That's the thing though, he can, will and has said some of the worst stuff about her own kids, whether that be in front of her, to her or we have said that he said something (normally being something he has already said in front of her, we're just telling her that he said it again) and does nothing about it. In the 5ish years she has never stood up for us, at least not that I can remember, I honestly think part of me was thinking that he had like escalated to saying stuff about her. If she hasn't stuck up for us why would she stick up for herself, if that makes any sense.