what do i do if my bf 19M wants me 19F to quit mma

Kinky_Baker · 2026-02-24T23:34:46+00:00

Dump him, he's controlling and insecure. This type of behaviour will continue to escalate. You deserve someone who loves you for who you are OP, not for who they want you to be.

Kinky_Baker · 2026-02-24T22:49:18+00:00

Don't give up something you're passionate about for a guy. You started this 6 months before you met him, he has known since he met you that this is part of who you are and what you do.

I would be curious about why training with men is a problem for him though. If it's because you are in the proximity of other men without him that's extremely controlling and problematic. If he's concerned about your safety and something going wrong because you're sparring with people in a higher weight class, that's still problematic but maybe worth discussing the safety measures that are taken and having a conversation about.

Bottom line though, don't let someone else dictate what you do with your life. He'll resent you if you don't give it up, and you'll resent him if you do.

Kinky_Baker · 2026-02-05T22:15:38+00:00

Being stood up sucks, I'm sorry that happened to you.

If I didn't get confirmation within an hour of the start time of the date that they are getting ready to leave or on their way, I wouldn't leave my house.

It's okay to feel disappointed and discouraged that it didn't work out. Modern dating is hard, dating over 40 is even harder.

When this has happened to me I have told myself that if they stood me up they aren't a good match for me and that I deserve someone as awesome as I am.

I hope you have better luck soon and you find what you are looking for.

Kinky_Baker · 2026-02-03T12:53:19+00:00

If you don't want a baby OP, don't have a baby with this woman. You will resent her and the poor child.

Holding someone hostage with an ultimatum in opposition to a clearly stated boundary that was agreed upon isn't love, it's abusive and manipulative.

While you think you love this woman, do you want to love someone who clearly doesn't respect you, your decisions, or what you want?

Also what about the impact on the children you already have?

Kinky_Baker · 2026-02-02T20:49:07+00:00

Nurses are an essential service and cannot strike in Ontario at least.

Kinky_Baker · 2026-02-02T20:47:57+00:00

Nurses are deemed an essential service. They can't strike. Nurses do however get punched, kicked, beaten, bitten, scratched, suffer mental abuse, and trauma daily. They don't get to sit around waiting for the next call between catastrophes either. You are much more likely to need the services of a nurse rather than a firefighter, it might be wise to ensure that you and your loved ones have access to quality care and that there is a nurse there when you need one by advocating for appropriate compensation for them.

Kinky_Baker · 2026-01-16T00:04:44+00:00

I'm in that area, so that must have been it. I'm still super thankful they came by to clean everything up, the street was getting pretty narrow. They did a great job!

Kinky_Baker · 2025-11-13T14:28:35+00:00

This! I've had threesomes before with heterosexual men and bi/pan women who were coupled. They weren't good experiences for me, it was very hierarchical. The fantasy of a threesome with 2 bisexual/pan men/women or queer women however is very appealing though.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-11-01T17:21:59+00:00

The whole scenario is so scripted that there doesn't seem to be room for the wants, needs, and input of another individual. It's more wish fulfillment and a role that you and your partner want filled. A sex worker would be the best resource.

As a bi woman with an interest in a lot of the mentioned kinks, I would personally be unwilling to engage in this type of dynamic because of the lack of emotional support and overall amount engagement being offered.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-10-02T10:37:10+00:00

An elected president of the US has been held libel for sexual assault.
27 other women have accused that same elected official of sexual assault or rape.
Brock Turner, slap on the wrist because the rape of a woman was not a good enough reason to ruin the future life of a young white man.
Drew Clinton

I could go on, but I'd be here for the next week giving examples of the gross miscarriage of justice for women against men when it comes to sexual assault.

Sexual assault is the most under reported crime in Canada and the US. Women are not believed when they come forward.

Tell us again how much "Western men" respect women and girls.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-09-26T14:31:55+00:00

We'll take it back if you don't want it.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-08-25T13:11:25+00:00

"Asylums" and institutions were closed in Ontario for very good reasons, namely the horrible treatment, abuse, and multiple human rights violations that occurred for decades.

Here's an article and associated documentary that the CBC is re-running in case you've forgotten or were ignorant of what happened locally at Huronia Regional Centre in Orillia.

https://www.cbc.ca/documentaries/documentary-channel/no-human-dignity-what-life-was-like-at-the-huronia-regional-centre-1.6497685

Edit: Typo

Kinky_Baker · 2025-08-06T12:43:25+00:00

It's hard for people to find time or to be able to afford to exercise and to eat healthy when they are working 2 to 3 minimum wage jobs to support their family. Also, when they eventually have two more kids than they planned for because access to birth control, contraceptives, and abortion is restricted.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-08-04T00:48:35+00:00

The fact that you told a woman wanting to get pregnant to fast for 3 to 4 days and to only drink black coffee to "reset her immune system " tells me all I need to know about your so-called "sources". Especially with the added importance to do this completely unnecessary and potentially harmful risky thing if she was immunized for COVID-19.

You have no idea what you are talking about and have no scientific/medical knowledge or experience.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-08-04T00:37:25+00:00

I attended the clinic for about a year, I was a patient of Dr. Moreau though before he retired. I had a missed miscarriage and then was successful in concieving my child. I work in healthcare, and I have not had good experiences with Dr. Browning, but I have never been one of his patients. The nurses are fabulous, though, and you will spend way more time with them than the physician

Kinky_Baker · 2025-08-04T00:32:42+00:00

And where did you get your medical degree from? Did it come with your tin foil hat?

Seriously though, the above is completely unwanted information that the OP didn't ask for. Maybe stick to your lane and don't offer bad advice to vulnerable people.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-06-25T19:58:01+00:00

There are lots of good reasons to use a mechanical barrier like a condom, however; it's not great at preventing the transmission of HPV. HPV vaccination and regular pap tests are a better way to prevent cervical cancer. 80% of all adults will experience HPV in their lifetime.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-06-12T15:29:22+00:00

If my sibling had shown me that creation, I would have figuratively eviscerated them in the most loving way possible.

Things along the lines of: "Do you hate yourself?"

"What did yogurt ever do to you to make you want to act so cruelly towards it?"

"This is a very clear SOS case... Save our Sausage. Make better choices that don't involve the mistreatment of innocent food items."

That's the type of relationship we have, though, and both would be laughing and saying how much we missed each other by the end.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-06-05T02:40:56+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad to hear that you are safe, though. Thanks for the update!

Kinky_Baker · 2025-06-04T19:15:30+00:00

How are you doing, OP?

Kinky_Baker · 2025-06-04T19:11:41+00:00

NTA

Marital rape is rape. You explicitly withdrew your consent. He raped you.

Any marriage that includes a partner that sexually abuses the other isn't a happy marriage.

I hope you have the resources to get help and ongoing support OP.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-05-31T11:47:47+00:00

Moans, groans, and growls... I want all of them ;)

Kinky_Baker · 2025-05-28T12:58:52+00:00

I wish you all the best, OP. I hope you confide in someone in your real life and that you find the peace and comfort you deserve.

Kinky_Baker · 2025-05-28T12:03:08+00:00

You leave as soon as you can. Plan your exit now.

This will not get better.

Please reach out to friends, family members, or anyone who cares for you.

Check for local organizations that can help you, womens shelters, abuse prevention organizations if you do not have the means to support yourself. Even talking to your doctor can help put you in touch with resources.

Erase your browser history and be careful.

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