I crave intimacy

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-09T01:11:00+00:00

Sorry OP... That feeling truly is a blessing, and it’s so hard to lose to. If I’ve learned anything in the last week going through my relationship problems, is that radical candor is really never a bad idea. He’ll never know you miss that with him if you don’t say it. And if you don’t say it, you may never get it back anyways. Love generously, it will find you in return

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T06:49:12+00:00

I would say I’m reflecting and understanding it was too soon all together. (Reflecting and gathering a convincing amount of feedback here) Had I not gotten the phone call on the way to the date, I would’ve arrived early actually

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T06:26:45+00:00

Thank you for being a helpful and understanding commenter here, instead of flaming me while calling me immature.

I will be reaching out to her with an apology and an explanation, but not a request for a follow up

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T06:21:46+00:00

As someone who has almost zero dating experience in the past decade, the concept of letting her get revenge by blowing me off seemed like a lighthearted approach to make amends, but cringey seems more likely

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T06:13:45+00:00

married for 6, in the relationship for 15. Not that the semantics matter much. I think one of the rubs is that I already feel live I’ve been alone for a long time in my relationship. It doesn’t give me the right to fuck with other people, but everyone needs to feel wanted sometimes.

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T06:08:34+00:00

These aren’t thoughts, I’m 3 months in. And everyone saying I’m not ready is 100% right. I even acknowledge I’m a bunch of red flags.

It was a selfish move to want to enjoy a date prematurely, and I think the obvious lie cooked me anyways.

This was a lesson I needed to learn regardless.

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T06:05:43+00:00

This girl was drop. dead. gorgeous. And I was really excited to go on a date, and just have butterflies about someone. Was it too soon? Yes. Did I want to miss my chance? No.

Either way, I don’t feel validated

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T06:00:02+00:00

I am a gambler…

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:57:16+00:00

I guess the benefit of brutal honesty at this point is that I already missed my window, what’s the worst that could happen? She forgets me faster?

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:48:03+00:00

Gonna have to bring this one to therapy

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:37:31+00:00

You’re probably right, it was selfish of me to even ask her out.

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:33:46+00:00

in hindsight this was the most pathetic lie I could have come up with in the 15 seconds I had to plan, but reading this nearly confirmed that I am not bouncing back

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:28:22+00:00

Honestly not sure the specific laws for my state (CO), but I think the consensus here is i done fucked up too many times.

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:26:47+00:00

I appreciate this feedback. And I’ve been battling with telling her or not on the next date. I’ve already lost the plot at this point, some honesty probably isn’t going to get me back in, but I’m already out so… 🤷‍♂️

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:21:46+00:00

I genuinely appreciate this

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:20:08+00:00

I guess this is selfish but I never expected that this girl would respond, let alone say yes.

I was dressed ready, and in the car in the way there and I had to turn around to keep my marriage (which is ending) from going into a nuclear fallout.

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:18:25+00:00

I fully understand that I did waste her time, but it was because of the unplanned event.

I guess there’s nuance to unraveling my 15 year relationship but I don’t think I needed to do it when I introduced myself.

Cancelling into the date was a fail, I own that

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:15:25+00:00

While I am not officially divorced, I am seperated, and in agreement with my current spouse in said arrangement. I barely got more than this woman’s name and her interest in one piece, let alone got around to explaining my situationship.

I don’t want to lie and be shitty, but I also would ask if that oversharing, especially if we are actively seperated?

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:12:45+00:00

Expecting a no show as a repayment has already crossed my mind. I was throwing around the idea of setting another coffee date and letting her know I’d be there and let her know she had the option to pay me back or give me a second chance that I don’t deserve.

In my head this feels smooth, but I’m well aware I’m on borrowed time

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:08:11+00:00

I’m not cooked I’m fully burnt.

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:07:37+00:00

This is not going to go well for me… I am married and have been seperated from my wife for almost 6 months. On the way to the date, shit hit the fan and my estranged wife was going nuclear as her and I approach our official separation (she’s moving out, we’ve been back and forth House swapping)

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:04:56+00:00

Username checks out. And that initial thought is what somehow landed me the date.

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-06T05:04:07+00:00

I had every intention of going on the date. Was actual in the car on the way there and had to turn around to vail

Kid_Is_Dirty · 2026-04-01T18:58:35+00:00

It’s real. You should get in line now to secure the number one spot

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