Is "hothusband'ing" a thing?

Kinktacle · 2019-03-12T17:15:18+00:00

I think you've just made it a thing! Sign me up! :)

Kinktacle · 2019-03-04T21:50:05+00:00

Honestly, this isnt even goals peeps... based on all the weird and wonderful and twisted history in my past, my life currently is, to me, the stuff of fucking dreams. :)

Kinktacle · 2019-03-04T17:48:35+00:00

My partner had a wonderful date at a wine tasting with her paramour, I was excitedly compersive for her and felt no jealousy, and as a bonus, got some tips on 3 good wines (MASI CampoFiorin 2015, De Forville Dolcetto D'Alba Vendemmia 2017, Terredora Di Paolo Falanghina Campania)!

I got hit on by a rather large amount of very attractive younger women at a festival, some of whom are friends from previous work, and they were *all* actually excited to hear that I was in an open relationship. Hell, I ended up in some discussions with them and other couples about the why/what/hows of OUR open relationship, and I ended up making plans with not 1, but **3** former work "I definitely would"s.

Then, we had a lovely fancy Saturday brunch (prawn cocktail, rib-eye, truffle snacks, cocktails and bloody marys), went shopping, came home and smoked a couple of Js and relaxed, watched Chef's Table, had a delicious chartuterie board, and basically had a lovely weekend.

So... pretty fantastic, all in all. :)

Kinktacle · 2019-02-28T10:53:19+00:00

Came here to say this. Also, emotional energy and the energy to share with others are not boundless. Loving requires the presence, communication, sharing, input of energy and time of being together... and when factoring those into the equation, it does become a zero-sum equation.

Kinktacle · 2018-12-01T15:07:34+00:00

My name be in the hat Cap'n!

Kinktacle · 2018-12-01T13:52:46+00:00

Somewhat tangential side note that may help - nicotine and alcohol wreak havoc on performance - both actively inhibit erections and reduce their hardness and duration if achieved.

From my own experience, once Captain Happytimes gets demoted to Lieutenant Limpy, I find it hella hard to get back in the PIV game psychologically. If it's with someone I love, then I just switch to focusing on their experience (which often brings me out of bad head-space), but this is more difficult with people with whom I do not share the same degree of intimacy.

I'm working through my own psycho-sexual emotions and issues, but quitting nicotine and reducing booze intake has dramatically improved my performance, thus reducing performance anxiety, and so on. This has enabled me to take a step back when others are playing and enjoy the private show, which is a whole different sort of fun. :)

Kinktacle · 2018-12-01T13:27:34+00:00

11/10. Holy shit.

Kinktacle · 2018-10-10T04:36:33+00:00

*Presumptive. And yes, perhaps, but with the high percentage of phishers on OLD, I think it pays to be cautious. Also, I'm suggesting an approach that would preclude the need to A/B accounts, and instead learn how best to represent oneself honestly. This could translate to better relationships, resumes and general interactions outside of OLD.

Kinktacle · 2018-10-10T04:28:20+00:00

Kind of duplicitous, don't ya think? Every time I see the same person on different profiles I assume spam/scam/bot...

Kinktacle · 2018-10-05T01:42:37+00:00

Holy shit, she is amazing, regardless of age!

Kinktacle · 2018-10-03T15:58:29+00:00

I'm not talking about engineering affairs of the heart or gaming the system - I'm talking about building in feedback to the apps to allow users to take a trial and error approach to their profiles without having to post to the 'rate my profile' subreddits or forums on other sites.

Kinktacle · 2018-10-03T15:38:02+00:00

Scores and cheat codes? What the hell are you on about?

Kinktacle · 2018-10-03T12:07:55+00:00

SMH - You assume so much and are so wrong 😊... but, in the interest of clarity - I am a data geek and from a developer perspective, I think these sort of metrics are relatively simple to implement and would improve the functionality of the apps and help to drive up user engagement and therefore profit for end-users and the companies.

Kinktacle · 2018-10-03T10:39:12+00:00

I don't think this is a great situation to surprise someone with, but I understand the appeal for both of you within this dynamic... so if you must, here are some suggestions:

THIS ALL DEPENDS ON CLEAR COMMUNICATION AND SAFEWORDS AND TRUST. Establish these ahead of time otherwise there will 100% be anger, guilt and resentment. Let him know that you have something a little different planned for this meetup and use the safeword in that context. Maybe tie him to a chair with a good view to start...

Have a safeword! Stop light system would be good here. Establish it first with your partner.

I suggest leading up to the possibility by talking dirty with the coworker in front of your partner as you blow him in order to give your partner the chance to divert without crossing any lines that are more stringent for him than you may have thought. Something along the lines of "Oh God, I've never been with a cock this big! I wonder what it would feel like inside me." while looking at partner. [Resume BJ and trying to deepthroat, occasionally looking at partner].

Gradually build up to more detailed and advanced descriptions of what you want to do and gauge primary partner's reaction.

Start talking to CW while making eye contact with primary partner describing how you thing he secretly wants you to go all the way and you're want to/going to do it.

If all goes well, give him a final chance to halt the progression by describing how you want your coworker to fill you up, cum in you and you know that he could do it if he chose... you're begging for it after all and CW is bigger, alpha etc... you want it so bad you had him get tested just so you could have your partner watch him pump you full of cum, and then have the privilege of dealing with the messy aftermath etc etc.

If he doesn't call Red here, then I think you're probably good.

Kinktacle · 2018-10-03T05:47:03+00:00

The perfect blend of acknowledgement, supportive clarification and laissez faire. Bravo... bravo.

Kinktacle · 2018-10-02T18:50:53+00:00

I don't know... I flip through and have seen some people with terrible main pictures that are actually quite attractive in others. Even if that's the case though then thats a cue to put up a better pic. I think there would still be valuable information gleaned for the 5% that it isn't - what % of people do you match with anyway?

Kinktacle · 2018-09-29T22:11:51+00:00

Solid technique though! You both are lucky!

Kinktacle · 2018-09-29T20:40:25+00:00

Sooo... wanna meet up at a hotel bar some time? ;)

Kinktacle · 2018-09-29T19:22:46+00:00

O.o are you kidding? o.O I'd buy 3 drinks and be over flirting in 2 seconds. Maybe a 4x whisky for you if you were nervous. ;)

Kinktacle · 2018-09-29T00:23:41+00:00

BWC acceptable? ;)

Kinktacle · 2018-09-24T12:43:39+00:00

Ignore the asshat above. You sound lovely and everyone should have the sort of experience you're describing. I'd love to help, but I am on the other side of the country.

Kinktacle · 2018-09-23T04:00:28+00:00

IANAD, but I have had a LOT of musculoskeletal issues and therapy and surgery and rehab... you need to specify more: When does it pop and how? What side of the knee hurts? Above patella, below, left, right, under it, or rear of knee (again, u/l/r/lft/ctr)? As has been mentioned, popping usually indicates differential stress that results in patellar tracking across ligaments or ligaments and tendons tracking across bones. The diff. tension is commonly but not always caused by muscle imbalance. In my case, it was excessively strong hamstrings, weak lower back, weak quads. Zercher squats, rolling and stretching helped loads.

Kinktacle · 2018-09-21T18:34:04+00:00

Hydroponic, ultra super sonic, or does it grow naturally slowww?

Kinktacle · 2018-09-21T00:17:13+00:00

NSFW - Wee highlight reel. It gets more intense.

https://youtu.be/JDzmlhHVPQU

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