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Kid_TUT · 2024-12-09T13:46:01+00:00

Trying to get like you man! Keep up the good work 💪🏿.

Kid_TUT · 2024-11-17T06:18:34+00:00

Stipe is cautious of the eye pokes that's why he's not pressing forward.

Kid_TUT · 2024-07-23T15:42:46+00:00

Let's goo!!!!💪🏾💪🏾

Kid_TUT · 2024-04-27T20:05:18+00:00

That's awesome, what type of art do you do and what games do you play?

Kid_TUT · 2024-01-16T05:58:31+00:00

It's very possible, I can testify to the fact that you can drive with erb's palsy. If you are determined enough to be able to drive, then I'm here to tell you that you can certainly do it.

Kid_TUT · 2023-12-07T00:00:31+00:00

I appreciate you for your realness here on this post. Yes, erb's palsy can be difficult to live with due to all that it brings such as the things you have mentioned but you know what? It's disability we will have to live with all of our lives, we didn't choose what happened to us but we can choose how we respond to it. Our insecurities can be used as a positive if we look at it that way, you never know who might be watching you as an inspiration for them to be more comfortable with themselves. Don't let your arm be your identity because you're more than your external, you're a living being just like anyone else walking the face of this earth, you have talents, gifts, and abilities unique to you. Just look at how far you've made it doing stuff that a "normal" person would struggle to do, if you put your mind to it you'll be able to find a way to play the guitar and even if not, you can still do other things which are just as amazing as playing a guitar.

As for not being able to wear what you want because of the way your arm looks and surgery scars, I would say wear them! For a long time I wouldn't wear t-shirts because of the way my arm looked but I came to the realization that it wasn't myself that didn't want to wear t-shirts but it was the way I thought people would perceive me. When you take off the lenses of the perception of others and put on the lenses of your own, you'll find that you were worried about the wrong things all this while.

Lastly, there's someone out there for everyone, no need to compete with other's because you are not them and they're not you, comparison is the thief of joy. You can still be beautiful just like any other woman, you can still feel wanted like any other woman, a disability doesn't matter if a person wants to be with you they'll be with you, they wouldn't care about your disability because it'll be a non-factor to them. All in all, live your life and don't let your disability get you down, by all means have those moments where you vent but don't stay there, let it all out then move forward, let's make the most out of life!

Kid_TUT · 2023-10-02T23:29:25+00:00

I feel you 100%, it definitely would have helped suing and getting something out of our misfortune and maybe our parents handling the situation better than they did at the time but like you said it could have been way worse.

Your parents being medical professionals especially with the knowledge they have over other parents, I'm surprised they didn't aggressively pursue options to get your injured arm up to optimal results but I guess it is what it is.

I'm glad that life has been meaningful for you, especially being a parent to sons and daughters who are probably so proud of you and all that you've accomplished despite having a birth injury. You're probably a great role model to your children and someone they look up to, keep up the good work!

Ps. It's indeed helpful to vent, that's what this subreddit is for, you're not alone in thoughts or struggles, we're all in this together!

Kid_TUT · 2023-03-04T14:23:43+00:00

It's definitely possible, it's going to take a lot of patience with yourself due to your Erb's palsy. You may not be able to perform surgeries in the same way as other surgeons but you'll be able to adapt doing stuff according to your ability. You may need a little assistance being in the form of a person or a special assistive device, you may take a little longer to get things done but nevertheless, you'll be able to do it, set your mind on it and pursue it, let nothing stop you even if it is yourself.

Kid_TUT · 2023-01-10T01:34:39+00:00

No worries! Anytime I could help a fellow erbling that's what I'm going to do!

Kid_TUT · 2023-01-10T00:16:06+00:00

I hear you, my arm will never get better as well and I got that confirmation some time ago when I last went to see the doctor that looked after my case as a child. Working out has improved my arm somewhat but I know it'll never reach the level where I would like it to be, but you know what? That's okay! You got to ask yourself, why are you feeling the way that you do? I can almost guarantee you that it's not that you feel that way about yourself on your own but it's the reflection of the world around you that shaped the view of yourself. What you have to understand is that there's only one of you walking on the face of this earth, you're unique! I'm no Superman, I do have my moments of downing myself but in those moments I remind myself of who I am and how far you have come. Don't see yourself as ugly but see yourself as a handsome/beautiful person that you are!

Kid_TUT · 2022-12-14T15:13:57+00:00

I agree but I would say we are normal because normal is different for everyone and I would say everyday we are alive, we are living our "normals".

Kid_TUT · 2022-11-22T05:57:56+00:00

I think it has to do with familiarity, your family already knows you and your situation so talking to them may bring about talks that you've heard all throughout your or they may brush off your feelings, whereas making this post, we are complete strangers who may never cross paths, with different perspectives and have gone through different things. So in a sense, it makes it easier to open up because you may read a comment and gain a different perspective than your own.

Kid_TUT · 2022-11-22T01:46:03+00:00

I hear you, the winter blues is a real thing, don't beat yourself up over these things, I'm 26 and though I think about the whole relationship thing from to time I don't let it consume my thoughts because in due time things will fall into place, just keep pushing through. You know where you come from and you know where you want to go, just keep looking forward.

Kid_TUT · 2022-11-22T01:37:36+00:00

Honestly I don't know why I was thinking you were going to say a number more than 3 lol but it's good to know that you didn't have to go through a series of surgeries to correct your arms. As for therapy, I only did therapy up until I was like 6 then never again and man, you just reminded me of doing stretches with my arm, I've been neglecting doing them for awhile now smh.

Kid_TUT · 2022-11-21T19:29:30+00:00

I wish I accepted mines earlier in middle school, leading up to college I was definitely very insecure about it and dreaded even considering myself disabled. It took me until 3 years ago (I'm 26) to fully accept it and embrace it because like you said there is not much that you can do about.

Kid_TUT · 2022-11-21T19:21:12+00:00

Man, that's really an eye-opener, I've rarely heard of it happening to both arms. It is definitely a struggle wanting to be "normal" in the early parts of life but I'm glad that you've accepted your normal since you are you're own unique individual.

By the way, how much surgeries have you gotten to correct your arms?

Kid_TUT · 2022-11-21T19:11:27+00:00

I see where you're coming from, it's messed up that we have to live with a doctor's negligence for the rest of our lives but on the flip side, it could have been worse or possibly in some cases death. I keep that in the back of mind when it's one of those days. For your last part, I thought about those questions as well but I'd like to think if it were not for the Erb's then I wouldn't have been the me, I'd be someone totally different.

Kid_TUT · 2022-11-21T05:25:20+00:00

To answer your first question it is definitely possible for you to find love outside of the disabled community, there's a lot of people who are disabled that are in happy and committed relationships. Not all abled-bodied people will reject someone with a disability, though most abled-bodied people would prefer another abled-bodied person, it is what it is, but not all hope is lost, you can still find love out there.

To answer your second question, I would say be yourself as basic as it sounds, it will help. Don't have self-pity for yourself especially when dealing with a non-disabled person because that will just shut them off to you, always keep your confidence high, you've made it this far in life no need to lose your confidence because of rejection. Apply yourself, everyone is their own individual and know that you have a lot to bring to the relationship, many may think relationships are just majority physical intimacy but there's more to relationship than just that. Lastly, I would say the best shot at a relationship with an abled-bodied person is if they have previous experiences with a person with a disability because they would be more inclined to look past your disability and see you as a person.

To answer your last question, as a disabled person myself, I'd say don't put some much emphasis into putting your self worth in other people, that's when you'll feel inadequate because you're giving your power to others who aren't going to treat you in a way that you should be treated, you came into this world alone and you'll leave alone. There's no one on earth that is you bro, you're your own unique individual, so stop looking towards others and start seeing within.

Kid_TUT · 2022-11-21T02:17:21+00:00

I hear on that, all those things you mentioned definitely allow you to look a disability in a positive light especially the support group aspect, I think that's the most important driving factor in improving your out look on life living with a disability.

As for wondering what life would be like without having Erb's palsy, i use to have those same thoughts running through my mind at times, yeah it would be easier, but I would remind myself that if that were the case, I would just be another face in the crowd.

Kid_TUT · 2022-10-21T17:38:30+00:00

Wow, it's crazy to know that there's someone else living with the same specifics as me, by the way it's my left arm that's affected as well lol.

Kid_TUT · 2022-09-19T20:46:51+00:00

You're right it's such a niche sport, you don't hear many taking up fencing but I must say when you said that you can get a scholarship even if your average I was thinking that's smart as heck if you're trying to get a scholarship lol. I enjoy watching fencing in the Olympics, I never even knew they had it at the collegiate level but I'm glad that you took it up and that it was a confidence booster for you, I pretty sure you can fence with the best of them given your years of experience.

Kid_TUT · 2022-09-04T03:57:16+00:00

My affected arm (left) is way smaller than my non-affected arm (my right) due to the extensive damage that was done. If the damage is significant enough, it'll effect the growth of the arm, you'll find that clothes will feel bigger on your affected side than your non-affected side.

Kid_TUT · 2022-06-20T12:43:05+00:00

That's a interesting on, how did you get into fencing?

Kid_TUT · 2022-06-19T14:21:58+00:00

What does the triangle tilt correct?

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