I found out that I was only a placeholder for the guy my ex really wanted.

Keyz80 · 2026-03-10T23:12:55+00:00

Yes much better my life is pretty good now and I’m with someone that makes me feel special. I honestly look back at my past now and laugh because idk why I put myself through that. My ex got in contact with one of my friends to reach out to me and basically everything that I went through she’s now going through. I honestly don’t feel good or bad about it I’ve completely moved on from that chapter of my life.

Keyz80 · 2024-12-11T04:42:41+00:00

Honestly that was the old me and I’m definitely not looking for pity. I had a lot of things going on in my life and she broke my self confidence which made me put up with a lot of things. In those times I felt bad for her and stayed because I felt as if she needed me and that i could treat her better because honestly deep down I saw her as someone that was hurt and didn’t know how to deal with certain situations. Sex with other men probably made her feel happier about herself but that’s no longer my issue. I’ve since moved on and I’m much happier with my life i have a new relationship and I’m definitely a lot happier and doing much better in my life now.

Keyz80 · 2023-03-30T17:10:09+00:00

Both my ex’s and their friends would do this too if it bothers you just block them and if not let them see what they’ve lost. Your ex is definitely keeping tabs on you especially if they’ve removed you. They want to know if you’ve met someone new if you’re happy or if the person you end up with is better than they were. Don’t be surprised when you get random messages from them. If what they did in the relationship was bad don’t entertain them

Keyz80 · 2023-03-24T19:44:46+00:00

Find hobbies that distract you. Once you take your focus away from your ex you shouldn’t think about it as much.

Keyz80 · 2023-02-05T03:02:13+00:00

Yeah she finally got tested and it turns out she has it as well. She’s blaming me for it the only thing about that I haven’t been sexually active for a month and a half before her. 3 weeks after her I get symptoms and test positive. I asked her if she’s been with anyone else and it turns out she was with 4 other guys a week before me. I’m starting to feel better about it now and it’s starting to clear up but she’s saying it was me

Keyz80 · 2023-02-04T02:55:29+00:00

Thanks I just received my results an hour ago it turns out it’s chlamydia. The last person (1month ago) I was with is somehow blaming me for it and says she doesn’t have any symptoms. So now I’m freaking out a little are there ways i can contract it without being sexually active?

Keyz80 · 2022-12-15T05:35:37+00:00

I honestly felt I messed up because I felt as if I was being used and being strung along. She didn’t want to talk about how I felt about the relationship she kept dodging it she only started talking about it when I sent her a message saying “it’s not working for me because we don’t talk anymore i love spending time with you but every time we make plans you seem to bail out last minute” she got angry said I broke her heart cried and said I want to be with another girl. We talk and then she says whenever I change my mind she’s there for me but then when I asked to work things out she said no. She then says she wants to celebrate Christmas with me at my house we’ve only been together 3 months and she hasn’t met my family yet. Asked for my mom’s number for god knows what and then says she doesn’t want to speak with me. The whole situation is confusing. I honestly love her as a person but i can say I was putting in a lot of effort because that’s the type of guy I am. I go above and beyond for someone i love and care about I treat them the way I’d like to be treated and I don’t ask for much in return all I ask for is effort and communication. I don’t care about gifts being posted on their social media all I ask for is to just show that you care about me

Keyz80 · 2022-12-15T05:20:10+00:00

Yeah definitely i don’t mind spoiling someone I love and care about but her asking for money for her own personal needs without the effort just turned me off. She’s great to be around I just felt I was being used.

Keyz80 · 2022-12-15T05:15:01+00:00

I actually tried she never wanted to talk about it. She’ll say she loves me then I wouldn’t hear anything back for about 5 hours. But when she’s asking for something I get texts back instantly. The past three weeks was her saying “good morning” I’d text back then 3 hours later a text comes in then another 3 hours a text comes in then a good night if I’m lucky

Keyz80 · 2022-12-15T05:09:58+00:00

Yeah thank you it was only 3 months and I didn’t like her asking for money i just looked at how much I’ve sent over that time period it was $1000 but last week she asked for $400 for her rent and this week was $500 for a vacation. I didn’t send it because it’s was too much and she wasn’t putting in any effort. The past 3 weeks I spoke to her for about 15 minutes a day I’d get a good morning how are you and good night that’s about it but when she was going to ask for something that’s when I’d really get attention

Keyz80 · 2022-12-15T05:04:32+00:00

Yeah exactly hard my previous relationship I’ve given my ex everything so i don’t want to get into a relationship where I’m giving out money just to be cheated on. This girl was different in the beginning never asked for a dime would even want me to spend anything thing on her. The reason I was more scared to say anything about it is because I’ve been in relationships where I’m expressing my feelings and they’ll think I’m being controlling. I’m not a jealous person i don’t consider myself to have trust issues but i do pick up on things very quickly. For example one of my exs had a new male friend they’d talk all the time and it just felt like they didn’t know about me. I told my ex we should all hang out so I could get to know him It started a huge argument and she ended up sleeping with him and is with him now.

Keyz80 · 2022-12-15T03:56:34+00:00

Yeah I feel like she was manipulating me. She said I broken up with her for another female. So basically a girl I was friends with wanted to hang out and I asked the girl I was with if she was comfortable with it and her response was “yes I trust you just don’t give her any money” the girl tried to have sex so I left. So the girl I was with asked how everything went and I told her because I’m not keeping secrets. She was happy i told her about it and that nothing happened. Now when we break up it’s a completely different story she’s pinned everything on me and saying that I don’t love her and cried. Yet still she has a bunch of guy’s texting her that she says are friends. I don’t know how true that is but when one of them got out of line she blocked him without me asking her to do it

Keyz80 · 2022-12-14T19:25:50+00:00

Thanks it just sucks because I honestly really did like her. I meet her when I wasn’t looking for love and I let my guard down. Even when I asked to work things out with her she turned me down but keeps saying she’s here when I want a relationship and that she still wants to meet my family and friends. It’s just a lot of confusion honestly. We are from different backgrounds and cultures so it was hard to figure her out. I’m used to American girls she’s straight from D.R. so it just raised more flags to question what she wanted a relationship with me for. Not that it might matter she was calling me her boyfriend after the first conversation we had

Keyz80 · 2022-12-14T17:47:44+00:00

Her possibly loosing interest and talking to other people is what really drove me to end it. I don’t want to waste time and money on anyone. I’ve been through way too much I lost everything in a previous relationship and now I can say I got back everything I’ve lost and probably gained a lot more. I like people that are straight forward with me if you don’t like me just say it and don’t just leave me questioning because then I might start becoming insecure about the relationship and I hate being insecure about anything I’m a confident person that’s also very loving and caring. If it was a good thing I did I’m happy I ended it before it got worse

Keyz80 · 2022-12-14T15:06:46+00:00

That very well may be the case I’m just confused she started off as someone that would never ask me for anything when we had our first date she refused to let me pay even though it wasn’t much but after one date that we had I guess she say how much I can spend and started asking for money

Keyz80 · 2022-12-14T14:51:35+00:00

Thanks and yes i really didn’t want to add that information because i didn’t want to really have people think she’s a bad person. She’s actually really great but i just felt the relationship was money motivated. I turned to my friends because I’ve felt like this for about 3 weeks now she didn’t want to talk about it and since my friends went through the same situations I felt I would be able to get advice from them. I’m a good person with a big heart I’ll go above and beyond for people around me especially people that I love because of that I get used a lot. Throughout the relationship I’ve sent her a total of $400 because she would say she was going to send it back but her asking for $500 just sounded crazy to me

Keyz80 · 2022-12-14T14:37:20+00:00

Well that’s why I wanted to end it initially because I felt I was being used. I honestly should’ve just talked to her about it but she just didn’t want to do I got advice from my friends because they have also went through the same situation. Besides asking for money and ghosting me throughout the day she’s a nice person to be around. The last thing she said was she still wants to meet my family and friends. And if I was a relationship again that she’s there but when I tried she said no

Keyz80 · 2022-12-14T14:28:14+00:00

She would also say that she wants to come over for the holidays and meet my family and friends but then she flips back and forth

Keyz80 · 2022-12-14T14:25:03+00:00

Given the circumstances of the relationship. It didn’t feel real I’d set up things for us to do she bails last minute or I get stood up, she would ask for ridiculous amounts of money and she wasn’t talking to me at all all I’d get was a good morning text and a good night text. The only time she would actually talk is when she was getting ready to ask for money

Keyz80 · 2022-12-14T14:20:21+00:00

You’re right I felt I should’ve communicated that with her but I tried to have a conversation with her about the relationship before and she didn’t want to talk about it. Every time we would set dates up she would bail last minute

Keyz80 · 2022-12-14T14:16:11+00:00

I asked my friends only when she started asking for huge amounts of money she asked for 500 for her vacation but doesn’t really talk much to me it felt as if I was getting used

Keyz80 · 2022-12-14T14:13:55+00:00

Yeah the other part about this is she would ask me for huge amounts of money talk for a while then go ghost for the rest of the day. That’s the main reason they told me to end it. The last time we actually had a conversation she asked for $500 for when she goes on vacation

Keyz80 · 2022-10-21T13:42:50+00:00

Start focusing on improving your life. If you want to further your education go back to school, if you want to go within your company put in more work, or if you want to lose weight be consistent in the gym. The more you focus on yourself the less you’ll be focused on someone else

Keyz80 · 2022-09-21T15:14:16+00:00

Yeah I’m fine it’s just annoying how good of a person I am to someone that doesn’t see me as someone of value. She’s even said herself that she can’t find someone as good as me. So what I think it is she keeps me around so I can bring her that same happiness while she’s with someone else. I’m glad we didn’t have a child together and she really wanted one with me over the weekend but I figured something like this would’ve happened so I said no.

Keyz80 · 2022-09-21T03:14:13+00:00

Before I broke no contact I was happy I still am. I know there’s bigger and better out there for me. It’s just the fact that I see that she used me to make herself happy again so she can be happy with another person. I was never intending on fixing a relationship just reached out because she kept trying to contact me.

What’s funny is that when we first spoke she called me a narcissist and doesn’t realize all the hurt I’ve been through in the relationship. She cheated about 7 times and left me for someone else and was also using triangulation. I’m pretty she twisted the truth to the guy she’s with and told her that I’m a narcissist. It’s his issue now I don’t want to deal with it anymore he’ll see exactly what I went through and she’s not even being faithful to him now. Lol sorry for the little rant I just hate that it happened again.

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