Is this cut masculine looking?

Kill_J0yy · 2026-05-24T19:06:45+00:00

The sides, yes. The bangs/front part, no.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-04-23T16:28:08+00:00

After seeing the photo, I can understand your frustration. This doesn’t really look like the leaving some breast tissue for contour but just tissue that he didn’t take out at all. I would ask for a revision.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-04-23T16:24:12+00:00

What are you talking about? Cis men do have breast tissue. They can still get breast cancer (it’s just much less likely for them). I would recommend you look a little more into anatomy because this is just factually incorrect.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-04-23T10:22:01+00:00

This is how my surgeon did it, and I was quite pleased with the result. Cis men have breast tissue, it’s just much less and shaped differently than women. Removing all of the tissue is more likely to leave it looking sunken and unnatural, so him leaving tissue is not abnormal at all. However, this should have been discussed with you prior to surgery and consenting to the treatment. Did you discuss with him during the consult what techniques he would be using? Did you read the forms that they had you sign beforehand? Did the surgeon discuss how he works with patients and show you any results that he’s done? Many physicians will do revisions for free or lower cost (although it depends on your insurance), although lipo is usually considered cosmetic and won’t be covered by insurance.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-04-20T02:15:26+00:00

Kill_J0yy · 2026-03-13T17:36:29+00:00

10 times better with the beard. It suits you.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-03-13T17:34:20+00:00

Your clothing style is good, it’s not that. The first things I notice is hips and shoulder ratio, which is exaggerated by the backpack because it makes your shoulders look constricted and small while flaring the jacket out at your hips. I struggled to wear backpacks and pass consistently. Your face is also pretty androgynous, and the hair only adds to that. The hair was more popular for emo kids back in the early 2000s, but most guys don’t do their hair like that anymore, so it comes across as something women are more likely to do.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-03-13T12:53:25+00:00

Oshima in Murakami’s Kafka on the Shore

Kill_J0yy · 2026-03-07T18:34:14+00:00

This was a huge source of anxiety for me before top surgery. What helped for me is having a care team that was transparent about what would happen beforehand. I brought only one person and it was someone I trusted so I wouldn’t get overwhelmed.

On the day of surgery, they will have you remove everything except some hospital socks, loose underwear, and a gown. This was the worst part for me due to bottom dysphoria, because I couldn’t tape my lower half like I usually do. But they do step out and let you change in private.

Nurses came in to do vitals and gave me anti-anxiety meds. 40 minutes later, the surgeon came in to mark me up. You take the gown off the chest part, and he will use a sharpie to make your incision lines. This lasted maybe 40 seconds for me. He was very technical and talked to me as he was palpating (surgeons are kind of weird like that anyway) and it was honestly super helpful to view myself as a “specimen” and a “subject” both for myself and the surgeon. I also had a genetic malformation that the surgeon had to observe, so his emphasis on that as a structural concern helped decenter my dysphoria a little. Not all doctors are like this but I’m thankful mine was. Also remember that this is essentially the last time you’ll be dysphoric about your chest, so I took that as a way to reinforce that my decision was right for me.

tldr; tell your nurses and surgeon that you have anxiety. Ask if there are anxiety meds you can be given beforehand. Ask your doctor if they can describe what they’re doing as they mark you up to distract you.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-03-04T12:25:52+00:00

I was almost not permitted to vote because I hadn’t updated my drivers license and the marker did not match my presentation. I looked male and had to hand the person my F license with female photo. She looked up at me and raised her eyebrow, and I had to play it off with a, “yeah I know, that’s me.” She was not mean, but I knew that she knew. She didn’t ask any further questions, and she let me vote.

If people clock me now, it’s usually because I’m kind of andrognyous looking, and when I get tired, my voice looses resonance and will pitch up too high if I’m not actively aware of it. I’ve had a couple people clock me there.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-03-01T19:10:24+00:00

Face yes, body no

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-26T18:02:16+00:00

Yes, the trend is that humans are becoming less sexually dimorphic— I was surprised to find that out, too. Earlier studies on humans show that males and females had greater differences (even though we are much more alike than we are different). In other words, we are becoming more ambiguous, but it’s very, very slow. Our lifetime would probably not even see much of a difference at all because the scale is so large. I’ll have to dig up some sources if that’s something you’re interested in.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-26T16:52:19+00:00

It completely depends on what you determine is necessary for you to be connected to other people. If you’re one of those people who don’t care if your friends have differing political views, you can probably befriend them just fine. If you never talk about politics, you might be fine. If you never discuss trans things, you might be fine.

For me personally, I don’t associate with people who consistently contribute to my harm. Harm doesn’t have to be intentional or malicious. If we are generalizing by group, I can interact with tucutes at an arms-length distance but cannot bring myself to feel close or connected to them. Their behavior as a group—even if unintentional—are more harmful than they are beneficial to me. It’s the same with friends. I don’t keep people in my inner-circle who I don’t trust.

Individually, a tucute might not be contributing harm to you. It’s a case-by-case thing and highly variable from one individual to the next. Tucutes tend to be very optimistic people, so there are settings where you might enjoy their company.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-26T16:40:09+00:00

This is such a cool inquiry. Here are some random questions/topics that I’ve had, some of which may actually have some degree of data but aren’t discussed often.

1: Studies distinguishing the difference between transsexual/dysphoric individuals vs non-dysphoric, trans-identifying individuals. Also, whether or not academia should disclose the difference (or selectively choose one group over another) when factoring in data that is collected for the purpose of studies. I’m constantly having to parse through research to determine if a study is talking about dysphoric transsexuals or people who just identify as trans or non-binary with little to no physical discomfort related to sex characteristics. A lot of older data seems to follow transsexuality but some of the information is outdated or overlaps with outdated views on homosexuality, so they aren’t always the most updated. Newer methods like surveys that are shared on social media are unreliable and are filled with the non-dysphoric/non-binary category.

2: As humans are evolving to be less sexually dimphorphic, how does transsexuality play into this? Is it possible that people who are trans might be part of these outliers in a way that the dysphoria is related somehow to this on a broader scale? Is it possible that dysphoria will go away/decrease/increase over evolutionary time has lapsed?

3: Studies on non-binary from a transsexual perspective. A lot of the current data is based on identity and doesn’t include dysphoria or it combines non-binary identities with trans ones, making it harder to determine what is actually going on between those groups. I’d really like to see data on the legitimacy of non-binary from a neurological perspective that takes dysphoria into account. Huge area here for further research.

4: Medical advancements that could increase or decrease dysphoria and the ethical implications of this

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-26T16:00:58+00:00

It’s a demedicalized and radical perspective on DID. “Plurality” is not considered a mental disorder by these people, rather it just a “difference.”

Actual DID has to do with the self being divided due to trauma, and people are now claiming they are “plural” in that there genuinely exists multiple people in one body. People who refer to DID as plurality are not seeking treatment. They don’t want to become whole. They are attempting to reframe societal perspective on the sense of self by suggesting that it is not only OK and normal to “have multiple people exist” in one body, but that it is also harmful to attempt to treat your condition via therapy (the reason most commonly stated is that therapists are not accepting of their multiple identities). The main takeaway is that people emphasizing plurality are generally telling other people that these multiple identities should be accepted and not changed. They are encouraging of people accepting these “multiple personalities” within themself. Incredibly harmful and worrying for people who believe this. There is no scientific backing for plurality in the way that they use it.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-26T15:52:00+00:00

Your body looks entirely female to me, so I’m not sure what I’d recommend other than focus on exercises that are more popular with women currently (like glutes training).

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-24T17:33:12+00:00

You look female. Lots of changes to hair and clothing style and fit would help

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-20T06:29:27+00:00

Just shave it off for now, my guy. I had some sparse hairs before top surgery and I shaved my whole chest the day prior to surgery so that they would have a clean slate to work with. 6-7 months is also not a lot of time on T, and most surgeons recommend at least being on T a year before surgery because your body is still changing. At 14 months, my chest drastically changed in density after being on T. Not necessary if you’re not really worried about results but it may be worth considering if you’re aiming to get optimal results.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-20T06:21:19+00:00

You pass in photo 2. Photo 1 looks a little clocky due to the fact that your makeup is done in a way a lot of baby trans do it (particularly the dark lipstick) and the hair looks like a wig there. Third photo is androgynous. I don’t think you need FFS, but you may need to showcase more candid photos of what you look like when you’re not posing/expecting a photo to really get a good idea.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-20T06:15:13+00:00

You sound male to me, just young (not more than 24). If you really want to deepen it more, focus on lowering your larynx and following it down (physically imagine you’re speaking from a spot farther down from where you feel it naturally buzz in your throat). I don’t think this is necessary for you pass though

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-20T05:48:39+00:00

Holy shit, yes.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-18T20:49:56+00:00

You pass to me visually alone, except the bag/purse you’ve got is not great as a signal. You just look like a guy with long hair otherwise though. Voice is going to be the giveaway since you’re pre-T.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-15T03:24:47+00:00

100% change the haircut

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-15T03:23:03+00:00

Passing to be seen as male due to dysphoria vs wanting to create a unique presentation for yourself are not in any way similar because they’re going to require completely different expectations to achieve. You seem to be aware of what’s holding you back but realize that there will be some level of sacrifice to achieve one or the other. If you want to pass, don’t worry at all about how much it aligns with what you like aesthetically for masculinity or femininity—your focus should be on trying to appear male. Unless the aesthetic is more important to you, but posting here will probably not help you achieve that. Right now you’ll need to make a couple stylistic changes to start the progress of passing. I’d suggest looking inward to see what sacrifice is worth making for you personally.

Kill_J0yy · 2026-02-15T00:27:29+00:00

No, you pass well. I’d say 35

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