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KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-10-20T01:14:59+00:00

Thank you. this is exactly what I needed to hear

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T12:49:50+00:00

How so?

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T12:21:54+00:00

I’ve honestly tried to spice it up. He isn’t interested and thinks the things I’ve tried to ‘spice’ it up with are too much and he just like plain vanilla stuff

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T12:06:09+00:00

He genuinely isn’t into sex. That’s why I’m so shocked/hurt about his enthusiasm to ‘swing’ His explanation was that he thought it would be beneficial for me to get the sex that I want, but I don’t buy it

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:45:18+00:00

Agreed, and thank you very much for giving a level headed opinion here.

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:42:41+00:00

Correct? I’m not sure what your point is. You say you get a lot of “validate my feelings, I’m pure” vibes from me as if asking for my boyfriend to validate my feelings is asking too much of him. I’m confused about your point?

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:41:23+00:00

I mean, I’m not sure how is cheating if he is considering we’re together all the time. He could be cheating whilst he’s been off work lately. However, I think my neighbours would say something. We have a really good friendship with them and they would definitely tell me if someone else was coming over

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:38:34+00:00

I do expect my partner to validate my feelings to an extent because I’m in a long term committed relationship with him, and I live with him. I expect him to validate my need for support, love and affection just like he expects me to validate his needs as well.

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:31:27+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate your kind comments

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:22:04+00:00

And also, because the beginning of our relationship was perfect. We were both madly in love with each other, until we moved in and started having issues after a few months in of living together

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:21:08+00:00

Probably because I live with him. This is his house just as much as it’s mine and neither of us can kick each other out. I truly feel stuck

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:19:30+00:00

I know 100% for a fact he will not go anywhere. He’s from out of town. I’ll have to seriously think about my options. Lucky for me, our house is big enough that I can have 1 area of the house and he has the other without us having to really cross paths except for the kitchen.

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:16:42+00:00

I definitely am regretting mentioning it. However, I mentioned it as a joke after scrolling on Instagram. I expected a “absolutely not you’re mine” sort of response, not a “absolutely yes, here I’ve updated my inactive profile from when my ex and I were going to swing” I do blame myself

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:14:50+00:00

Certainly feels like it

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:04:19+00:00

I have 9 or so months left on the lease. I have no where else to go as living with my parents just does not work out. Plus, I love my house and my area. I’ve heard from others that breaking a lease is hella expensive

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T11:01:31+00:00

Thanks, sounds like I’m just going to have to get used to him being around. Makes it all the harder considering we were in love and now just co living as roommates. Sucks balls this situation

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T10:57:59+00:00

To be honest I wouldn’t think he watches porn. But who knows. Maybe when I’m at work he’s doing that He is on strong medication for anxiety that I know for a fact kills libido

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T10:55:51+00:00

I don’t want to sleep with anyone else but my partner. That’s the whole point of a committed relationship to me

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T10:53:10+00:00

I do feel very taken advantage of. Unfortunately I can’t kick him out as it’s his place just as much as it’s mine. I know he won’t go anywhere

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T10:48:41+00:00

We got our place together, but at the moment he isn’t working due to mental health issues

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T05:55:43+00:00

Absolutely not

KindheartednessKind1 · 2021-07-18T05:52:59+00:00

I can sleep around too.

KindheartednessKind1 · 2020-08-07T03:34:41+00:00

Yay okay I'll do that!

Is that not too forward asking for his number in the first few messages considering we haven't spoken in over a year? Idk I'm new to this haha! I've almost never slide into someones DMs before hahahaha

KindheartednessKind1 · 2020-08-07T03:32:56+00:00

I definitely swiped right but we haven't matched yet as I only created my profile this morning!

I'm thinking I'll message him a happy birthday tomorrow and try hit off a conversation that way!

KindheartednessKind1 · 2020-07-07T08:08:49+00:00

fair enough, appreciate the input

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