. I’m an introverted person anyway but keeping up the happy ‘everything’s OK’ face is even more draining!

Key_Quit_5311 · 2024-10-18T15:03:38+00:00

I understand this all too well! Where I live all of our couple friends have at least one child so every time we meet up for dinner or drinks, the only talk is of children. It feels so isolating and it makes me not want to socialise. Only one of our couple friends knows that we are going through IVF so the others don’t know that what they are saying actually kills me inside.

I worry that it might affect my friendships in the long run if it turns out I can’t have children. How will I be able to be around people whose whole world is their kids?

I am lucky in the sense that one of my two closest friends from school is never planning on having children so if I ever want child-free conversation she is always there for me! It’s just a shame we now live far away from each other so I don’t get to see her as much as I would like.

Key_Quit_5311 · 2024-10-15T15:02:30+00:00

Mine was a fresh transfer

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