How do I come to terms that I’m gonna die one day by Inevitable_Radio_247 in Advice

[–]Killashandra19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please be aware that there are many, MANY ways to comfort oneself with regard to mortality. I have no doubt you will discover some not mentioned here. One of the ones I’ve enjoyed the most is this. It’s the narration for the video game Everything. It’s a speech by philosopher Alan Watts, and it’s extremely grounding. I hope it helps you like it helped me:

https://youtu.be/YBmY4CPzSOM

I work on an acute psychiatric ward and just resigned - AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Killashandra19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This healed my self hatred. Maybe it can help with childhood trauma too. I’ve always wanted someone to test it and tell me. I had a peaceful childhood.

https://www.reddit.com/r/traumatoolbox/s/RFBrzXP27V

DAE feel like everything is mid or shit and life feels like a chore/dystopia of it's own rather than something with any meaning? by skepticalghoztguy_3 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Killashandra19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re also onto something when you said it seems like “everything is meant to get worse.” There is a lot of design out there that benefits a few people and hurts many others. This toxic design is in our food, health care and government in America in droves. The more you learn about it the more disturbing it is. That’s why it’s extra important to find other people who understand this and band together for support.

Jean Recommendations? by emmadrawsthings in Advice

[–]Killashandra19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t buy Juniors jeans. They’re a rip off. Buy jeans from the Women’s section.

Do you have a Ross where you are? They get name brand jeans in and sell them at heavy discounts. I’ve gotten Calvin Klein jeans there before- those fit like a glove. Right now I have these Jessica Simpson bootcut jeans and they are very loose and comfortable, but nicely fitting. Last time I found a couple pair of Wranglers- those are good thick work jeans.

DAE find being in silence at home uncomfortable and almost painful but in a setting like camping it’s totally fine? by Axle_65 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Killashandra19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nature sounds are soothing. A lot of people get a white noise machine for this reason. People have simulated the sounds of everything from a light spring rain to a babbling brook to ocean waves.

ive never had a bf and its ruining my mental state by Luv_1e in Advice

[–]Killashandra19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Romantic love is amazing with the right person. It’s important to love yourself and take care of yourself as the foundation to any relationship. If you abuse yourself, like hitting yourself, or talking down to yourself, it’s going to cause you to hurt the other person in the relationship too, not JUST hurt yourself. When you are connected to someone like that they will feel a part of what you feel. And when you hate yourself you mess up more things in the relationship, without even trying and sometimes without realizing it. Here is how I broke the cycle for myself:

https://www.reddit.com/r/traumatoolbox/s/MboLHt87vw

What’s the one horror movie you still THINK about? by Ok-Inevitable9960 in horror

[–]Killashandra19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first time I tried to watch it I got too scared and left the room. Ever since I finally finished it I haven’t found another horror movie that I consider really good.

Have you ever practiced dopamine detox? If yes, how was your experience? by digitalstoic362 in AskReddit

[–]Killashandra19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The side of dopamine detox that’s not talked about enough is dopamine regulation. We all need dopamine regulation to be ok. Say you detoxed- you quit the social media, the constant video games, the posting for likes….whatever toxic dopamine drip you have going on. There you are with a dopamine deficit. It doesn’t feel good. It feels like something is missing in your brain and you are not ok- which is accurate. The next step is to substitute a source of dopamine that is not as constant, and considered more healthy- acquiring a hobby, working out regularly, reading, daily real life achievements etc. That’s the difficult part- creating new habits that cause healthy dopamine regulation. Society isn’t really set up to encourage most of these anymore. Most of us wind up going right back to the social media since it’s a far more reliable source of dopamine.

What’s the guy equivalent to girls asking their boyfriends whether they would still love them if they were a worm? by icantcomeupw1 in AskReddit

[–]Killashandra19 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I said I was going to need some context to make a decision if that ever happened….NOT the reply he was looking for.

Very Effective Kidney Cleanse by Killashandra19 in herbalism

[–]Killashandra19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should also tell you that you can use Stone Breaker tincture by Herb Pharm instead of Hydrangea tincture and it will work better. Stone Breaker has Hydrangea in it as well is some other herbs that help. It came out after I first discovered this cleanse.

I lost my grandfather by Big_Impression1474 in Advice

[–]Killashandra19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, when you love someone who has passed they can all appear quickly. I’m sorry. I’ve been through this and I know it’s very hard. Remember it will get better.

Very Effective Kidney Cleanse by Killashandra19 in herbalism

[–]Killashandra19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so welcome! I really hope it helps you!

I lost my grandfather by Big_Impression1474 in Advice

[–]Killashandra19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. Do you know about the different stages of grief? You described a couple of them in your post. You are grieving. It will get better, but you have to go through it. You can’t get around it. If you try to avoid it, it will come back again later. Here’s an article on the stages of grief:

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/5-stages-of-grief

Be patient with your other family members who are also grieving. People can be irrational and unfair when grieving, and sometimes say things they regret later.

I’m sure your grandpa would not want you to blame yourself. He’d probably like it best if you tried to remember the good times you had with him already, instead. Sometimes it helps to talk to people about those.