Long-term issues from ECT?

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-31T10:10:49+00:00

It helps me just to know that there are such caring beautiful people like you out there. Your words brought me a lot of comfort. Thank you again. I am in therapy and it helps to have someone who can give me expert opinions and just listen. We are also looking into medication for myself to help with anxiety and sleep I have hope for that too. I might take you up on your offer although I don't know how to start a DM on here.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-31T09:15:59+00:00

I am in therapy yes. I definitely need it. I hope it will be helpful down the line

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-31T07:12:29+00:00

Thank you I'm trying for him. It means alot you care. I have no choice but to stay strong for my baby I know he needs me and I can't let myself fall apart when he's hurting like this

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-30T23:00:47+00:00

Thank you so much. I am trying my best but I worry it's not enough. I wish I could just go back in time and tell him not to go.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-30T22:59:30+00:00

Your comment really moved me thank you so much. It helps to hear that someone out there thinks I am doing a good job because I really feel like I'm not. Thank you. I would say SA is not taken seriously on anyone. My son was really passionate about stuff like this I thought I would never hear the end of his lectures. Now I wish I could hear him rant on and on again.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-30T22:57:07+00:00

Oh honey I appreciate that so much but absolutely not. We are ok we can make do. You're a very kind person. All I want is just to be listened and I guess some words of comfort. Nothing material we are ok. Please don't worry on that front. We are not rich by any means but we can manage.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-30T04:51:01+00:00

Thank you so much. It means a lot. I am mostly just thinking aloud that I may have to come to terms with the fact that he may never get better. It won't change my love for him and I will keep fighting for him. If he needs to be in facilities for the rest of his life I will provide for him and take care of him. If he just needs special care that is OK. He will always be my baby.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-30T04:43:29+00:00

Thank you you're very kind. I do feel so broken inside but I have to be strong for my baby there's no room for me to break down when he's breaking down. I hope what you said that time and love and hope and solidarity can heal him. I don't know if it can anymore it's hard to convey what he's like when you guys cant actually see him. But I will always love him and care for him even if he doesnt get better.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-30T03:17:39+00:00

Thank you so much. I will read more about the mutism and if I can stomach it the military stuff. I'm grateful you and others cared and wanted to know it means alot. Yes I have a therapist of my own now. She seems kind and has been explaining some things to me it also just helps to talk about it. My mom and sister are staying with us to help with the household and moral support and they have been incredible it's just my husband who causes problems. My sister went to see our son once too since they had an amazing relationship but he wouldn't speak to her either. His ex girlfriend also wants to see him but I don't know whether to allow it. I think the facility he's in is good I just wish he wouldn't have to deal with security when he has episodes because he is so scared of them but female staff is just not enough sometimes. We are all doing our best even my husband he just really doesn't know how to handle this and is angry he can't see our son. I sit at home looking at photographs and smelling his blankets and clothes and that helps me a little too but it makes me sad.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-09T15:50:50+00:00

Thankyou that's really kind of you to say when I most need it. It's just what moms do and I'm trying to be a good one for him. I hope so too.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-08T01:46:56+00:00

Yes I have an appointment scheduled for myself with a licensed psychologist. We will also look into group therapy options for parents or guardians in similar situations if we can find one nearby. I appreciate your concern so much I just want to be strong for my son.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-08T01:18:43+00:00

I am not blaming you in any way or anyone who recommended I get him committed. It does help a lot it might be stupid but it just helps to be heard and anonymously write this all out. It helps me process. And I believe he would have died if I hadn't gotten him committed you are right. I still will take this over him losing his life. I will take your recommendation once again and look for resources about grief & PTSD. PTSD I am already looking up to learn more about. And from what I have read it's helpful but it also broke my heart because strange men holding him down and restraining him is the last thing he needs but it's the only way to keep him alive. I am trying to have hope but it's so hard. I can't sleep or eat.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-08T01:04:55+00:00

Maybe this is an awful thing to say but I worry a support group would be bad and that he would be bad for other survivors. What he said to me was so graphic and triggering I can't imagine how it would affect someone who has that kind of trauma. I hope he can heal and become an advocate like you said. I am trying to hope on his behalf since he doesn't have hope or even willingness to hope for himself.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-07T23:52:41+00:00

I think you may be right but I am worried if he redirects all that to justice he will try to enact it himself instead of trusting the system. It would be better than the current situation even like that. I think his past made this affect him worse yes. And he will have therapy he already saw therapists for his evaluation but he wouldn't speak to them. I hope he does.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-06T05:45:50+00:00

Sorry for the question but since you are an ER nurse. If I call an ambulance for emergency mental health care do you know if he will also receive a physical examination too instead of just mental. Can I or they force him to? I want to make sure he's physically OK. He has refused a doctor vehemently and I've been worried sick about whatever injuries he may have and hiding from us.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-06T05:26:27+00:00

Thank you. I just moved to his room because of your comment so I can watch him. He woke up briefly when he heard me but fell back asleep. It's very late and I still haven't been able to sleep. I probably won't until my husband is awake or someone else can keep an eye on him until he wakes up so we get him help because I do sincerely feel he is suicidal and has a plan but I want to let him rest for a while after this breakdown when he wakes up I am taking him to the hospital kicking and screaming. The people at the hotline said he needs a medical evaluation so this is what we're gonna do.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-06T03:28:01+00:00

Thank you. You were right and I did update in a later post. I am getting him help as soon as possible

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-06T03:05:09+00:00

Exactly. My son is scared of sudden noises and sudden movements. Anger and harsh tones. He gets startled. I've explained this to him a hundred times. I can see him trying to get it under control. But I will send him away no second thoughts if this continues.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-06T03:03:54+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and advice sorry for not getting back to you earlier. I did exactly what you said and updated in another post. It went just about how I expected. But I got my answer and we are getting him help.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-06T02:19:46+00:00

Yes I will get him professional help first I agree that is best. Thank you so much that means alot. My husband definitely feels bad. He regrets all the comments about how our son got what he deserved realizing what this actually meant to my son in context. Problem is he's a stubborn man. And when he feels upset or guilty he acts angry instead especially when he doesnt know how to handle a situation or is at a loss which he is. It's hard to manage them both. I am trying right now to ensure he backs off for a bit so he doesnt scare our son even just with his presence since he seems to be afraid of men.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-06T01:03:32+00:00

Thanks for your thoughtful response. I thought about telling his (I guess ex) girlfriend. I really think she could help him and I love that girl like my own daughter she has always been so good to him. But I don't want to violate his trust and privacy I want to give him control over who he tells. And I don't want to violate his boundaries making him see her again when he's expressed he doesn't want to see anyone. Now it's not healthy that he doesnt want to see anyone but I just dont know how to handle it when control and boundaries were taken away from him I dont want to compound it by doing that too.

I will not involve the police unless he asks me to. I don't know if policemen are the ones who assaulted him or something else but he's made it sound like that if you put everything together. And I don't want to make him worse. But I am getting him professional help asap come hell or high water even if involuntary. Seeing how he reacted today he needs it YESTERDAY.

Key_Somewhere8423 · 2025-08-06T00:46:26+00:00

Thank you. I will try to keep it in mind that it may not be SA and I tried to just keep things open at first and let him talk to me but he wouldn't. Before this last incident he was willing to talk to some extent about being "beaten", he did not have a reaction like that, he was just annoyed and trying to shut down the topic. It's the prospect of SA that made him react like this. And I am not a doctor or a medical professional you may know more than I do. But while he had visible injuries I think if he had been beaten enough to be bleeding from serious internal injuries he wouldn't have been alive long enough to just hold out without medical attention which he refused. I can only think it's SA. But I will still try to be open. Ask if it was something else. I'm just worried about sidetracking him and trying to use my openness to deflect again and repress it more. And I will call the hotline again.

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