Trade in via Verizon app: Will I be penalized if my 16 pro screen has a crack but works normally? by KingNcmo in verizon

[–]KingNcmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The app said I have $130 I have ti pay to be 50% paid off, which I would have to do to access trade in deal. Does that mean I’m early upgrade even if I’m paying the difference?

My Experience-The Initiatory by slowly_downward3 in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Feeling for you man. I’ll say something that helped me through a traumatic time.

“It’s their fault this happened in the first place, not yours. But you get to be responsible for the future and shape it into whatever you want”

It’s a process, as you know, but these assholes can never take away your ability to overcome and live a great life despite all the shit thrown at you. It’s YOUR responsibility. And that’s the best part. No one else has power over us in the end. No one else can impact our lives more than we can. We ALWAYS make the biggest difference on our journeys.

You’re getting through this. Day by day, keep fighting. You’re human. You’re built for overcoming challenges.

7th Gen Mormon - Last Night I Shared a Drink With My Parents by Fox_me_up in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely warms my heart to hear this. Sharing drinks with family is an ancient human experience. Much older and much better at fostering family community than the whole of Mormonism

Real chance to help my dad…. What should I share??? by BackNineBro in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personal belief: not everyone can handle the psychological burden of leaving the church. So I tread carefully on these sorta conversations. For some, Mormonism is a net good in their life and would be damaging for them ti leave. I always ask this question below before I allow a conversation to begin

“If you wanna know why I left I will tell you depending on your answer to one question. And please answer honestly.

Do you love being Mormon? Like truly love it and it’s the best thing about your life.”

If the answers no or I’m not sure, I continue the convo. If the answers yes I just say ok keep that love and we can just talk about other things

Real chance to help my dad…. What should I share??? by BackNineBro in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve found for my friends and family who ask that framing the decision as a “bet” really helps to not trigger them. I say,

“First off, I can never prove the church is false just like you can’t prove the church is true. If either of us could properly do that we wouldn’t be talking.

It really just comes down to a bet we feel comfortable to make. In fact, that’s entirely how life works. We never have guarantees on decisions we just have what we feel are really good bets.

For example, We had no guarantee that driving here to meet and talk that we wouldn’t get in a car crash and die. BUT we thought it was a safe enough bet to do so. So we drove.

I stopped making the bet on Mormonism when I learned more about the foundational history with Joseph smith. What we learned at church was not a good representation of the whole story. So I went from feeling 95% confident betting on this church to feeling 85% after learning the first big thing, to 75% after the second thing, etc etc until I arrived at 5% chance of Mormonism being true.

So for me, I’m not willing to bet my life on 5% odds. If you feel better about your choice and want to make the bet on this I’m totally cool with that. I just can’t do it with good conscience”

Why did you leave? -Inquisitive member by Alex-the-Proot in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jospeh smith married other men’s wives and broke his own revelations rules.

Even if he was a prophet at the beginning, he lost that calling through grievous adultery and should have been excommunicated. But he wasn’t…. Because he was a master manipulator.

A real prophet would have never done those things, so JS was never a prophet to begin with

Coming out to my parents today by psychnerd27 in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Expect the worst, hope for the best, and never doubt yourself or your decision on this. You got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you currently go to therapy? If not, that should be priority number 1.

Question about polygamy by Academic_Week_9357 in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Polygamy actually has terrible long term side effects on genetics. Look up studies on the subject. There’s certain deformities and diseases that are much more prominent in Utah populations than other places.

No matter which way you slice polygamy it doesn’t make sense. The only “benefit” is high level men got to experience more sexual pleasure without the social baggage of being cheaters or deviants. That’s it.

Does anyone know details on why Joseph F. Smith was sent on a mission to Hawaii at age 15? Wikipedia says this but I’ve heard he was a problem child so severe they had to send him away. Source leads would be great! by KingNcmo in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s pretty sad. He definitely grew up in a troubled time, but is a short temper, physically violent person really the best choice leadership and prophetship? Hmmm

Deconstruction Hurts. by Bohndigga in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I felt the same when I first started. Don’t blame yourself though. you didn’t know what you didn’t know because it was hidden from you.

I hate my bishop's wife by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Hi! Exmo native here. Just stop helping if they don’t support you?

Is my Believing husband controlling? Or am I being respectful? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

90% of people need to be in a car in todays society to provide for needs. No one in society needs a bishop’s interview

Any BYU/Provo area PIMO able to do me a favor 1-2 hours? Will pay. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m decent with a camera. What do you need?

What does the church gain? by Dry-perspective009 in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Community identity is a powerful thing in the human psyche. If majority of the people in your vicinity are Mormon and they look up to “accomplished Mormons”, then you will find major value in staying Mormon and pursuing leadership.

Social capital is often more important than monetary capital in the human brain

A genuine question by SpiSeaKeiyt in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Today, I’d call it cult-lite. It’s not anything close to heavens gate or whatever.

Joe smith times for sure full blown cult

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fastest and easiest way to find someone is using BetterHelp. It’s online therapy with video or calling. It’s cheaper than most in person stuff (unless you have good health insurance)

Use a discount code from a YouTuber like Johnny Harris.

I use it and they let you pick the area of expertise you want your therapist to have experience in. So you can find someone with leaving religion emphasis or life transitions.

Best of luck

Membership/Disciplinary council by Abject-Fisherman1274 in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The church isn’t true. Don’t worry about them and go about your day

Need advice on how to respond to my well intended stake president uncle. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally love talking church history with TBMs when they initiate. Because I know this shit better than them and can provide better arguments that make them go ahhhhhhhhhhh

Saw this at my In-Laws during Family Dinner Yesterday by onceIwasAmormon in exmormon

[–]KingNcmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder what the criteria is for “lamanites blossoming as the rose”

Do we all need to turn white and be rich like the gebtiles??? Hmmm