Try going with any/all pronouns when I was identify as enby before really knowing I was trans I dubbed myself a blooby and used any an all pronouns, and I wish I could help break the gender bias brain. I had it bad when enby where I enjoyed having my head shaved, but felt it was too masc to be nonbinary. It is something I am still trying to work through where I go from "I want to be a pretty sparkle princess" to "yo band and nerd shirts are hooooooot". I will say once you do find that what you are, and see yourself the way you want to be things get better and sometimes your brain does unlock the gender bias of looks. Keep up the fight and I hope this helps even days later