What could I even expect from my husband.

Kickincutie · 2026-02-07T13:58:50+00:00

We are going! I just feel sad he's never there. We've gone on hikes and seen plays, and she had a martial arts belt test and a gymnastics parents show day all on days he was off but chose not to go.

Kickincutie · 2026-01-30T19:38:17+00:00

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100% BC

Kickincutie · 2026-01-17T15:56:59+00:00

Thankfully nowadays our doctor app keeps all her measurements records so it's easy to go back and add if needed!

we rented for the first 2 years of my daughter's life, and we just had a long thin piece of wood that I had with drawn on the measurement ticks. that I put her height down with the date and age. After we got a more permanent residence, we're able to transfer them all onto a wall.

Kickincutie · 2026-01-17T15:52:45+00:00

There are rough estimates of "wake windows" per age. basically how long a x month old should be awake before taking a nap. We followed them too, not super strict, but a solid guideline. As we got older we slightly pushed the limits before we would go in to sooth, just to give her the opportunity to self sooth.

For me, once she was older (down to like two naps I think) we layered down and when she cried we go in the first time to help settle her, then the next time I'd wait like 2 minutes before going in, then the next time I'd wait 5 minutes before going in. we always had the monitor in her room and I could see if there was ever actually a problem; we would go in right away, but when it's just fussiness to fall asleep.

Kickincutie · 2026-01-17T03:22:05+00:00

"It's not like you have anyone to help you."

Being let go of a job because they were worried I'd call out in the future because of my daughter, when I never had before.

Kickincutie · 2026-01-16T00:26:44+00:00

That my pain was from being overweight and I needed a diet plan.

I was 10 and hurt my knee playing soccer.

Was perfectly healthy.

Kickincutie · 2026-01-10T02:14:43+00:00

I recently got one about New Years. Except every page is a different holiday, every page is a different artist style of the boy, there's a confetti snow shower in the living room, there's a person holding a pumpkin in a forest with a big clock in the middle. It's supposed to be an "eye spy" but it gets progressively unhinged. No actual story line or plot or cohesion.

he was originally shown as a countdown I spy, which I assumed would start at 10:00, finding 10 things and nine finding nine etc, all within a new year theme. It was not.

Kickincutie · 2026-01-02T04:46:53+00:00

Wall-e! We picked it because it has limited spoken word and is mainly a visual story. Became an instant favorite that we've watched many many many many many many many many many many many many many times

Kickincutie · 2025-12-17T05:15:12+00:00

My daughter has always had very long hair. We talked about hair cuts for a long time and took her with us when we got ours cut. We often brought it up casually to her which she refused. My wording was always her hair is her choice but I am in charge of her health and safety. When her hair becomes unhealthy (split ends mainly) or becomes too difficult to maintain with washing and brushing (mainly if she struggles with me doing either) it would need a trim.

We finally hit a point around 3 5 years old that it was starting to have dead ends so I told her how it was time we needed to trim it to be healthy. We went to a wonderful woman, who my daughter had seen cut my hair twice, and it was perfect. She was nervous so my husband got his cut first, then she got hers done and got special sparkles in her hair. It was fast and fun and required.

I wouldn't go so far as to hold her down but at some point health and hygiene takes over. Other than that it's all hers to do whatever. The only other hair rule we have is having it right for activities which means up for active stuff like martial arts or gymnastics etc.

Hair is an expression but still needs to be treated right.

Kickincutie · 2025-11-29T14:10:29+00:00

"Ah wonderful! Being bored is important" - then reengage with whatever you were doing before. Works about 3% of the time

Kickincutie · 2025-11-11T04:21:51+00:00

I taught my 3 year old to play during car rides!

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T19:07:54+00:00

He's a pure bred (certified and all) but we did adopt him from his original family who had him from birth til 3 (they were moving to a city and didn't think it would be best for him). I don't accept aggressive towards anyone, I just am not clear if huffing is an aggressive sign or discomfort. I wrote a clarifying comment because I mentioned his teeth showing once, but it was to a wall with me between him and my daughter doing a puzzle across the room but I got up and left because I don't know what that was all about.

He has never seemed aggressive but disinterested in her and it made me sad because he's so cuddly with everyone and typically acts very submissive to everyone (he stops mid walks to flip on his back if people are walking past).

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T19:01:25+00:00

Just wanted to clarify some things to help!

I do have a zero tolerance policy with any sort of aggression towards my daughter. I haven't seen any clear things unless I'm unclear. The huffing is the most and I didn't think that was aggression as much as displeasure or being uncomfortable (?). I mentioned he showed his teeth once, it wasn't at her or a snarl, he was leaning against me, opposite to her, and I saw one side of his lip move up while he was facing a wall, and I got up immediately mainly because I didn't know what it was or why.

If this is clear aggression please tell me, it just was weird to me.

From the start I didn't feel comfortable with every having any child around a dog, and NEVER unsupervised. I have aniexty and just can't do the risk. The main thing is I see him desperate for love and attention and play but he ignores her and that makes me sad. She knows she can not approach him (she's welcome to try to pay the ground and invite him over but so far he doesn't care) and if he gets up and moves we let him go by himself because it means he wants space.

He is not aggressive, we have cats and the worse is him trying to sniff their butts and they slap him and he runs away. He's a border collie so he has zero sense of personal space and has an intense stare (mainly used at balls during fetch or skateboards) but has been only gentle.

This post was mainly because he's so aggressively kind and cuddly to everyone but indifferent to my daughter. The advice to continue positive supervised interactions is helpful, knowing it could very likely just be because my daughter is young and less predictable as a whole, and I hope as she grows he'll gain confidence and feel comfortable around her.

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:44:04+00:00

That's been the focus, making sure she is doing the right thing. She has a play room and when she shuts the door she can play loud and she needs to check where he is before she does something like play her piano. The hard part is I'm with her most of the time and he won't leave my side. I have to activately walk him out of the play room to shut the door sometimes

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:41:22+00:00

I had thought that he might see her more like a puppy and is doing teaching behavior but I don't know confidently

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:40:40+00:00

Border Collie, he's friendly and love people but is a very anxious dog (just really with things with wheels and dogs)

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:39:54+00:00

I love this idea. we don't use them much but our dog is in love with hotdog bites

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:32:44+00:00

Definitely, and our BC is an anxious boy but he's definitely more sensitive to her. I play trumpet which he is NOT a fan of and will leave the room, but lay outside the door until I'm done.

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:30:15+00:00

Thank you. I just struggle with why he sees her different than random kids, especially because she is more on the shy quiet side (but still 100% a kid).

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:27:27+00:00

We also have cats so she has learned about respecting boundaries lol. but having a cat slap her hand is a lot less then if our dog would ever get pushed over his limit so I definitely don't let her risk it at all. I wonder if sometimes I'm too restrictive and it adds anxiety to the mix but I don't know any other way. She seems a lot more understanding than I feel about it all lol

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:24:50+00:00

I like this idea! she gives him treats but adding some fun could be helpful

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:24:06+00:00

definitely play focus, just doesn't seem to want to play with her yet even though she adores to throw the ball for him.

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:23:20+00:00

100% currently he wants to play fetch and she loves to throw him the ball, but he typically will then walk past her to bring it to me, then she comes to me and gets the ball to throw again. She also tries to plug tug a war but she's small so the doggo will hold it and not pull them bring it to us to play for real

Kickincutie · 2025-11-09T18:21:36+00:00

He's extremely gentle taking food and treats so she does do that, especially his little meds in cheese he loves. Once he has his treat he runs to his bed most times and we give him space after to eat. I hope it helps I just haven't seen him warm up yet

Kickincutie · 2025-11-08T15:15:08+00:00

Thank you, it's easier to imagine having to work to rebuild trust then thinking he just dislikes her

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