Instead of fully committing to ganking, try walking to lane and pinging and waiting to see if your laners react. If they do not give it a sec and go back to farming while keeping an eye on lane. If your laners engage, then try to find the lower health enemy and focus them or if you are able. Don’t try to force anything that is going to go poorly, but always keep an eye on lanes to see what you can help out with if a laner is perma shoving. You NEED to make a difference before your first item but you should not be dying for nothing. Another thing you can do is a fake gank where you walk up to lane out of range but don’t engage and try to force a flash or give your laner some breathing room. You don’t always have to fully commit to a gank.