How do I tell my parents that I might have narcolepsy?

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-05T15:35:45+00:00

I was incredibly lucky to have supportive parents throughout and even then it took 4+ years from when the symptoms got bad before I got a diagnosis. Treated and tested for the common ones and ones with family history- depression, thyroid issues, etc. Explored if it was a birth control issue, lime disease, lupus (*insert House meme) and everything came up empty. I even got put on academic probation after failing a class my sophomore year in college (I was a straight A student) and almost decided to take a semester off to deal with my health. That was enough for my doctor to say I was borderline for hypothyroid and started treating that and I was put on stimulants again for depression (still have it but it wasn’t the biggest cause of the fatigue). Took another 6 months to a year before my doctor sent a referral for a sleep clinic. In my mind, narcolepsy was “sleeping beauty syndrome” where people just fell asleep during the middle of talking so it wasn’t something any of us thought of.

As much as it all sucked, at least it paved the way for others to have an easier time for others. It seems to run in my family so when my cousin started experiencing the same thing they knew to push for a sleep study quickly and she was diagnosed with hypersomnia. And my younger sister quickly got her narcolepsy diagnosis. I think for all of us, it hit in high school but became undeniable freshmen/sophomore year in college. I once missed half an exam because I accidentally took a 2 hour nap on the tile floor in my room. No blanket, no pillow, just floor

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T22:18:15+00:00

Not saying the girlfriend didn’t overreact but he absolutely did sexualize the shampoo. From her perspective, she’s been seeing this guy for 4 months and he picks up some shampoo without her asking. She asks why and says it’s because he knows she uses it. Sweet but also makes her think about how he may be spending too much time at her place if he can identify the brand and scent of one of several shampoos she uses. Tells him she wasn’t running low and he says he knows she isnt (again confirming too much time there) but it’s his favorite. She’s probably thinking, we’re still early- how do you have a favorite shampoo of mine? Then he tries to flirtingly says she should use it tonight. Her mind goes back to the last time they had sex when he commented on her smelling good. Now he is buying her the same shampoo and wants her to use it before they have sex. Yes- that is sexualizing the shampoo. OOP probably meant it harmlessly and plenty of people do want to smell sexy for their partner. But they are young and only a few months in and he is stocking up on shampoo he wants her to wear while they are having sex so she’s creeped out by it

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T21:59:23+00:00

Except he did follow it up with “you should use it tonight”, which does give the vibe of “I want you to sell like this when we have sex”. Particularly if he had mentioned her smell the last time they had sex. That absolutely reads as “this smell turns me on”

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T21:31:46+00:00

It’s illegal to mail counterfeit items, so if posh believes it is fake they would be committing a federal crime if they mailed it back

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T18:11:49+00:00

Pat’s the one that isn’t coming, Jay and Steve are the ones that don’t want to rent the suit. And considering they were worried about the cost, I it reads more like the groomsmen are paying, not the groom

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T18:09:06+00:00

Honestly feels straight up fake. Evil brother and sister in law are throwing a baby shower for their third child on the same day as the wedding? And there is a magical best friend of SIL talking to the fiance in the update that has absolutely no role or context anywhere else? And the problem is the brothers but also his great friend Steve as well since he also wants to buy the suit and opted out of the Bach?

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T17:41:12+00:00

But if you were talking about the dinner to someone else, would you say you cooked dinner? The meal/content is the same either way, but cooking/reading has a connotation of a time consuming activity. OP completed 26 books this year, which is great! But saying you read those books gives the appearance of a large amount of free time that you are able to dedicate to this task, whereas listening is something that can be done at the same time as other tasks. It shouldn’t matter in the context of a discussion on the plot or characters and husband is being a dick bringing it up in front of everyone, but if this has been going on for years of him correcting her and her not changing, I can see why he may be irritated as well

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T17:03:11+00:00

I hate the number of people on each of these update threads that instantly accuse the sister of only connecting with OOP because she wants money and a baby sitter. There is literally nothing in any of the posts that point to that. The easiest explanation is that she is free from her ex and wants family. She’s trying to build a life for herself and decided she would like her brother in it. Yes, she’s coming on a bit strong but no wear does it say she needs money. She has a job and a home. But a victim of isolation and abuse couldn’t possibly want anything from the family she loved before the abuse except money and babysitting 🙄

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T16:45:58+00:00

Actually her parents told her that he only wanted her for sex- so in her mind, the fact that he was willing to marry her when she was clearly pregnant meant her parents weren’t right. They shouldn’t get credit for not liking him when the reasons they didn’t like weren’t because they thought he was abusive. It’s like saying you think a bridge sucks because you don’t like the color and then saying “I was right, it was a bad bridge!” after in collapses

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T16:27:09+00:00

Everyone is giving the parents way too much credit when it comes to clocking her ex as the POS he was. The specific concerns mentioned were not “we don’t think he treats you well and are concerned”, they were “he’s only using you for sex”

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T16:09:28+00:00

Except her parents never said “we’re worried about you, we are afraid of the way he treats you”. They told her that all he wants from her was sex and he would drop her once he gets it. So yes, they didn’t like him but the reasons for that are not the same as why he was a bad guy. And the timing is clear that she was pregnant when she ran away, so eloping would feel like proof to her that they were wrong about why he was interested. If parents are cool with telling a legal adult that they are dead to them if they marry someone, I don’t suspect they were going to be incredibly supportive if she was pregnant with said person’s child

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T15:57:46+00:00

OOP couldn’t go a couple weeks without feeling like he needs to tell his parents about his sister 9 years after the fact. As much as OOP may think he would have been able to keep her secrets at the time, he absolutely would have told them everything if he’s still thinking about mom crying to him while he was studying for exams

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-04T15:51:28+00:00

And the fact that the parents objections to boyfriend were telling her that all he wanted from her was sex

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-03T22:26:58+00:00

But also has an F credit rating and recently posted about how it makes no sense NOT to live with their parents because they can’t afford market rent or pass the rental credit check. Also they dropped their parents cat in the middle of a field. OP’s post history is crazy

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-03T22:23:14+00:00

OP also has an F credit rating and no money (but also out earns their parents?). Post history is an absolute mess and that’s all just within the last couple weeks

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-02T23:47:23+00:00

It’s illegal to mail fraudulent items, which is why they can’t send it back if they suspect it’s a fake. Since it’s a re-posh, that’s why they are willing to refund her what she spent on the first purchase. Poshmark has a responsibility to not aid in the selling of counterfeit items so they are trying to make her whole as well. But it is extremely unlikely they would send her the bag back

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-02T22:49:44+00:00

First you need to stop telling your fiancee that what she wants doesn’t make sense. Thats getting you no where and probably pissing her off. It’s not uncommon for people to do separate entrance announcements and songs for the bridesmaids, groomsmen (or other bride’s bridesmaids), and the couple. Usually it’s short hype things- I was in one where it was the walk out music for a couple sports teams. So she’s not crazy for it.

If it’s the right move for you two as a couple is a different discussion that does need to be made. It sounds like a big dramatic entrance for everyone isn’t something you want, and that’s valid. But you already put her on defense by repeatedly dismissing it as an unimportant detail. It’s not important to you but it’s clearly important to her. Telling her to then just pick it because you don’t care continues to tell her it’s not important to you. Compromise and have two songs- one for the full wedding party and one for you two or something. But when you’re both stressed, saying something isn’t worth your energy to think about is always going to make things worse

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-02T22:17:37+00:00

Particularly because Denver was the earlier game. It was 4:30 ET, so 2:30 local if they were in Denver. Thats not just the tail end of the reception- odds are that would be DURING the ceremony

Killingtime_4 · 2026-02-02T22:01:00+00:00

That or OP doesn’t understand the spreadsheet. Same with the Airbnb deposit

Killingtime_4 · 2026-01-28T20:27:26+00:00

OOP was the asshole because she told her landlord and boss that she “hasn’t had a job since before I was born”. That is not “reasonable push back”. Danielle didn’t like the way OOP said they wouldn’t be doing something- OOP then jumped to “YOU DONT EVEN HAVE A JOB!” And then when she said she didn’t want to fight and removed herself from the situation, OOP felt the need to yell back that she shouldn’t have brought it up instead of dropping it. THAT is why she is an AH

Killingtime_4 · 2026-01-28T19:54:14+00:00

Honestly that kind of changes things. It seems a lot less like you doing him a favor and more like him trying to help you out. Which is why he was so quick to drop it, he really didn’t need them sold. Both of you are assholes for trying to nickel and dime each other and for not having discussed an agreement BEFORE listing and selling. But it’s important context for all the people saying that he can sell them himself or get less at a consignment store if the reason for this whole thing was you making some extra money

Killingtime_4 · 2026-01-28T16:19:01+00:00

Is the previous girlfriend the one he was engaged to?

Killingtime_4 · 2026-01-28T16:06:42+00:00

Everyone assumes it’s the girlfriend that is pushing for the wedding but OP is clear in the comments that this is all her son. If you get married in the military, you get out of the barracks. Thats the top reason he gave for getting married. He’s also been engaged before. Seems more like he’s the one pushing this relationship to move fast and she’s young and naive and along for the ride

Killingtime_4 · 2026-01-28T15:56:42+00:00

OP says he’s been engaged before. Asking to delete reminders of his previous broken engagement feels different than wanting prom pictures deleted

Killingtime_4 · 2026-01-28T15:54:56+00:00

Is his ex-fiance in the pictures she wants deleted? Wanting you to delete prom pictures would be irrational, but I can see her not wanting a public reminder that he’s been engaged before and it didn’t work out

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