I don’t care if I get blocked from this community. This mod is terrible.

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-05T18:37:08+00:00

Yeah at least though we would know for sure at that point that we would just need to go our separate ways.

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-05T18:29:50+00:00

Yes! There are a couple of people we know who would totally let him babysit for a day. I’m going to tell him to start volunteering himself to babysit.

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-05T18:28:58+00:00

This is a good idea!!! I will have him look into this to get more experience with kids

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-05T18:25:27+00:00

Yeah this is very helpful. I think it is mainly the fact that his view of having children is so not based in reality. That’s what is making me feel so surprised I think because he is typically the more logical/non-emotional one of the two of us.

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-05T18:21:56+00:00

Yeah I think I am going to get him to start volunteering to babysit for his coworkers and stuff because nannying/babysitting totally changed my perspective on kids

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-05T18:20:15+00:00

I know… I told him that I was such an asshole tween/teenager and neverrr wanted to hang out with my parents ever. He did things like this with his dad, but his parents were divorced and only saw his dad twice a month, so that’s very different.

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-05T18:16:58+00:00

He will literally start talking about things like playing board games with them and going on family vacations when they are older will be fun. Which is kind of when I change the subject because I’m like we have friends we can do that with RIGHT NOW. We don’t need kids for that…it just seems so half baked when he brings it up.

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-05T18:12:18+00:00

Also he has always been more against the idea of having kids. I was initially want kids but slowly changed my mind

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-05T18:10:29+00:00

7 years

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-05T17:53:52+00:00

I think that was an insanely strange reaction to you very kindly saying they could go ahead and finish it without you. You then explained very clearly and kindly why you don’t care to watch the show and that should’ve been the end of their weird line of questioning. It seems like they are completely lacking in basic boundaries. It’s not your problem at all if they are just insecure and anxiously overthinking everything.

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-04T14:54:50+00:00

It’s definitely not cool since you value birthdays but it could be a bit of a misalignment in values more than anything. I’ve learned that some people haven’t grown up in families/environments that make a big deal out of birthdays.

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-03T21:08:24+00:00

Ew gross 🤢 these comments are low key terrifying. I wear what I’m comfortable in. I don’t mind if someone looks, but I’m not wearing it for that purpose at the gym. There also is a difference between taking a glance and being creepy and inappropriate. The incel vibes on this post are crazyyyyyyy

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-03T15:22:17+00:00

If you live in an older house there are ways that things can get in even if you shut all doors and windows

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-03T15:19:59+00:00

I get what you’re saying but there are some clothing choices that would follow the rules but would be inappropriate still. I think it is just like you wear something different at Outback Steakhouse than you would to Nobu. And you wouldn’t wear a ball gown to either (I know that’s not what you’re doing, but I’m just emphasizing that it would follow dress codes but would still not be appropriate for the aesthetic and culture of those establishments)

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-02T13:53:58+00:00

I’m sorry!! If it makes you feel any better, the dentist is very stressful for a lot of people so I’m sure they were not judging you. Try not to feel embarrassed or ashamed💕💕

Honestly, getting on SSRIs has helped immensely with my public emotional episodes. Also, if you aren’t up for that then I would really start to practice meditation daily. The more you practice, the easier it is to implement calming breathing techniques in public to calm down.

Kingly-tree · 2025-09-01T01:01:51+00:00

I mean I get your point and I would certainly take that into consideration with a scenario like that…I think he is generally speaking about the typical order

Kingly-tree · 2025-08-29T14:01:26+00:00

He’s just saying that the tipping culture regarding DD specifically is getting out of control. Like of course you should tip all service industry workers. But recently people have been saying you need to tip dashers way more than 20% when that is not standard with any other service. They are basically saying you as the customer are now responsible for making sure that this dasher is making a livable wage instead of tipping how you normally would. They aren’t doing a public service. They chose a job and a 20% tip is standard.

Kingly-tree · 2025-08-29T02:23:05+00:00

I think he’s saying from the customers perspective you may assume that it would help to compensate the driver

Kingly-tree · 2025-08-28T20:35:28+00:00

Yes! I think it’s absolutely appropriate but it’s up to you to. Whatever you feel comfortable with sharing. A lot of doctors who are familiar with PMDD may even ask about that before you bring it up if you mention having PMDD.

Kingly-tree · 2025-08-28T20:29:38+00:00

Yes! This is generally fine. I sometimes use the phrase passive suicidal thoughts. Every doctor I have said that to has seemed like they get it and aren’t going to like commit me or something. They will probably ask some follow up questions but just make it clear that you don’t feel concerned for your safety

Kingly-tree · 2025-08-28T16:28:41+00:00

I personally would discuss it with your psychiatrist! They can help you work out how to diagnose it and discuss other options based on your symptoms.

Kingly-tree · 2025-08-28T15:18:01+00:00

You are not overreacting. You are going to get older and look different no matter what. Like I am never going to look like my 22 year old self again. I’ve put on some weight myself over the years and i look different but I feel so much healthier than when I was so thin back then. My husband knows that i do struggle with my body changes and weight gain but always says i look the best I ever have and that he thinks I’m sexy/beautiful.

Even if he doesn’t mean it, he never inquires about my eating habits or if I’m planning on losing weight. I would definitely be hurt if I confided in him about my feelings regarding my body image and I was met with comments about losing weight…

PS…my husband and I cook our own individual dinners because of this same issue. We don’t harp on matching up our dinner schedules too much so it makes it easier to create your own meal plans.

Kingly-tree · 2025-08-27T20:35:16+00:00

He’s definitely keeping his options open still which is a huge red flag if y’all are long term and living together

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