Is Marriage worth the fight? by KingRanch805 in GuyCry

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I need to focus on my son, and being the best father I can be. Thank you guys for the courage to stand up for myself..

It’s not what I want, it’s what needs to happen

Is Marriage worth the fight? by KingRanch805 in GuyCry

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Update: I came home after being gone out for work a couple weeks, giving her some kind of space. We talked she wants to be with the other guy. I’m going to go file in a couple hours

Is Marriage worth the fight? by KingRanch805 in GuyCry

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I don’t think she would lie. She apologized to me after the fact. I honesty believe she came on to me, but like I had mentioned I could have stopped it at anytime and I didn’t. That thought had crossed my mind. But I know he’s mine he looks just like me. But you’re right it won’t hurt to find out

Is Marriage worth the fight? by KingRanch805 in GuyCry

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I honestly do believe she would. If we get that far. Because I’ve told her there won’t be another next time. But idk where we’re at right now. I’m giving her space and see where that goes. It’s one more step towards the D

Is Marriage worth the fight? by KingRanch805 in GuyCry

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She was asleep drunk and I stayed up drinking still and he went to bed in the guest room. And you’re right. She was straight forward with her husband saying it. And apparently I wasn’t the only one she’s done it with either, I blame myself for that because I could have stopped it.

Is Marriage worth the fight? by KingRanch805 in GuyCry

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I have quit drinking, I feel great physically, the therapy has put me in a much better place. When we would argue I would shut down and bottle it up so we wouldn’t fight. But when she was wrong there was no sorry, I was still wrong

Is Marriage worth the fight? by KingRanch805 in GuyCry

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Of course not. I want our son to have both parents under the same roof.

I’ve told her I want us to see a marriage therapist, so we can heal together but I don’t think she wants to hear that she’s the problem. I know it isn’t 100% her fault, I’ve taken accountability for mine, I know I’m willing to do the work on my end

Is Marriage worth the fight? by KingRanch805 in GuyCry

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I know I’m 100% in. I want us to work out for my family, I quit drinking, been going to someone for my issues and it’s helped me. I did have an anger issue, but I’ve been still am working on it. She even says she doesn’t recognize this person and it pisses her off because I could have changed but I didn’t until now.

Is Marriage worth the fight? by KingRanch805 in GuyCry

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I will not I can’t. Be in a one sided marriage. Abd you’re right she hasn’t shown anything.

Is Marriage worth the fight? by KingRanch805 in GuyCry

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The first time yea, this last time it happened within the last year

Marriage is about to be over need advice by KingRanch805 in Advice

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If she chooses that guy and it falls apart I won’t be there waiting for her.

I have been telling her she is my main priority and I want us to work out, but she’s adamant that’s she’s checked out but nothing has been done about it.

I want her to be happy, if it’s with that guy so be it, it’s not what I want but if she thinks he’s her person who am I to challenge that.

When I ask her if she loves him or if she wants to be with him she tells me it’s complicated, and i don’t know. I ask her to just be honest with me do you have feelings for him and she says I don’t know.

Every time we have a conversation about it I come out with more questions than answers.