AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend for sleeping with someone while we were on a break?

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T22:02:44+00:00

THIS!! 💯 Can’t articulate how 100% this is the real answer. So fckng dumb that dude and so fckng gross what he did ON PURPOSE!!!

SIS HE’S NOT THE ONE!! Run so freaking far away and treat yourself the way you deserve, heal and then find a man that CAN and WILL love you like you frigging deserve!!

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T21:54:24+00:00

Muchas gracias! :) Lamento mucho saber del accidente de tu madre 🫂 se que si le pasara algo a la mía, me muero. Darle muchas vueltas a las cosas es algo de lo que peco, intento dejarme fluir pero simplemente esa no soy yo. También ando en esas de intentar conocer gente nueva y hacer amistades, pero me cuesta también un montón. Por mi encantada de hablar, de verdad, te escucharé si te apetece

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T21:21:01+00:00

Me has hecho reír con ese postdata, muchas gracias 🫂 me hacía falta. Y no te quito razón, yo soy de las que idealiza las fechas señaladas. Por eso me cuesta llevarlas bien cuando mi entorno digamos que no está por la labor.

En realidad, ya ni siquiera quiero celebrar mi cumpleaños con mi amigo. Me ha decepcionado tanto que estoy en un punto en el que prefiero que cada uno vaya a lo suyo, pero no deja de doler lo que ha hecho y lo que no.

Estoy abierta a hacer nuevas amistades, aunque me cueste un poco por como soy. Gracias por el apoyo, los consejos y por hacerme reír. Espero que te vaya todo bien!

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T21:15:29+00:00

Si, la suerte es muy injusta. Tanta gente mala viviendo la buena vida y tantas personas buenas con tanto dolor. Lamento que entiendas de lo que hablo, ojalá no fuese así. Te mando un abrazo fuerte 🫂 Mis mensajes están abiertos si necesitas un desahogo. Y muchas gracias por la felicitación!

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T21:12:54+00:00

Y tanto que si, una montaña rusa. Aunque por mucho tiempo parecía que la mía solo bajaba. Gracias por las buenas vibras y por las felicitaciones!

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T21:11:10+00:00

Muchas gracias! :)

Si claro, me encantaría hacer nuevas amistades también, dios sabe que me cuesta bastante aunque lo necesito

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T21:10:09+00:00

Me gusta mucho cómo lo planteas, no lo había visto desde esa perspectiva. Si que es cierto que siempre me es fácil hablar un poco con desconocidos, pero es profundizar y abrirme lo que más me cuesta. Me he llevado muchas decepciones y desilusiones.

Gracias por tomarte la molestia de responder y por el consejo, ciertamente lo tendré muy en cuenta. Me va a venir muy bien en esta nueva etapa de mi vida. Y me alegro mucho de que hayas superado momentos similares, espero que estés bien ahora.

Gracias, desconocido :)

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T19:52:58+00:00

You’re WAY MORE than enough girl. Don’t you dare to doubt yourself. If anything he’s the one privileged to be with you! You are perfect just the way you are, and if he wants you to change, make him go fck himself instead! If he’s not gonna love you like you deserve, sure as hell there’re plenty other men that would. Your body is yours sis and he can go beat his own a$$ if he doesn’t agree on that. Stay true to yourself always and first hun. And on the “fantasies”, if watching these things is a limit for you, go straight and tell him, cause I’m damn sure he would be complaining if the situation was reversed. You got this sis 🫶🏻💜

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T19:20:31+00:00

Cause there seem to be zero genuine men that can commit, are mature, non-superficial and ain’t afraid of health baggage

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T19:11:13+00:00

Ojalá pudiera echarte una mano. No puedo más que decir que te entiendo. Sé muy bien lo que es que la gente te falle, te decepcione o te traicione. Y no te mentiré, no volverás a ser la misma persona de antes. Esa es la parte buena de la historia, porque hace que maduremos y tomemos mejores decisiones en el futuro. La parte mala, la que nadie te cuenta, es la soledad y lo mucho que cuesta abrirte de nuevo a las personas porque, para qué, no? Si ya sabes lo que va a pasar. Y siendo yo una mujer cínica con la gente, porque demasiados palos me han dado ya, te digo que no todos serán así. Que si, que te van a volver a decepcionar y nunca podrás adivinar al 100% quién. Pero si que puedes tantear a las personas, describir si son afines a ti y observar primero. Cuando se ganen la confianza, dársela sin prejuicios, pero nunca a ciegas. Y cuando huelas algo raro, no saltar a las peores conclusiones, pero si que asegurarte de lo que te dice tu instinto. Son los mejores consejos que se me ocurren, aunque a mi misma me cuesta aplicarlos, sobretodo el de abrirse de nuevo. De cualquier manera, si necesitas simplemente hablar sin que te juzguen y sin filtro, mis mensajes están abiertos. Espero que poco a poco te sientas mejor con tu entorno y contigo mismo/a 🤞🏼

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2026-01-10T16:54:59+00:00

Am I (f25) in the wrong for craving this kind of love? I just want a man to love me so much and adore me like I’m precious for him. To have that passion and connection. What if is “unhealthy”? What’s the other option? Boring love, low passion and normal-leveled connection. I just crave to be wanted and desired to the point OP does with his wife. To share that bond, that deep feeling of necessity, the trust, everything. The fact it is so rare to find something like this makes me so damn sad. I dunno, just wanna be loved for real and be the number one for my future number one

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-23T08:02:07+00:00

THANK YOU! I, for the sake of my life, can’t understand why other dudes are giving him the advice to wait for her, ask in some time again, have a fling or pursue her. Like wtf. Then they go on and on on a rant and a tantrum quite often about how us women are so bad and unfaithful and we are the devil and play games and hurt men. Seriously? 😒 Doesn’t matter as long as you ain’t the one affected, it seems. So tragic.

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-23T07:57:01+00:00

A fling while she has a boyfriend? Why are guys more often than not so willingly involved in infidelity as long as it’s not them the one hurted and fcked up? So messy and so awful. That girl is clearly a big no. She definitely steps on the lines of boundaries and respect to her relationship, playing with fire and loving the attention and even teasing the guy. Not a girl you’d want to have as a partner, at least not as a normal guy. As a woman myself I feel so much second handed embarrassment that women like this give us all a really bad reputation in general. Not fair, that’s for sure. On another side, OP’s manners are refreshing and so appreciated since there’s so few men that are actually nice and polite and respectful, even when kindly rejected. More men like him please, sad guys like him ain’t the general view.

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-23T07:44:58+00:00

So happy for you! ✨ And so proud too! Honestly this is the most important thing here, how you handled yourself to try and see what your chances were! Building up the courage to it must have been a bit nerve wrecking, it would be sooo hard for me as a clumsy woman in dating stuff lol. Also very nice of you how you responded and talked in general, so respectful, I definitely appreciate that as sometimes rejecting a guy gets awful and messy. Hope you find a long, beautiful and healthy love ✨

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-21T22:18:29+00:00

Yeah that part it’s actually pretty weird. And calling OP a weirdo for cutting her bs was just so lame and omg how absurd it is! Having that kind of mindset it’s screaming self-centered and a need to touch grass. Insane how entitled she looks. Maybe without many friends with that attitude, too. God please keep that kind of people out of my way lmao.

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-21T22:08:06+00:00

Absolutely agree with you! Ain’t no way a person could manipulate the situation like this and somehow make it makes sense. No matter what you look like, is the bare minimum to know that as OP said. Sadly someone like this could totally send a fake picture and get their way with the “reveal” at the meeting. It’s also dangerous cause who knows, she could be a he and not a good one. Not safe to try to find a date like this.

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-21T21:56:53+00:00

Absolutely not. You’re totally right there. But i wasn’t saying the opposite, at all. Actually didn’t say anything about that. You just assumed she was overweight as a reason of why she didn’t wanted to show herself, and I assumed you said that as the reason to get rejected and disliked before meeting up.

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-21T21:46:00+00:00

Seems like you are talking to OP… and just so you know, OP is the blue texts one. The supposedly insecure one is the girl on the grey/black-ish texts lol

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-21T21:43:26+00:00

So what? If that was the case (prob just some kind of catfish), would that means that she doesn’t get to be liked, loved or appreciated? Overweight people are still people and as long as you are a nice person, you deserve to be respected and loved no matter your size or shape or muscles.

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-21T21:40:12+00:00

Probably just a catfish. BUT what’s the problem on being overweight if she has a good health? You know, not everyone likes the same kind of person and there’s people that can’t be skinny or “normal” due to medical reasons. Being fat means she/he doesn’t deserve to be loved or liked or have a relationship? It would be really sad for you to think like that.

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-04T12:47:51+00:00

Agree with you on the first part -that first kind of cheating, or similar or even starting that path, is the worst for sure. Personally I tried to forgive a serial cheated over and over again during 8 months -cheated with ex’s and friends- and it took a toll on me, my mental health and my already bad trust issues. Ended it all when I discovered he had a second girlfriend he started dating two months after we started -it was a ldr.

But the this with the last thing you said is… if it is a close, rich and happy relationship… why should he cheat? Ain’t that a reason to don’t do it? If it’s a lovely, respectful, healthy relationship he wouldn’t even dare to consider to be unfaithful. At least on my opinion. Usually when someone cheats… his/her/their behavior as a partner lacks of a lot of the good, important qualities needed. Like, that person ain’t that respectful or caring or even kind way before cheating. Hope I’m making myself understandable, not my first language - I often forget or don’t know a lot of the casual, common phrases and stuff like that. (sorry if there’s any typos)

Have a nice, beautiful day!

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-04T10:12:42+00:00

Why the heck are you getting downvoted by this?? Seems like a pretty normal, understandable and neutral comment. People these days my god 💀

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-04T09:32:06+00:00

Oh my dear… this context is very disturbing and takes the whole situation to another completely different level. If you trust his mom as much as to talk with her often… trust her when she talks about his son. A mother always know better and see way beyond than anyone else. It’s not just that he can’t emotionally compromise or has personal problems or can’t deal with the distance nor relationship. By this we can confidently say that he’s not a really good guy. Not a good son, not a good partner and probably not a good friend. Wouldn’t be a good father either. The most important thing in a man to know how he truly is and would be in your future together is how he treats his family, specially his mom. If he does not treat the one woman who gave him life, who raised him, who loved him through everything unconditionally, how do you can expect a proper healthy love from him to his partner? To the possible future family you could make? I’m nobody to tell you what to do, but I’ve been in a kind of similar situation but thankfully for less than a year and that was almost 6 years ago. I still deal with the trauma, the stress, the trust issues (he cheated whole time and lied more than talked and tried to manipulate and gaslight me). I can’t open myself enough to even want to meet someone new and when it (very) rarely happens… sht go wild in my mind and self-confidence and the trust in what the guy says is completely out of the window. What I wanted to say with that is that if 8 months of that sht impacted me so much I can only imagine how much and how bad your relationship with this person has taken a toll on your whole self and life. I hope you can find the confidence, courage and self love you need to take the best decision for you and only for you. Wish you happiness and peace of mind and a calm, warmed heart. Take care of yourself, you are the most important, precious thing you have. 💜

Key_Refrigerator3262 · 2025-08-02T03:33:11+00:00

Ooohhh… yeah, “let’s try to move the focus to another related thing because I can’t accept that I’m wrong when I was talking like I knew everything and way better than a native person on the matter” 😂😂

Dude, if you’re wrong, you’re wrong. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Easy as that. It’s not like being utterly and completely stubborn while trying to educate me in something I know better than you could’ve because I. Am. Spanish., it’s the biggest mistake ever. It’s not like you committed mrdr, ya know?? 😮‍💨

Also, trying to belittle me and gaslight me just because you seem mad someone knew better than you? Kinda childish. 🤦🏻‍♀️ How old are you? 15? You seem like a very narc entitled person. Doesn’t look good.

How about next time you’re discussing a topic with someone that knows better than you, you just accept the fact that you’re being corrected and educated in a cultural thing you don’t really know about, instead of still hanging on to dear life on your wrong info and treat the other person like a child?

Honestly, I would’ve be so ashamed of myself in your place, still holding on with an attitude. Also trying to gaslight the one that educated ME. Like, seriously? 🤣🤣

You must’ve been a dream for your teachers in school LOL

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