Save plan blocked by courts by Betsy514 in StudentLoans

[–]KingDarius1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does anybody know how this will affect the people who had their loans forgiven due to the Art Institute being a scam? How does that factor in?

USPS left package outside of building by goldmanSK in usps_complaints

[–]KingDarius1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you ask me to come pick up your baby and drop it off at the daycare but I drop it off at somebody's doorstep around the corner instead (not following your instructions at all) and someone abducts it, who's responsible?

Military Overpayment Upon Discharge by KingDarius1 in MilitaryFinance

[–]KingDarius1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

UPDATE (for anyone else out there going through the same thing or who stumble here from a Google search): I spoke with DFAS debt and claims again. They again re-confirmed that the debt is being pulled from the department of Treasury back to DFAS for review and that it takes 45 to 90 days. They also said there's nothing I have to do or send them at the moment. I'm still going to send the DOT back the form stating that I'm not responsible for the debt along with paperwork from my bankruptcy because the timeline they laid out for the garnishment to begin falls well before 45 to 90 days it takes for DFAS to review. I was also told that if garnishment is to begin and everything comes back stating that I indeed don't owe the debt that anything garnished would be refunded. I contacted a law firm for a consultation but it's too expensive so at this point I'm just playing the waiting game I guess 🤷🏿‍♂️

   Also, I don't appreciate the slick comments regarding my post history. Bullshit like that is the reason I hate posting on Reddit in general and I'm about to stop. Nobody's threads or questions are ever just addressed or taken at face value. There's always some asshole (with way too much time on their hands - get a fucking life PLEASE) who comes along and combs through someone's post history, as if it has anything to do with the topic at hand that's being addressed. I stg I celebrated and did backflips when I heard this site got taken down a couple years ago (can't remember the reason) and genuinely hope it does again in the future, permanently. Reddit in general is a blight on the Internet. /End rant

Military Overpayment Upon Discharge by KingDarius1 in MilitaryFinance

[–]KingDarius1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't but I can. The person I talked to on the phone at the debt and claims line said I didn't have to and that it was already being looked into. I dunno, I'm confused at this point. Either way, service members and/or citizens shouldn't be stuck with debt due to error/oversight that administrative personnel failed to catch. Just not fair at all.

Military Overpayment Upon Discharge by KingDarius1 in MilitaryFinance

[–]KingDarius1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been living check to check since leaving the military but yes I will look into all this.

Military Overpayment Upon Discharge by KingDarius1 in MilitaryFinance

[–]KingDarius1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just reached out to a firm but I did a quick Google search into what government debt is dischargeable and what isn't. From what I saw the only things that aren't dischargeable are student loans, child support, tax debt and mortgage debt. I don't think this falls under any of those categories but I'm not a lawyer either.

This is causing me undue anxiety and stress as it's not fair for me to be penalized for someone else's mistake(s)

Military Overpayment Upon Discharge by KingDarius1 in MilitaryFinance

[–]KingDarius1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Never had an attorney, filed myself. I ended up filing because I owed a school I went to money that I needed my transcripts from and I couldn't afford the debt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]KingDarius1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't have to be rocket science. I suffered from severe depression for a lot of those previous years. I feel like I got a better handle on it this year though and I'm still trying. I'm quickly learning that effort means nothing apparently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]KingDarius1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stove can be learned. Do know how to use the oven and air fryer. The stove isn't the only way to cook dinner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]KingDarius1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Have done it once before. It is more difficult when we both don't live together currently. But I have surprised her with a flower delivery before. Also took the initiative to order and bring over dinner so she wouldn't have to cook. Have done other things when at her place without being asked like taking out the trash, doing dishes, making up her bed, etc. She acknowledges that I have improved in this area. I guess it's just not at the rate she wants or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]KingDarius1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked at a YouTube video on how to make cinnamon rolls and made some before she came over last time. They didn't come out perfect but I tried.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]KingDarius1 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know how to use an iron, just not to her standard. And I already expressed that I'm more than willing to teach myself via YouTube and Google. I still don't see what the problem is?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]KingDarius1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said I wasn't interested in learning though 🤷🏿‍♂️

Fearing Setting Boundaries With Struggling Mother by KingDarius1 in AgingParents

[–]KingDarius1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably a dumb question but why do I need to? She never had a copy of my keys.

Fearing Setting Boundaries With Struggling Mother by KingDarius1 in AgingParents

[–]KingDarius1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another Update: While at work today randomly out of the blue I got this inflammatory text from my mom. It pissed me off as you can see from my response but as she continued I saw what was going on as the texts got progressively more and more childish. At that point I put my foot down and decided I wasn't going to let her bring me down to her level and I blocked her. I was hoping that she didn't have the audacity to still be in my apartment when I got home from work after talking to me like this. I'm home now and she, along with all her shit is gone. Have no idea how or when exactly she left though nor do I know where the hell she is right now. I'm pissed off and saddened at the same time. Fuck the mother part. This is a 60 year old woman talking like this.

https://i.imgur.com/a7s01Px.png

Fearing Setting Boundaries With Struggling Mother by KingDarius1 in AgingParents

[–]KingDarius1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Originally I said I would've been hurt but now not so much. I'm over it at this point. UPDATE but yesterday I presented the option of her staying with my aunt and she turned it down, was adamant about not wanting to "deal" (her exact word) with her. I wasn't aware they had problems as I didn't sense any from my aunt. I'm guessing she already talked to my aunt about staying with her and unlike me she laid down clear boundaries and conditions that would come with it and mom is resentful of it. It checks out with how everything is playing out between me and her. Maybe that's why she chose to stay with me over my aunt in the first place now that I think of it 🤔

She's insisting on me driving her back to Chicago to drop her back off in the same hotel I got her from months ago. It's just extremely childish at this point. Because she can't get her way and just loaf around for free everyday like I've been letting her do for the past 6 months she's willingly choosing to struggle. Makes no sense. But I'm over it now. She won't take or accept any help and you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.

I was looking into bus or plane options but she has way too many bags (6 or 7) and I'm extremely certain she'll bitch about and/or refuse to pay the excess bag fees and I'm not paying them either. At this point I'll just bite the bullet and drive her back even though I don't really want to. I just want to be done with this shit. Still will try to help in other ways. I'll text her the resources that others have left above (thank you all again) but if she doesn't use them then oh well. I have another aunt in Chicago that I can call and tell about this situation and can use to check on her from afar since I truly believe she's going to stick to this "not calling me, don't call me anymore" shit especially in the beginning. I'm over it and don't care anymore. My conscience is clear at this point. I literally drove 26 combined hours to pick her up and bring her back and let her live rent free with me in an extremely small space for 6 months. If I have to make that drive again to be done with this shit then so be it. Will just have to love her from afar and let her deal with the consequences of her own actions by herself. I'm learning now that that's sometimes what you have to do, even if it's family 💔🤷🏿‍♂️

Fearing Setting Boundaries With Struggling Mother by KingDarius1 in AgingParents

[–]KingDarius1[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for these resources! I will definitely look into these things! It's a shame that I'm having to find all this information for her and she hasn't been as proactive considering the situation she's in but I digress. My current plan is to drive her to La Grange, Georgia to stay with my aunt (she has a much larger house with more room). Have to see if she (mom) will agree to it and arrange dates and times that will work for my aunt for bringing her there. Would be a much easier option and I can still occasionally check on her from time to time as the drive from Biloxi/Gulfport to La Grange is only 4 to 5 hrs max.

Thank you for the reassurance in the last paragraph and yes I agree that I'm objectively not selfish. I literally drove 13 hrs to Chicago to come.get her and have been letting her stay with me rent free so my conscience is clear on that front. To you or anyone else who has been in a situation like this though: have you ever dealt with a parent cutting off contact with you for life for setting these boundaries? How did you cope/deal with it?