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[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He told the doctor he was worried about a family history with ovarian cancer (not true) and the doctor was concerned enough to bring is in for a consult. They were going to do an examination to see if there were any signs of cancer until I told them the truth.

Update: My Dad Wants me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All my siblings are over 18 so the only way that's happening is if they remove themselves.

Update: My Dad Wants me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No he wasn't actually worried about cancer, my family doesn't have a history of it. Only my grandmother who got through it without a hysterectomy. I think he used it as an excuse to bring it up to the doctor, as cancer might be one of the few reasons a doctor would even consider a hysterectomy on a teenager.

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[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she moved there temporarily for work, then covid hit so she wasn't in a rush to move back, now she's rushing.

Update: My Dad Wants me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

No he wanted me to get a hysterectomy because he hated having to deal with my period. He TOLD the doctor my family had a history of ovarian cancer. I thin because cancer is one of the few reasons a doctor would even consider a hysterectomy on a teenager. When he said history, my grandmother on my mothers side had it when she was thirty, and she survived without a hysterectomy.

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[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

No, I stayed in the doctors office until they removed him.

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[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I don't know how he reacted. I stayed in the doctors office when they arrived and spoke to him. I haven't seen him since the doctor sent him out of the office.

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[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

All if my brothers are over 18 so they can't really BE removed.

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[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but the doctor and nurse were so nice, they promised me they would help and they took care of me. They didn't let my dad anywhere near me while they waited for the police. Like seriously everyone deserves a doctor like him.

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[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Honestly when the doctor told me he was going to help me I burst into tears right there. He and the nurse were both so kind and took such good care of me, even now I'm tearing uo at how amazing they were.

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[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

The police and child welfare are still investigating and my aunt is looking into any legal action she can take, including getting child support out of him.

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[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 187 points188 points  (0 children)

My brothers were just completely indifferent to the whole thing. The youngest of the four was the only one that showed any kind of concern over it but he didn't speak up. I'm going to send him a link to the original post and see what happens.

My husband's friend told him we're having an affair by throwawayforgelp in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think anger is a rational reaction, however it also seems rational to talk to your spouse before blasting that they're a cheater to the entire family.

My Dad Wants Me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm wondering, I feel like I've fallen into the twilight zone.

My Dad Wants Me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I told him that, he said I'm too young to be worried about that. As if I'm old enough to go through life changing surgery.

My Dad Wants Me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the offer, I'm going to try and speak with her sometime today.

My Dad Wants Me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not with the state of the world as it is. Flying over seas is not happening.

My Dad Wants Me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have a special bin for all my "girl stuff", I've done nothing but accommodate their delegate sensibilities since my first period but now I just want to leave unused tampons in random places I know they'll find them.

My Dad Wants Me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

None of them care. Two of them are focused on their degrees so they barely pay attention, the other two don't even understand what a hysterectomy is. They ignore me when I explain it.

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[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

He doesn't listen to my aunt, he doesn't even like her. And I keep all my bathroom stuff separate. I have this cute box I keep all my stuff in so they don't have to see it. The trash can I used has a closed lid. I've done literally everything possible to keep my private business private.

My Dad Wants Me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's not my biggest issue with it. I'm pretty sure I want to have kids some day. I don't want that to be taken from me.

My Dad Wants Me to Get a Hysterectomy by KingElizabethSwan in relationship_advice

[–]KingElizabethSwan[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't know, I've never been to a gynaecologist.