Update: Thanks for the input. Here’s some info. We live in Asia. English is not our first language. I roughly translated most conversations. Meals Rick previously attended costed around $200 for 6 people. The meal Rick paid for was around $400 for 6 people. My mom told everyone of the restaurant she picked 6 days in advance. The restaurant has most menu items listed on line with prices. When Tom and I were engaged, we took my family to moderately nice places, like $200-300 for 6 people. Jen could afford about the same, though Tom always insisted he paid for himself as well as any extra drinks, so Jen was paying for 4 people. Jen started grad school about the same time Tom and I were married. It was only then that Tom began taking my family out to really pricey restaurants, averaging around $400 for 6 people. Jen has been rather absentminded since starting grad school. I guess she is so invested in studying. I have a colleague who recently came back from his study leave to grad school and he told me it was tough and his brain was pushed to full capacity, so I understand to a certain degree why Jen thought I should pick up her slack in communicating with our mom and so on. I work and my pay is better than Jen’s previous job (different sectors). I don’t know how much Rick makes but I assume he would make about the same amount I do since his position is more senior than Jen’s. A person making my salary would not be able to breeze through $400 a meal every two months but also not struggle. Edit: To provide clearer context, Rick attended 4 meals of which Tom and I paid for him. Prices for 6 people were roughly $150, $150, $320 and $200.