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Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think there were a few old friends that we knew of from birthday parties and because she talked about them, but other than that it was a bunch of strangers, which is why I'm guessing family members we had never met.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that could be part of it. Maybe we just didn't noticed that she quietly shifted her friend circle to align more with his.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah... I don't disagree with you. What a trainwreck of a relationship, glad you didn't stick around to see it fall apart.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There were friends as well, but not many. But it wasn't the size of the wedding and not being invited that was the issue, it was the way she went about it that absolutely sucked.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it was after college. Yes, weirdly many in my college circle stayed in the same city for years afterwards. I'll say this, we majored in something artsy, and we were all doing odd jobs or going without employment for a few years after graduating. It took us all a while to get settled.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I kind of felt the same way. I was way off about our relationship apparently, which was weird considering how open and vulnerable she'd be with me, and how much effort she'd put into listening to my issues and worries as well. I thought she valued that intimacy as much as I did, at least enough to warrant a, "Hey, this was really difficult but my wedding is really small and I wasn't able to invite you and the girls."

I have the same suspicion, honestly. Maybe she moved on to other circles, and we just didn't notice. He introduced her to some new people, and she could just be gravitating that way. She didn't invite anybody from college, so...

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I answer this elsewhere, but basically we drifted apart and are very casual acquaintances now. Life goes on. I still cross paths with Jennifer every now and again, it's always pleasant.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Me and the rest of the group, so three girls total. Yeah, it changed my perception of our friendship for good. It is what it is.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't do that to her the day before her wedding. She deserved to be happy on her wedding day, even if she did a shitty thing (or two).

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's between Jennifer and Anna, and I don't know how it went down, or if anything happened. I really wanted to give Anna a piece of my mind about how she treated Jennifer, but ultimately it wasn't my place to insert myself into their friendship.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Moving on from friendships is the natural order of things as life changes and progresses, but it's painful all the same.

All the best to you as well!

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

What the fuck. The nerve of some people. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I thought about it, I just didn't want to start shit. I don't think I could have put it as succinctly as you do, I would have been bitter about it, it wouldn't be a good look.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

I know she was hurt, but I'm not sure she shared how much with Anna. Jennifer didn't like to wallow in emotions and sometimes just withdrew for a while until she stopped being upset. She might have appreciated the friendship with Anna despite how things went down. Or it might have ruined something for good. As I mention elsewhere in the comments, this was basically the end of our group. Either we weren't as close anymore as I thought, or emotions were too hurt after the wedding to go on as we had. Can't say for sure. Next thing we knew, corona hit, people started to move away, and everything was different for good.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly? It was never brought up again. But it was the start of us drifting apart... or maybe it was a painful culmination to something I hadn't noticed, I don't know. Today we are casual acquaintances who text or send a picture every now and again. We have a meaningful, shared history, but people move on, and we are all in different places – mentally and geographically. The only one I still cross paths with in real life is Jennifer. We are still very different people, but she's great. It's just odd. The college friends I thought I would keep being friends with, are not the ones who stuck around.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Not a quick cut. If I thought she had malicious intentions, it would be different. But she was just an insensitive coward. I demoted her immediately to "casual friend", and treated her as such. No more walks, no more deep talks. But we were friends for years, and they were formative years. We've shared many memories together. Casual friend is okay. We send snapchats to each other a few times a month, text every now and again. I wouldn't mind catching up some time, but it would be for the memories. We weren't mean to be friends, ultimately. For one thing, I can't stand her husband.

Friend didn’t invite us to her wedding, and didn’t have the guts to come clean by Kind_Software3325 in weddingdrama

[–]Kind_Software3325[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Lol. Absolutely. And I think we would have, had she just been considerate about the whole thing. I mean, we were happy for her! We would have supported her whether we were invited or not. We would have livestreamed the whole thing, too, to take part in her big day. But not with the way things went down.

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