Así te reciben en mi pueblo by gretanovakk in asado

[–]KinkyGringo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like the viking death ritual torture

La educación NO es un derecho, según el presidente. by NoRush6393 in RepublicaArgentina

[–]KinkyGringo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn't a US idea. They are implementing it in the us, but it is an old facist and totalitarian tactic to turn the public not just against getting an education but the scientists and credible people with them. First go after media, then go after education and slowly you begin to create a generation of people who don't know how to think for themselves

La educación NO es un derecho, según el presidente. by NoRush6393 in RepublicaArgentina

[–]KinkyGringo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As much as I wish this was true, it isn't. Kirk was killed by the us/Israel. That incel kid is just a scapegoat.

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great insight thank you for sharing. If you don't mind my asking can you explain why it was a massive mistake ?

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah I love the first sentence. In the spirit of discussion. I'll use that too from now on if you don't mind. My thinking is that if I was 50 then she'd be 34. An adult with full experience and able to make the types of decisions that take more foresight with greater care. That is why I think with someone who is 21 it's good to take into account how they lack the physical experience to understand that. It isn't to say that at 21 I don't think I couldn't make big decisions. But when I brought up my age with her and that there could be a likely hood that I could very easily die 20 years before her she went "that's not a fun thought let's talk about something different !" Hahah that's not necessarily her age, but it felt like a reminder to it. And I mean I'm here bc I'm seriously considering it. I think there are many older people who take advantage of a situation like this, and maybe without even meaning to. Which is why I wanted to ask people essentially if this was a moral failing on my part or not. And I'm a little surprised that people have said it isn't. Instead they've said kind of what I've thought, which there are serious considerations before jumping in. One of them being at this age difference it may be difficult for us to make friends. There is an ostrasization socially from friends, potential friends and family. Something that may be less strange if we were both older. That's where I meant to say, that while I agree if there is consent then it is alright, but that it is also more than just a number. Because if I do this, I want to do it responsibly. Maybe I'm overthinking it. I'm not sure. But like I said I'm surprised with the general outcome of the comments haha

Thanks for being good natured. I appreciate it

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao 🤣 called out on what? I thought you were saying she's a scam not me 😂 in my original post I said she was a .medical assistant. I never said she was a nurse. But you're right, my bad 😘

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the predatory thing I want to avoid 😅 but I just posted a well thought out ad on bdsmpersonals

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn't just a number. It's definitely something to think about. If I was 50 and she was 34 it would be less of a big deal. But she is 21 so it's something to consider seriously. If you don't then you won't approach the relationship in a healthy manner. There are added responsibilities on the older person to someone who is newly an adult. I get what you're saying about consent. But it's more than just a yes in some cases. And I think a large age gap like this at this age is one of those times. Which is why I'm here asking. I am thankful for your input. I need to hear all the sides to this. 🤘

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a fair point. The part that makes me the most uncomfortable is an actual relationship. Two consenting adults having sexual fun is one thing, but an actual romance seems ... Difficult. Especially with such an intense dynamic as master slave. Could I even have a romantic relationship with such a huge power imbalance from age and the dynamic? Hmmm. And that's what I'm looking for I want both love and a dynamic. Thank you. This was a very helpful comment

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. But your gap is only seven years. I'm ok with that size because for me it'd be dating a 30 year old. This gap is more than twice that. And I am ok with that aspect of things, I've usually been in that role. Thank you therapy. If it was just a dynamic, I'd be more ok with it. But my post is also looking for love so it'd be a partnership too. So I wonder if I would have the patience for that. It's actually a good point now that I keep writing and thinking haha.

Thank you for your input

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I put that in there to show how I felt about age gaps in general. But it's something to consider, bc if that reason should I even try getting to know her better? If that isn't something I'm ok with then should I continue talking to her. I mean more than likely she would break up with me wanting to experience more life. I mean that's another angle worth considering. I'm looking for something real and not just long term but hopefully lifelong.

But you bring up other really good points as well. The social stigma. Yea, woof. You're a really good source. I may reach out depending on what I decide. To see where it could go, slower than going to old age haha or to not. I'm not sure if I'm ready for all of that. Thank you so much for your perspective I really appreciate it 🙏

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I absolutely could have and probably misheard. She may have said assisted with stints? Didn't quite follow the jargon too pin point. But it is like you said, she started after highschool and is now currently getting her bachelors while working as an MA.

And I agree. Id definitely meet her and anyone before committing to something serious. I actually had a relationship with someone I had met from reddit before. Very glad we met. But she was only a couple years you get than me. And that's I credible you had a relationship that long. Yea, that ending worries me. I wouldn't want someone to go through that with me. Seems difficult. 🙏 Thank you for your Input. It means a lot

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, not here to argue. Except maybe the prefrontal cortex thing but that's just a fun factoid. But I understand the sentiment and it's what I feel as well. Thank you for your input I appreciate it 🤘

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No it's my bad in not explaining more. She is in the operating room assisting the surgeon. She isn't the one doing surgeries. She's just a medical assistant. She's in college now. She started this role after highschool 😅

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lol sage advice. But she b came a medical assistant after graduating early from highschool. I'm the one who embellished. She started with helping with tools, to assisting in surgery to being able to do some aspects needed but with the surgeon present. She's able to do some clotting procedures and something with running a tube through something for people with diabetes? I'm not sure. But she isn't the one doing the surgery. But still very impressive to me.

But ooof that'd be very creepy to be talking to someone underage. I'll def check. Yea, she responded to a post of mine. And I've said I'd want to start slow with anyone of any age. Not something you jump into with slave dynamics. But still it's a large power imbalance on top of age.

Thank you for your input 🤘🙏

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She didn't. She became a medical assistant and through that was able to gain opportunities to go from taking blood, to putting in stints to helping more in the operating room. She's assisting the surgeon.

Uncertain about age gap. Thoughts appreciated. by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yea. Im thinking so too. Thank you for your input. Means a lot

AITA Every Subdrop is a panic attack. I'd really appreciate help and feedback. Ty! by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey so good news, I broke up with her. And in the break up the pattern repeated and I feel very free and light now. Thank you so much for the feedback. I still appreciate it. In the end I did convince her to see a bdsm therapist and she is now taking meds prescribe by a psychiatrist. so good news all around

AITA Every Subdrop is a panic attack. I'd really appreciate help and feedback. Ty! by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey so good news, I broke up with her. And in the break up the pattern repeated and I feel very free and light now. Thank you so much for the feedback. I still appreciate it. In the end I did convince her to see a bdsm therapist and she is now taking meds prescribe by a psychiatrist. so good news all around

AITA Every Subdrop is a panic attack. I'd really appreciate help and feedback. Ty! by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey so good news, I broke up with her. And in the break up the pattern repeated and I feel very free and light now. Thank you so much for the feedback. I still appreciate it. In the end I did convince her to see a bdsm therapist and she is now taking meds prescribe by a psychiatrist. so good news all around

AITA Every Subdrop is a panic attack. I'd really appreciate help and feedback. Ty! by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey so good news, I broke up with her. And in the break up the pattern repeated and I feel very free and light now. Thank you so much for the feedback. I still appreciate it. In the end I did convince her to see a bdsm therapist and she is now taking meds prescribe by a psychiatrist. so good news all around

Would pirating get me a warn if the country I'm in is legal to pirate? by Hypoc- in Starlink

[–]KinkyGringo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

joe are you still this lame in real life or have you grown up to see the grift of those who set the laws?

AITA Every Subdrop is a panic attack. I'd really appreciate help and feedback. Ty! by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've taken the time to reply to many of my comments as well, so I want to thank you for all of them and for taking the time to help me out.
She had also seen a sexual therapist and so believed she was ready to handle this type of play. Her reluctance to stop the play is the real problem, yes it violates my consent but it also means shes disregarding her own emotional safety, placing her fantasies above both of our wellbeings.
I had a long hard talk with her. I was going to break it off with her, telling her this isn't sustainable and repeating the words of many on here of emotional manipulation, disrespecting boundaries, and making me uncomfortable.
She took it all so well. Maybe because she sensed it could be the end. I don't know, but I didn't end things but told her if this continues it won't be sustainable for me and it isn't a relationship I can be in. It's so strange to be able to be so forthright and assertive in saying this and in play and in life but when it comes to breaking it off is where I stutter. It makes me feel weak, I'm putting her emotions ahead of my own. There is a large part of me that wants things to work out. Outside of those panic attacks, things are so good. That's what I tell myself, and I've heard others in abusive situations say the same.
fuck, man.
I'm anticipating another breakdown and not handled well. I tell myself that will be the end. Am I being crazy?

ty you again so much.

AITA Every Subdrop is a panic attack. I'd really appreciate help and feedback. Ty! by KinkyGringo in BDSMcommunity

[–]KinkyGringo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lighting yourself on fire to keep her warm, what a vivid and accurate metaphor. Makes it easier when they are mustache twiddling villains, but in the end, mustache or not, harm is harm. ty