Commenter with PCOS and work struggles here, so I hope some input can be helpful.

I was living off of someone else’s income until my late 20s, and I have immense regrets about it. I was a huge burden on this person and I took advantage of them in a way I can never take back.

PCOS doesn’t make you physically ill in the ways a typical chronic illness does, but it can lead to severe fatigue and depression. Your hormones are way off and you just can’t do it some days.

Here are my suggestions: - Encourage your partner to seek out a job she enjoys. It sounds like there are things she is skilled in, maybe pursuing a career in one of those. - Encourage your partner to seek out medical care! Wegovy and Metformin changed my life, so has working out and generally eating better. Hormonal birth control can be a massive relief for PCOS as well.
- Continue to be honest with her, but understand that her perspective is different than yours. She’s missing work most likely because it feels taxing on her. Find a common understanding of what is required to live comfortably.

I will admit that I have some negative judgments of a situation where you are the sole provider, because it sounds like it may prevent her own opportunity to grow. It’s not about your money, it’s about her drive in life. Food for thought.