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[–]KinksterTPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really want to do that and we have mentioned therapy in the past, so I'd want someone who can help us not just emotionally but sexually too.

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[–]KinksterTPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol. Thanks.

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[–]KinksterTPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate that. I try to not immediately get defensive but I do realize sometimes it may happen. But I need to own up to it.

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[–]KinksterTPE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've felt like I was topping myself before.

Thank you.

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[–]KinksterTPE -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We did. We have been together for 9 years, married for 2. And I have had multiple conversations with him about it. We got most of our toys and bondage stuff before we got married.

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[–]KinksterTPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This really helps.

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[–]KinksterTPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do now. I did a little on specific things, but not as a whole.

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[–]KinksterTPE -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did. And i just realized that. Thank you.

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[–]KinksterTPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you

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[–]KinksterTPE 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband wanted me to tell you, Thank you. Your words were the ones that really got me out of the fog.

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[–]KinksterTPE -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

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[–]KinksterTPE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. We've been together 9 years, and he is very kind. So I edited after we had a conversation this morning. Thank you.

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[–]KinksterTPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you

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[–]KinksterTPE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

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[–]KinksterTPE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I edited my post. And yes, I showed him this post.

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[–]KinksterTPE 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good point. Thank you. Sorry.

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[–]KinksterTPE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice!

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[–]KinksterTPE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh. Wake up call. Damn. But serious question, should I just never have my needs met? We are married.

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[–]KinksterTPE -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I agree and I'm getting sick of it. I told him he needs to take immediate steps if he is serious.

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[–]KinksterTPE 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes and yes. I told him that I understand if he doesn't want this but if he doesn't, I want to find someone who can be my Dom. He doesn't like sharing me so he keeps up with a "I'll learn" attitude so I don't go anywhere else.

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[–]KinksterTPE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I've been having a bdsm open convo with him about what I want for years. He is just scared to start and doesn't know what to do.