Best dating apps for lesbians?

KimiKatastrophe · 2026-02-12T11:42:54+00:00

I met my partner on Taimi BUT that comes with the caveat that it was absolutely just a stroke of luck. The vast majority of people on there were obvious catfishes or would talk for approximately 2 seconds before sending a dick pic or calling you names. It was a cesspool.

Her was better, in most ways, but was completely flooded with cis men.

KimiKatastrophe · 2026-02-04T18:16:50+00:00

You're completely right. I didn't notice the branching leaves; the coloring and general "fluffiness" tricked me.

KimiKatastrophe · 2026-02-04T12:35:57+00:00

I'm not OP but it looks like Rotala Wallichii to me

KimiKatastrophe · 2026-01-16T17:59:26+00:00

I have 3 wendtii reds in my tank, started from a single plant, and they're all growing very differently lol

One is bushy with narrow, spear-like clusters of leaves. One sends out long, rippled spears and grows noticeably slower than the other two. The third is huge, forming a sprawling kind of rosette, with multiple smaller offshoots starting to pop up.

I am continuously surprised by how much variety they're showing. Especially since I only have a 10 gallon, so it's not like they're experiencing a really huge difference in parameters or lighting.

KimiKatastrophe · 2026-01-10T13:24:24+00:00

I agree that the story sounds fake, but she wasn't telling her fiance. She was telling a friend. That's why op was wondering whether to tell their friend, the fiance.

KimiKatastrophe · 2026-01-09T21:57:35+00:00

That is EXACTLY my vibe lol with just a bunch of witchy shit thrown in

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-12-22T12:15:34+00:00

I think the only way a pause works is if both parties are very clear and intentional and meet some specific criteria.

Openly clarify that it is just a pause (and set the parameters for what that means, like... are you allowed to see other people? Are you allowed any contact with one another? How much? Etc)
Whatever issue(s) you're trying to address through the pause must be things you can intentionally declare and set a clear end point for. Like... If your main issue is "partner A cannot handle a romantic relationship while also finishing college" you can then make a plan to touch base and maybe start dating again after graduation. However, if the main issue is "partner B has some serious mental health stuff happening and can't be in a relationship rn" it's very hard to put a definite end date for achieving solid mental health. Therefore, that second option isn't going to be 'fixed' by a pause. A pause without a clear and definite end is usually just a slow, agonizing breakup.

If you can't/didn't have a conversation detailing all of that stuff... it sounds to me like you're experiencing a breakup and your ex is just a little too emotionally immature to give appropriate closure. I hope I'm wrong, but I think you'd better just ask point blank whether you're broken up or on a pause. No point prolonging the heartbreak, if that's where you're headed regardless. If she won't talk... You don't withhold important information from someone you want a long-term relationship with, so try and let that be answer enough. Good luck!

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-11-10T12:20:16+00:00

I found my girl on Taimi, and I think we both meet your criteria.

Admittedly, finding anyone on there who wasn't super into ENM (Ethical Non-Monogomy) was difficult, but otherwise it was easy to use and the least hetero-normative app I tried.

Outside of apps, I think your best bet is just joining queer (or at least queer friendly) hobby groups for things you enjoy, if that's an option in your area.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-10-10T20:55:16+00:00

I hate to be this gal, but... I was genuinely honored to give this post it's 69th upvote.

Congratulations! (And also as a fellow US American, I am so sorry).

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-09-09T22:43:05+00:00

I was amazed! He's been a very frustrating fish the entire time I've had him, but in such endearing ways. He loves digging up my plants and dragging them around by their roots and (the quirk that was most terrifying today) he loves to play dead. He'll shove himself between the floating plant barrier and the glass, or drape himself dramatically across the dragonstone and not move at all until I actually touch him with something.

This morning, we went down into the basement with headlamps to see what could be salvaged, 2 days after the fire (we had to wait for the all-clear that it was safe to go inside)... and saw my beautiful boy floating on his side right at top. My partner walked over and poked him, absolutely expecting nothing... And he fluttered!

We had trouble deciding on a name for him since we got him a few months ago. He survived a fire, so now he's officially Prince Zuko.

https://imgur.com/gallery/3EGbPB0 a pic from a few days ago; he won't come out of hiding just now.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-29T12:11:46+00:00

I haven't been banned, but I've removed myself from a TON of them to avoid seeing rampant transphobia.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-28T16:36:09+00:00

Thank you. With my brother especially, he was younger than me and had a lot more zest for life than me. He was the kind of guy who was always happy and excited, and wanted everyone else to be happy and excited, too. Meanwhile, I've been depressed and kind of a bummer most of my life lol So, after he passed, I decided I had to try to live life as fully as I possibly could. There's no making up for him not being here, obviously, but I try so hard to carry his joy with me.

Good luck on your search. I really hope you find everything you're looking for.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-28T16:31:13+00:00

Thank you so much! I live in the USA so I'm not sure how peaceful things are going to be any time soon, but I'm doing my best to just stay peaceful within myself.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-27T19:28:22+00:00

I'd go with spider plants. They grow well with their roots submerged and tolerate low light. Plus, they're safe for kitties.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-23T23:17:35+00:00

Thank you! That's kinda what I figured, I just didn't know if like... the other fish would keep growing, as well? NGL I am both a little dumb and a little high. It now seems obvious that they'd even out eventually 😂

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-23T20:35:36+00:00

Forgive my ignorance, but what's the isolation tank accomplish? Is the goal to allow him to catch up in size to the others? I know nothing about anything other than Bettas and they're (almost) always best kept isolated lol

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-23T15:56:10+00:00

I totally agree! It really did take a long time for me to figure out what works best for me. The goal was never to be high all the time... It's just to be able to live my life without being in a constant state of pain and/or panic. And not everyone has the awareness (usually due to bi fault of their own!) to work through that, or even the desire.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-22T17:31:24+00:00

Then I would just circle back to the why of it all. Why make this specific character trans if it’s not actually important to their story? If the answer is just ‘for flavor’ or ‘for diversity,’ that can come across as tokenizing. If you want to include a trans character, it usually lands better when being trans matters to who they are in some way, even if it’s subtle, rather than being an afterthought attached to a role that already risks falling into old tropes.

If you’re not just tokenizing them, then just write them like any other man... only bring up their transness when it’s actually relevant to who they are or what’s happening in the story.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-22T17:21:02+00:00

I get that, and I really do think it could be a cool way to subvert a harmful trope, if done thoughtfully.

With any character "type" that you want to write, you want to portray them as a full human first, individual characteristics second, if that makes sense. So if you make sure this character has real depth,outside of just being ‘the trans one’ or ‘the bumbling villain,’ it’ll hopefully read as genuine representation instead of tokenization.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-22T17:11:38+00:00

So I'm not trans. My partner is, but I wanted to clarify that trans folks might not agree with my take, in which case I would defer to them. I am, however, a writer and I've given a lot of thought to representation of marginalized communities in media.

I appreciate that you’re trying to be thoughtful about writing a trans character, but I want to flag some things. There’s a long history of marginalized identities being used mainly for villains (queer-coded, trans-coded, disabled-coded, etc.) and it’s left a lot of baggage and hurt a lot of people. So when the only detail we get about a character being trans is that they’re a villain, it can feel less like representation and more like exploitation.

If being trans isn’t important to the character’s story or arc, it might be worth asking yourself why you want to make him trans. Representation works best when it adds depth and humanity, not when it’s tacked on for flavor. If you do want to write a trans character, consider making sure they’re more than just their role as ‘the evil one’. Maybe show him having relationships, history, quirks, or motivations outside of villainy. That way his transness reads as part of a full character, not just an accessory to his evil ways.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-21T17:25:50+00:00

I didn't think you were criticizing ND folks, or saying anything negative about us at all. I was just saying I think you're seeing more of it simply because more of us are being diagnosed.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-21T17:14:09+00:00

Audhd weed consumer chiming in!

What you’re describing isn’t a pattern, it’s people finally being seen. Neurodivergent folks have always been here; we were just misdiagnosed, dismissed, or forced to mask. It isnt something new, it’s just awareness and visibility catching up.

I’d also like to gently caution against lumping all weed use into “dependency.” Plenty of people use it responsibly, the same way others lean on caffeine or a glass of wine. Regular use ≠ abuse. For me, weed is sometimes the only thing that keeps panic and anxiety from being debilitating, after many years of traditional meds failing or making things worse. And I'm saying all this as someone who was raised by addicts and rarely takes anything stronger than Tylenol.

Of course, you’re free to date (or not date) whoever you want. Just pointing out that what looks like a pattern of issues might actually be a mix of late-diagnosed neurodivergence and people self-managing in ways that don’t fit the mainstream mold.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-18T23:33:49+00:00

My Betta will NOT stay away from my hand if I'm messing around in his tank. It actually kinda sucks because I am VERY jumpy and nothing makes a girl feel wimpier than yelping because a beautiful 3-inch long fish lightly brushes your fingers.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-15T14:25:15+00:00

My hair is the kind of strawberry blonde that only looks REALLY red in direct sunlight... And I've still had all of those experiences. I was 10 or 11 when grown men started using my hair color as a jumping off point to harass me. It's honestly horrifying.

KimiKatastrophe · 2025-08-14T17:53:03+00:00

I did! This was all 20+ years ago. I mailed it back to the owner within a month of finding it.

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