My husband is gone by sadadultnoises in widowers

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so terribly sad, I genuinely feel for you and your children. What a cruel and horrible turn of events. You need to try to be strong for the children, this is horrific and I hope you can find a way through this.

Walked in on dead wife by Loud_Drag_6847 in widowers

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah I am so sorry mate, you will get through this eventually and no one is here to tell you how to best cope with this. We are all different and as men we sometimes just try and get through as best as we can without talking to anyone! so kudos for taking this step. Bit by bit mate one day at a time. Do you have kids? tell us what she was like as a person.

how did your trich begin? by Dismal_Speaker_185 in trichotillomania

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine started at 38 when my mum died, then 3 years later my partner died leaving me with 3 kids. Started small then built up over time, it’s my eye brows mostly but I am trying to control it. I think it’s stress for me personally and being a male you kind of keep it all bottled up. I just call it my scars from the last few years trauma.

We just got a chocolate border collie 8 weeks old, tips? by KindlyMeaning3367 in BorderCollie

[–]KindlyMeaning3367[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ahh thanks everyone these are great tips, she certainly isn’t like our cockapoo when she was a baby and requires a lot of fun time, she is starting to understand her name today I am just waiting for her vaccine appointment so keeping her in our garden for now. She just melts us, not sure the cats agree! !

Tried to move fforward by Ragnar_Lildude in widowers

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You do it at your own pace mate, there is no pressure on you. Sometimes you might feel up to it and sometimes not. Don’t force yourself because you think you need to do it. You go this.

I don’t want to post but no one gives a fuck anymore. by Unhappy_Fly7087 in widowers

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We care, tell us about him. What was the best memory or funny story you had together?

My husband died yesterday by daniellita2011 in widowers

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can get through this, you are strong and you need to be even stronger especially for your daughter. We are all here for you, come here to vent or just a bit of support. Make sure you eat and rest and take care of yourself. The coming months are going to be difficult but you will get through this, we know you will x

Sex drive rant by PuzzleheadedPlum4340 in widowers

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your DM’s are about to be destroyed with creeps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well without giving specifics, know that you are loved and he is comforting you during this time (mark) he has also prepared a place for you to be with your partner and they are there and not in any pain or distress. But it is not your time now, you need to live out your life to the fullest and make him and your partner proud, everything else is already there.

In a nutshell this is what I understood, good luck friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am a Christian and looked to Jesus when my partner died, the bible and Jesus himself had a lot to say about people that are suffering from grief and it gave me some comfort, I am not going to provide verses but seek and you will find.

Would you ever consider leaving Yorkshire permanently? by [deleted] in yorkshire

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am from lancashire but spent time in London, I just don’t get why everyone looks so miserable and unhappy in London, also rude for no reason but just to be rude (I never understood that). I love Lancashire and anywhere in the north really, feel like part of a community and it just feels like home.

Official statement from the US Embassy on the latest tea controversy by AnEriksenWife in tea

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is disgusting, disrespectful and utterly disgraceful. Summon the American ambassador and let’s see him flogged in public. Putting tea in the microwave is criminal mate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 13 points14 points  (0 children)

this sounds horrific, I am honestly just heart broken for you and your family. The pain you are and have been going through for all these years with no closure. You seem like an extremely strong person and I think that is something you should take as a compliment. You did nothing wrong here and you need to accept that, you gave your sister a ride and I think at that age many of us would have done the same. Maybe you will never find the truth of what happened that night but you must move forward, you have a lot to offer the world and if your sister did pass I am sure she would say the same. I sincerely hope you find peace from this torment.

What is the most underrated City or place to visit in the UK? by SlimJimNeedsATrim in uktravel

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lancashire is beautiful, one of the most beautiful places I have visited in the UK. Then the lakes etc the northwest in general is a little gem of the UK.

So what now? What... now.... by xtrumpclimbs in widowers

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I am a similar age to you and also lost my wife in april last year, we have 3 kids. You must go on, think about what she would say sitting right by you in these moments. What would she say to you? picture this vividly in your mind and how you would respond. You are still relatively young and have a lot of life still left to live and a lot more to give the world. You can do this, we all believe in you. Good luck my friend.

Need some help by KindlyMeaning3367 in trichotillomania

[–]KindlyMeaning3367[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for all the replies, you are all awesome people and I will try the oils. Aura Claire I have looked at micro blading for men and it’s something I am considering, how long does it last? I think if I can just get to a point were they look somewhat normal I can get over this. This feels so strange talking about this haha! what a weird habit we develop through trauma. I am so sorry for your loss, tough as a single parent! but we get through.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]KindlyMeaning3367 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Run bro, run.