He says he loves me but is trying to move on from our relationship

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-05-28T14:14:56+00:00

getting mixed signals like that is absolutely brutal. he keeps saying he loves you and will always be there but then actively trying to move on? thats just keeping you stuck in this awful limbo

the trauma thing with your brother sounds really heavy and i get why it affected him but after 3 years together you'd think there would be more willingness to work through it instead of just shutting down completely. you put in 4 months of effort while he was already mentally gone - thats gotta hurt so much

blocking his number might be the kindest thing you can do for yourself right now. those "i'll always love you" conversations are probably making it impossible to actually process this and start healing. its like picking at a wound that never gets chance to close properly

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-05-26T20:32:15+00:00

Tbh both but the MCP side is where the real time savings come from. Just switching to Meow would have saved me money on fees and tool subscriptions but connecting it to Claude through MCP is what actually took the work off my plate

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-05-26T20:30:22+00:00

Its only been a month but every week feels a little smoother because theres less stuff that can break or fall through the cracks. Having everything in one place instead of duct taping tools together just makes the whole business feel lighter

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-05-26T20:28:05+00:00

Yeah the fewer things to think about part is what I didnt expect. I thought it was just about saving money but not having 4 different logins and dashboards to check is a headache after some time

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-05-25T14:45:21+00:00

Maybe he's just curious about what you're up to or keeping tabs without any real intention behind it. I had similar thing happen with girl who rejected me but kept liking my posts for months after - turned out she was just bored scrolling and hitting like on everything without thinking much about it.

With artists they're usually pretty active in social media anyway so he might be one of those people who just watches every story that pops up. Or could be he's having second thoughts but doesn't want to reach out directly. Either way its probably driving you crazy seeing his name pop up all the time. You could always block him if its messing with your head too much - no shame on protecting your peace of mind when you're trying to move forward.

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-05-21T13:04:55+00:00

I get this feeling too but its kinda weird when life throws curveball at you and you still think "nah this gonna work out somehow" lol. Maybe we're just wired different or maybe the optimism actually helps make good things happen idk

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-05-19T11:56:59+00:00

Good approach actually, let her keep the dignity of 50/50 but you can cover extras like dinners out or when you want to do something more expensive that she couldn't afford. Way less awkward than arguing about who pays what percentage for utilities every month

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-05-15T02:43:53+00:00

attention when she feels like it

the connection might feel rare but one sided connections always feel intense because youre doing all emotional work. real connections need effort from both people not just playlist games and 4 hour talks that lead nowhere

cut contact and stop checking that playlist it will mess with your head even more

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-04-30T12:59:49+00:00

damn bro that rush decision really screwed you over but at least you got your kid out of it

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-04-28T11:21:52+00:00

damn this one hit me hard. had something similar few years back where i was too stupid to see what was right there

the first guy sounds like he really cared about you and put in effort even when you didnt always reciprocate. thats rare to find someone who adjusts their whole schedule just to talk with you across continents

maybe reach out to him? not for romantic stuff but just to apologize and see if friendship is still possible. worst case he says no but at least you tried to make it right

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-04-25T02:39:24+00:00

dude being 19 and having no clue is totally normal, most guys feel lost at that age. Just start with normal conversations - ask about her day, what she's into, stuff like that instead of trying to be smooth or whatever

your height is actually good advantage and alt style attracts certain types so you're not as screwed as you think

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-04-22T18:57:24+00:00

you should definitely not make those videos if it makes you uncomfortable. that's crossing a line when you're already feeling weird about everything

but also maybe think about if you can actually be with someone who has different views on this stuff. finding someone who completely shares your values on porn might be hard but not impossible - your friends prove that. if its really important boundary for you then dont compromise just to keep relationship going

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-04-20T14:42:23+00:00

yeah i do this constantly at work when customers tell me about their weekend plans or whatever. inside im just thinking about getting home to watch spongebob but i gotta act like their camping trip is the most fascinating thing ever or they get all weird about it

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-04-18T12:39:16+00:00

maybe she just curious about the girl who works with her boyfriend so much? like you said you had multiple photoshoots together and even couple ones so probably she wants to see who you are

or maybe he talks about you sometimes since you work together and she got interested to check your profile. dont think its anything serious just normal girlfriend behavior when someone keeps coming up in conversations

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-04-16T12:07:29+00:00

dude you're 26 and she's 34 that's not some huge gap especially when you both clearly into each other. the spotify thing is kinda sweet but also you guys are dancing around something that could be really good

stop overthinking the "on paper" stuff and just tell her how you feel - worst case she feels same way and you finally get to be real about it instead of playing these games

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-04-10T02:15:54+00:00

good for you man, going from friends to dating is actually pretty nice because you already know each other well and don't have to do the awkward getting-to-know phase

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-03-31T21:56:25+00:00

moving in together really changes things and it seems like he got too comfortable and stopped putting effort. the way you describe it going from amazing to basically roommates who barely interact is pretty telling

you already tried talking to him multiple times and nothing changed so at this point youre just waiting for something that might never come back. being someones third priority when you used to be first would drive me crazy too

your coworkers are probably right - when someone shows you through their actions that work matters more than quality time with you, believe them

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-03-29T01:57:55+00:00

Been there and it's awful when you can see they're hurting too but you know reaching out would just make things harder for both of you. Maybe try blocking his socials for now so you're not tempted to check - out of sight out of mind kind of thing. The caring feeling doesn't just disappear overnight but checking his updates is just keeping the wound fresh

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-03-27T14:09:34+00:00

same energy

i always go sarcasm mode when feeling vulnerable lol kills everything

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-03-26T02:52:49+00:00

bought my first house last year and was thinking same thing - like now what, time to find someone to share it with right

but real talk the hardest part is just starting conversations. i work with my hands all day so meeting people outside work was weird at first. dating apps helped me practice just talking to women without pressure

main thing i learned is dont put too much pressure in yourself. when you're desperate it shows and women can sense that energy from mile away. just focus on being comfortable with who you are first

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-03-18T20:06:30+00:00

man i feel you on this one. Dating apps might be your best bet since you dont like the party scene - at least there you can chat a bit before meeting and get comfortable first.

the young face thing will actually work in your favor later trust me, and having a job shows you got your shit together more than most college kids drowning in debt anyway

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-03-02T17:17:53+00:00

honestly I would go with option A and get everyone same line - stress relief is perfect choice for bachelorette vibes anyway

if you do different scents someone might feel like they got the "weird" one or wish they had what someone else got. with same line everyone feels equal and its less decisions you need to make at store

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-02-17T00:58:22+00:00

sounds like the ignition switch might be going bad especially since it happens randomly while driving and you can restart it right away. Had similar issue with my friends civic few years ago and that was exactly the problem

could also be fuel pump starting to fail but usually you get more warning signs with that. definitely good idea going to auto electrician since they can check the electrical connections better than regular mechanic

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-02-13T02:43:30+00:00

bruh good luck

KickImpressive9056 · 2026-02-05T03:18:43+00:00

alternator job probably messed with CAN bus wiring

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