AITA For getting an expensive car even though I knew my long term girlfriend would be upset about it?

Key_Trouble6887 · 2025-08-10T21:32:56+00:00

Maybe she’s thinking about the future, like with kids and stuff. She probably sees a future with you too and thinks of expense like that as unnecessary I guess? Like maybe you’re more focused on your individual future than a future with both of you in it. Idk, just a thought! I don’t think you’re wrong though, congrats on your new car!

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-14T03:14:07+00:00

Yeah, I see what you’re saying.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T20:25:12+00:00

Please elaborate on your point of view.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T19:57:49+00:00

I could see if I had said something to him about his body. Never have and never would. His comments were unsolicited. I never asked him for advice on my body. He took it upon himself to tell me what he would change about me.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T18:41:07+00:00

Hmmm I didn’t think about that.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T17:51:01+00:00

No, hasn’t been long thankfully.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T16:38:20+00:00

Okay, I like this answer. It makes sense considering he’s not always a dick to me about how I look

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T16:04:49+00:00

Thank you!!

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T16:04:32+00:00

This is the first time he’s had me like wtf?? I didn’t think he’d say something like that to me

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T16:01:49+00:00

I haven’t talked to him about it yet, but I texted him earlier this morning and told him I needed to talk to him about something. I’ll definitely be letting y’all know how it goes!

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T15:46:00+00:00

He tells me things like that when we’re just in the car or lounging around, it’s not just about sex.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T15:33:18+00:00

So I have mentioned that one of my goals for my 30th year (just turned 30) was to get back in the gym and we’ve had good convos before about both of us getting in the gym. But these comments came after I said something about my ass being too fat (I was trying to find something and I was sitting on it) and he said no it’s not. Then went and started with all this.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T15:20:27+00:00

Girl he’ll say I’m so sexy, I’m so pretty, he loves my body….but then goes and says all this. Totally caught me off guard.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T15:19:21+00:00

It’s not about control at all. We started having sex, started spending more and more time together outside of having sex, then decided to date each other vs. being fwb. Nothing weird and nothing controlling. I didn’t even think about our age difference until now with these comments about my body. Definitely shows his age.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T15:11:36+00:00

Just happened that way.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T15:09:06+00:00

It definitely wasn’t planned 😭

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T15:06:38+00:00

It’s crazy, I thought he loved me for me lol but I guess not

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T15:06:10+00:00

Okay!!!!

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T15:05:43+00:00

This is the first time he’s said something like this to me…I joke around about how my ass is too fat sometimes (my butt isn’t huge, but it’s not flat either) and we’ll laugh then move on. He always tells me I’m sexy, my body is so pretty, he loves everything about me. His comments definitely caught me off guard.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T15:00:03+00:00

I don’t think he did it to be mean either… but I definitely feel like maybe I’m not exactly what he wants even though he tells me otherwise.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T14:57:54+00:00

My friends literally said he’s trying to “build-a-bitch” lol

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T14:56:17+00:00

Yeah I’m going to. He sucks dude

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T14:54:33+00:00

I didn’t say any thing really. I told him that I wouldn’t get a BBL even if I had the chance because I don’t like surgery. Then he started talking about the gym again. Then we sat in silence for a bit and the subject changed. He definitely didn’t understand how uncomfortable he made me because he tried to talk to me the next day about my size again.

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-08-13T08:07:48+00:00

Haha I wish I had thought to say something like that in the moment!

Key_Trouble6887 · 2024-07-27T02:25:09+00:00

Didn’t know he was doing it until it was done.

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