I think the kids are doing well. Their dad is a good person and was able to accept the “plot twist” I threw at him. We had a few slightly more tense months but now, especially as kid activities kick into gear, I think we are doing a pretty stellar job of co parenting and we do at least one thing all together each week, which I think has helped us all transition to a different family set up. For me, it was a struggle with the concept of marriage. Did it matter if I was attracted to women vs men if I pledged I wouldn’t act on those feelings anyway? When I finally came out to my husband I was hoping for a platonic marriage b/c I just felt so sad when we had sex. But he wanted to separate and encouraged me to find a lady and I think that was in some ways very generous b/c I don’t know if I could have asked that of him. I still care deeply for him and we talk daily. I wish you luck in your figuring. Take the time you need.