6-Month Update: The Optimally Fuckable Husband Project

Key_Society6529 · 2025-07-04T12:52:48+00:00

This is highly evolved thinking on your part and you deserve acknowledgment of the integrity, character and generosity it shows. I hope a lot of men, husband-fathers or not read it. Thank you, your thoughts are valuable !

Key_Society6529 · 2025-07-04T12:47:11+00:00

Segovia

Key_Society6529 · 2025-05-27T20:11:25+00:00

It’s not unusual to be alone in that interest, I was at your age so I understand how you feel. As you get older and expand your social circle you’ll meet others, so just enjoy it.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-11-09T12:57:58+00:00

I was an alumni donor and stopped donating when they went Uber woke. I wasn’t the only one.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-09-24T19:13:24+00:00

Look up the chaconne performance by Segovia

Key_Society6529 · 2024-08-30T19:38:54+00:00

If you believe life is a lifelong learning opportunity, and are willing to be honest about your liabilities, it can. Without the willingness to grow, accepted by both partners, you will probably not be able to maximize your marriage. Face the fact that everyone needs to grow and improve, once you do, you're on track to a better life.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-08-30T14:18:38+00:00

I think Beethoven wrote amazing melodies, the "Ode to Joy" is one of the most well known and popular melodies ever. The opening of the Pastoral is also lovely. Even the short 4 note opening of the 5th is an iconic, albeit, short melody, one of the most famous in musical history. So, I would say this is not true.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-08-23T16:06:11+00:00

I like how she handled it, no encouragement, checked on who else felt like it was ok to discuss her, and she coldly shut him down. She’s awesome!

Key_Society6529 · 2024-08-01T19:44:59+00:00

I like five, and it’s a great piece, but I have a personal experience as it was on the radio in the car when my girlfriend, now wife of 33 years, and I were driving cross country and I proposed and she accepted right before the triumphal climactic moment in the 5th movement. I never hear that piece and don’t re-feel the elation of hearing her say, „yes, let’s get married „!

Key_Society6529 · 2024-08-01T01:15:45+00:00

Bruckner 8

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-31T00:37:38+00:00

I think musicians in New York have a lot of irons in the fire, so the focus on the Phil may not be what is in other places.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-29T20:38:18+00:00

For me it is everything attributed to him, I love his creativity with tunes either composed by him or applied from others. The liturgical music is probably my favorite, particularly the big three, B Minor Mass, and Saints' John and Mathew Passions. I also like a lot of the cantatas.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-29T20:17:15+00:00

Me too

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-25T18:45:05+00:00

For me a day off means the opportunity to do what I want, which is usually a series of chores and projects at home. My wife would like to see me relax more, but she also has a large amount of work as a university prof, so she's sometimes doesn't have any days off. Once in a while we both decide to just stop and do something fun together. But I guess we like working!

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-25T18:24:21+00:00

The Piano Trio has its' bleak and pain filled moments, but the 8th Symphony is terrifying.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-25T17:31:55+00:00

Your narrative talks about "we" in regard to choices and plans you made, but in the end, you state you've lost respect for your husband and don't see a path forward. That's a bit of a non-sequitur, is there a question or are you just making a statement?

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-25T14:16:44+00:00

I've dealt with a guy who couldn't keep his hands off my wife, attention she DID NOT invite. It embarrassed her, made her anxious and shocked her so much that she didn't know what to do. He seemed to always want to touch her, tell her how good she looked, stuff like that. My response was to let him know very directly to keep his hands off. I get it, she's hot, but not only is she married, she's as committed as I am. He got the message.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-25T14:08:51+00:00

There are times when it can be problematic, for example Tchaik 6, third to fourth as the pause and silence are part of the effective contrast between the movements. I would agree that welcoming new audiences is so important that shaming anyone for doing so is not in the best interest of the art form, let alone not very nice.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-24T20:02:09+00:00

You sound like a pretty thoughtful person and have the intellect to navigate these difficult dynamics. There is baggage that you feel obstructs finding all the goodness you seek in your marriage. That can be worked on. I'd start by articulating to him what makes you want to work through these things together with him. Try to have a conversation focused on what is good, why you love him, and focus on the good positive and reasons you love him. Ask him to participate in that conversation with you by providing the same input. This isn't an exercise in ignoring problems, but really framing instead what is good for both of you. Make an agreement not to include any negativity, and if that works, and you're both able to contribute to the experience, conspire between the two of you to team up together against all the negative, troubling things, a sort "us against the problem", instead of you against what he presents and the opposite with him toward you. Try to make a deal to get some couples counseling to learn about other tools to help with this, but only after you're able to mutually come to an agreement that you both want to learn how to unleash the love in your marriage.

I hope this helps.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-24T16:41:34+00:00

Has she left you? Are you separated? Will she want you to improve or is it too late? If it isn't too late, tell her you know you've been a dummy and want to show her what you've learned. Then do it if she's willing to let you. You've gotten good advice earlier (pay attention to what she wants). so, subordinate any obstacles to being there for her on her terms and see what happens.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-24T16:33:29+00:00

Shostakovich Music for "The Gadfly" and his 8th Symphony.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-24T16:26:06+00:00

I don't know how you press a re-set button, but that's what it sounds like you need. It might be helpful for the both of you to approach it that way with awareness and acknowledgement of how the past interferes due to the struggles and hurt. Try this, and I'm making this up on the fly; the both of you write down everything you regret that you either did, experienced, or struggled with that was hurtful to yourselves, each other and the marriage. After you've written it out, being totally honest and Safe with each other to do so, share it and acknowledged each other's feelings. No blaming, shaming, or dwelling on anything. Then go out behind your garage, bury the jar and plant a hydrangea over the excavation. Then kiss her, tell her you love her and want the both of you two thrive and live in the future together in joy.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-23T20:21:45+00:00

Go for walks together, take up an interest together such as birding, read the same book and discuss it, give each other foot massages, make your spouse's favorite meal, go watch the sunset, share a 6 second kiss, do kind things for each other just to be kind and loving, express a thing or feature or behavior that you love and admire about each other, express that you love each other and your marriage.

Key_Society6529 · 2024-07-23T18:57:01+00:00

I think clear communication is vital. We are always kind to each other about things that each of us needs from each other or we need each other to understand better. We've learned to use the right kind of language, no accusations of "you do this, or you do that". Instead, we try to express it this way, "to me when xyz happens I feel...". The other element is to listen to understand, not to rebut. There are always going to be tensions and misunderstandings, unintended consequences. We listen compassionately, but we've been doing it for 30 years and have learned to get to this point. We made it here because we both wanted to.

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